how to get her feelings back

[nycity2]

I went out with my exgirlfriend for not very long. I screwed up by not spending enough time with her while we were together. This caused her to think I didn't care about her and she ended up losing interest. By the time I understood what I had done, it had already damaged the relationship and I did everything I could to fix it before she left for a trip. She ended up ignoring me during her entire trip. Losing her for this time caused me to realize how much she means to me and what I had done wrong.

 

When she came back from her trip, she said she lost her feelings for me. I blame myself for this and have done everything I can for her recently to get her back, but she hasn't been the same person. She isn't happy like she used to be and she says she doesn't want to think about a relationship now.

 

I asked her how to get her feelings back and she told me not to care so much. After this, there was one week where I stopped calling her and she called me everyday and sometimes I'd ignore her or just sound uninterested. The more I did this, the nicer she was to me. She actually acted more like my girlfriend when I acted like I didn't care.

 

But I ended up giving in after a week of not calling her and tried spending more time with her because I missed her. Sometimes, she would be too busy or I would have to convince her to see me. We agreed to spend more time together to see if she'd get her feelings back. I told her that I would wait for her to be ready to be in a relationship again and she said she appreciated everything I was doing for her and saw that I had changed for her. But we kept having the same arguments because I've wanted to be with her so bad and she doesn't want it right now. I think I've made some mistakes like telling her things that have put her in complete control of this situation and me.

 

The last time we talked, we got in an argument, and she said we need to end what we have. She said she thinks its best for us not to talk for a while, and be friends in time. I think I made another mistake by trying to see her in person and then writing to her and telling her how I feel after this.

 

Is there anything I can do at this point to get her feelings back? I'm afraid that if we go a while without talking again, then history will repeat itself. What are my best chances of getting back with her, ignoring her if she ever calls me again, or trying to be friends in hope that she will get her feelings back in time? The no calling thing seemed like it was working for a bit, but that was a while ago and I don't think it will work this time because she's made the decision to not talk.