nostalgia Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Ok. So I have a bit of a problem. I'm 17 and a junior in high school. I haven't had a real boyfriend yet, just a couple of little elementary school "relationships". Going into high school, I decided that I didn't need that and I didn't need friends. I was going through some problems being that I'd just moved and it seemed like everyone left me. So I was really shy up until about mid way into my sophomore year. That's when I discovered him. He's everything I've ever dreamed of. He's sweet, he's cute in his own way, he's funny, and he doesn't even seem like a perv. The problem is that we've never really talked and the only way he remembers me is as a geek from his sophomore year English class. He's popular and a lot of his friends are serious bastards. He doesn't seem to be, but we're in such different universes that even though we have a lot in common, it's hard. And I can't get over these feelings. Every time I see him, my heart jumps a little. I've liked him for a little over a year now, and I don't know what to do. I can't just walk up and say "hi" to him without seeming strange. I can't forget about him. It's driving me crazy. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
l-o-s-t Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 I must not be as "lost" as I thought... It seems every day I find more people on here with problems just like mine. I'm in the same boat as you, right down to having moved to a new school. Only difference is I'm a guy... Now, what I've been doing is doing a little "research" if you will - reading body language. It's a great way to get some kind of insight on what the other person is thinking. Make eye contact, and if he holds it, smile. If he smiles back, that ought to tip you off as to his feelings. at this point, you should be riding a wicked surge of adrenaline, and you'll probably be able to walk over there and say "hi" without thinking twice. However, if you do find yourself doubting yourself, remember this: guys are almost always expected to make the first move. He should appreciate not having to suffer through the very same anxiety you are experiencing, and will most likely be friendly to this. Unless he's the type that's crawling with girls, I'd think he'd be quite happy you're talking to him. You'll never know until you try. It's ALWAYS going to seem awkward to approach someone, but in reality, you just have to do it. Now if only I could practice what I preach... Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 Start out slow. Be a little flirtatious with him (eye contact helps, flash him a smile or something), then find a reason to talk to him. Doesn't have to be major - can be about a class-related issue such as homework you 'need help with'. Once you start talking to him, crank up the flirtation and show him you like him. And just take it from there. Let your heart lead you - it might break from time to time, but it knows where it's going and won't do you wrong in the end. If he really means something to you after you get to know him, stick with it. He could be shy also (with girls) and might take a while to understand whats happening. And do it now - before its too late. Just trust your instincts, but don't overreact to anything. I learned my lessons there - all too well. Link to post Share on other sites
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