Guest Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 A female coworker of mine was sitting next to our boss at a table at a meeting and was gently drumming her fingers on the table. Our boss rested his hand on hers to make her stop, while saying something to her I couldn't make out. They are not friends to the best of my knowledge. She appeared to take it in stride, smiling while talking to him. A moment later, I watched him placing his hand close to her while drumming his fingers, obviously hoping for her to reciprocate, ostensibly as some kind of cute joke. She did not, but I'm not sure if she noticed his hand there. He removed his hand a short time later. Ladies, would you consider this appropriate behaviour on his part? Can you give me insight into what my coworker may have thought about this? They are both married and about the same age. And yes, as you can probably guess, I am a male with some issues regarding these two. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I'll say you have some issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Unless this impacts on you, why are you concerned about what others do in the workplace? Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Finger drumming is often better than sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
VirtualInsanity Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Sounds like there's some behind the scenes going on or someone's trying too. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 In plain sight!? And nobody did anything?!? Link to post Share on other sites
GoldPenny Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 What is inappropriate about that in terms of your implication of sexual harrassment? A male student whom I don't know or talk to outside of class subjects fixed my shirt around the collar and it was unsolicited as we were talking about something else, and a female teacher did the same on another day. I thought nothing of it. Especially if the room or one of you was occupied with separate matters, something as simple as toe tapping or a disheveld shirt may often be fixed by another person's hands just because of the circumstances. The second part where he put his hand close to hers to "mock" her is also most definitely akin to a teacher chewing like a cow in exaggeration of a student rudely chewing gum. I can see how some people *regardless* of it being sexual or not don't like any kind of touching from business partners other than by invitation, i.e. handshake. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
chryssy83 Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 Ummm...what are your "issues regarding these two?" Did you witness something else or are you wanting her for yourself or do you just hate them? What is it?? Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 maybe they are a couple... but if it did not bother her unless it was obvious groping, or an unwanted comment, I think that you should let it go. Do you have feeling for this man and is it a jealousy thing? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 it is a bit frustrating when a guest asks for advice and doesn't return to respond or give an update. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 I think the office is the least appropriate place of all to have intimate interactions. I instantly lose respect for people who cannot keep their private lives private and display them where I'm trapped at the office and cannot avoid seeing it. Not only that but I am obligated to keep my own professional demeanor, in the presence of these people who cannot control themselves. I don't mind if they date, but I don't want to have to witness the depths of their affection while I'm trying to get work done. It isn't wrong for the boss to have a crush on someone. And it's not wrong for the someone to have a crush on the boss. It's not wrong for them to get together and try to establish a relationship. But it is invasive and disrespectful for them not to leave it at the door when they come to work. Link to post Share on other sites
Starry-eyed Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 Hope you don't mind my jumping in: Guest, if this doesn't happen all the time, it's probably no big deal. Unless the woman expresses her desire for it to stop, you should probably let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted March 20, 2007 Share Posted March 20, 2007 guest ur boss didnt go far enough, if some woman co-worker of mine was tapping her fingers around while i tried to talk I'd imeadetly give her a purple nurple and then Id tell her she needs to start dressing a little sexier around the office if she wants people to put up with her bitchy period finger tapping fits... and that would be no where close to crossing the figurtive proffesional line Link to post Share on other sites
Kittiecat Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I think the office is the least appropriate place of all to have intimate interactions. I instantly lose respect for people who cannot keep their private lives private and display them where I'm trapped at the office and cannot avoid seeing it. Not only that but I am obligated to keep my own professional demeanor, in the presence of these people who cannot control themselves. I don't mind if they date, but I don't want to have to witness the depths of their affection while I'm trying to get work done. It isn't wrong for the boss to have a crush on someone. And it's not wrong for the someone to have a crush on the boss. It's not wrong for them to get together and try to establish a relationship. But it is invasive and disrespectful for them not to leave it at the door when they come to work. Agreed. I work with a couple who met at work. He was insanely into her and I knew all about it -- but you would never know it by how he conducted himself from 9-5. It took the longest time for him to admit that they were even dating. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Damn right! Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Shouldn't that be damn straight?? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Guest, you sound like this nightmare-intrigue-maker who will ruin people's lives basing on stories he made up and interpreted freely in his own head. I just can't believe the type of profile who would waste time of his life to type about how his boss and co-worker tapped fingers. Your idle mind will engage in such idiotic details to create a fascinating story about a work affair between two married people, who might be completely innocent. I don't know if they are having an affair (that's quite possible), but you're at the bottom of human productiveness for spinning a net around these two people. I constantly see people with families and jobs neglecting the ones they should love and engaging themselevs in mindless gossip. :sick: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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