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This may sound stupid-- but personally I got really upset about it. The other night my boyfriend and i were supposed to hang out with 1 other couple. We went out to dinner first and as we were leaving his friend called him and asked him was he was doing. keep in mind they are back in town from college for spring break-- but my boyfriend blatently invited him and another guy over to an apartment that is NOT HIS! It was already late and the owner of the apt. had to wake up early. WHen the apt. owner found out these other (loud drunken) kids were coming over he was pissed too.

 

I kind of overreacted and was crying a lot that night in the other room-- but my boyfriend was so rude to me telling me to grow up which only made me cry harder, and then continued to say he would quote, "not apologize for it because it's nothing to freak out about"

 

my point to him is i dont care if he wants to hang out with friends too but a simple "hey would you mind.." would be nice instead of him just being selfish and doing what he wants. Funny thing is this is not the very first time he has done that. What the heck? Am I being rediculous or do I have a good point, and should he be apologizing instead of still being rude??

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littlepiggy1

It does sound pretty inconsiderate of your b/f, but I'm wondering whose apartment was he inviting them to? I can't fathom inviting people to someone else's apartment, without at least checking with the owner first.

 

Not to mention he was pretty damned rude to you to, from the sounds of it...

 

That said, I was in a situation where I showed up unexpectedly to a friend's house. I'd had an extremely bad day (big argument with g/f, plus nearly got in a fistfight with my father) and I had nowhere to go. I just needed someone to talk to, so I showed up at his place and asked if he had an hour or so. We went to a pub right by his apartment and basically hung for an hour-and-a-half. I found out that apparently the whole time we were gone, his live-in g/f was crying her eyes out. She was apparently extremely upset that he had gone and hung out with me for that time. Keep in mind that I only did this because I'd had a really ****ty day and just needed to lean on a friend for some support.

 

Anyway, that's a little bit of what your crying in the other room reminded me of, although the situations aren't quite that comparable I guess.

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Spoonandfork22

the person he is being rude to is the aprtment he invited these kids over to. that is rude. if plans are already made w. other people, especially your gf, you dont invite tag-a-longs.

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