alphamale Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 I bought my daughter a pretty ceramic plaque for her 8th birthday that reads: "if the princess ain't happy ain't nobody happy" wonderful! can't wait to see how she turns out Link to post Share on other sites
ruby_gloom Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 I rarely give out my phone number to people because I just generally don't enjoy being called on the phone over and over and over again, and for no apparent reason; it bugs me. That said, I'll only give my phone number out if I have to (school or work or something of the sort) or if people ask for it and I'm comfortable with them. But there was one exception: I once met a guy over the internet. He was interested. I was interested. Yet communication was slow on his end because of technical problems, and I was getting annoyed at the situation. I decided to give him my phone number after some email exhanges--which took like 3 weeks or so. I was straightforward with him and told him waiting for more than a week for an email was not working out for me. I told him I was still interested, though, and that because of that I'd give him my number. So, I did. He called within some days and seemed genuinely happy. He said he was surprised to see my phone number in my last email, and that he thought it was very "cool" of me to be upfront with things. We've been talking ever since, and I honestly do not think he thinks of me as being overpowering or "too strong" or anything. Doing so was really uncharacteristic of me, but if I hadn't we'd still be in the 3rd email. Sometimes I figure you just have to take a chance to get what you want. I did, and so far it's been good. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 What if you made up a reason to call him. Even if he didn't believe it, it might help you get past this point. Like, "Someone left some keys the other day, and I thought they might be yours." Even if it is totally transparent, it gives you something to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 9, 2007 Author Share Posted March 9, 2007 What if you made up a reason to call him. Even if he didn't believe it, it might help you get past this point. Like, "Someone left some keys the other day, and I thought they might be yours." Even if it is totally transparent, it gives you something to say. You sound exactly like one of my coworkers! Wonderful advice from everyone!! I feel so inspired, but I learned along time ago to not live with my head in the clouds. Stay grounded. I've decided to give him a few weeks, and see if he finds his way back to me. He knows where to find me. Come on. He's a driven, motivated man. Besides, I... don't know where to find him. don't have the luxury of just showing up at his work. don't know his phone number. don't know where he lives. didn't even know his name, until I saw his driver's license. Realistically, I would look like a complete wack-job, if I got his phone number second-hand and called his house. It's only been a day since he came in last. I need to just chilax and give it more time. I mean, hey! I am worth the trouble, right? Why should I do all the leg work here? All I'm saying is his ass BETTER COME BACK!! He's got to know I was interested. If my receptionist noticed me getting flustered, he did too. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Why should I do all the leg work here? He came into your store twice. What have you done? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Should you ever offer a guy your phone number, even if they didn't ask for it? Would it make the woman appear over-aggressive. Would it spoil the thrill of the chase? If you get that vibe from a guy that they are interested, is it ok to just offer your phone number to them to help them along? I guess I know some women that would do that...and I don't know how they are perceived by the guy. I'm thinking, if they are interested...they'd would just ask. Right? If you know for a fact that he is interested, but he is just a little too shy, then I say that its ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 He came into your store twice. What have you done? Oh, Tan. You have a very strong point. If you know for a fact that he is interested, but he is just a little too shy, then I say that its ok. Well, I got some thinking to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Oh, Tan. You have a very strong point. Well, I got some thinking to do. Just coming into the store is only half the battle. He should have at least tried to conversate with you. Just the fact that he has come into the store twice is enough proff that he is interested. Go for it Luv. Give him your number. Back in the day when I was super shy, I would have jumped for joy had a female given me her number. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 Just coming into the store is only half the battle. He should have at least tried to conversate with you. Just the fact that he has come into the store twice is enough proff that he is interested. Go for it Luv. Give him your number. Back in the day when I was super shy, I would have jumped for joy had a female given me her number. We didn't have enough time to converse. My work can be a busy place. When he came in the second time, I made sure to tell him that I recognized him from the other day. Asked him if his purchase the other day worked out for him. Then, I got a phone call...then, "grandma" came in to buy something. She got to talk to him, not me. I was off making his copy for him. When 'grandma' left, we just started to talk...and the phone rang. Grrrrrrr!!! He then left. I mean he was there for a while, but couldn't find anytime to talk to me...or find any privacy. Maybe, I am reading too much into all this. Maybe, he just needed a copy made. I don't know if I am going to be able to let this go. I can't stop thinking about him!! That is SOOOOO not like me. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 We didn't have enough time to converse. My work can be a busy place. When he came in the second time, I made sure to tell him that I recognized him from the other day. Asked him if his purchase the other day worked out for him. Then, I got a phone call...then, "grandma" came in to buy something. She got to talk to him, not me. I was off making his copy for him. When 'grandma' left, we just started to talk...and the phone rang. Grrrrrrr!!! He then left. I mean he was there for a while, but couldn't find anytime to talk to me...or find any privacy. Maybe, I am reading too much into all this. Maybe, he just needed a copy made. I don't know if I am going to be able to let this go. I can't stop thinking about him!! That is SOOOOO not like me. Whether or not he is interested, I think that you should still go for it. That shows your confidence and having confidence is a huge plus. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 LUVTOTO....this is a classic case of paralysis by analysis Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 LUVTOTO....this is a classic case of paralysis by analysis I know. So, should I have my coworker (the guy that went to school with him) call him, or should I call him? I know, I know...what is this highschool? I must call him. ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 I know. So, should I have my coworker (the guy that went to school with him) call him, or should I call him? ahh just have a couple glasses of wine and give him a call...WTF Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 ahh just have a couple glasses of wine and give him a call...WTF EXACTLY. If he's not interested, f**k it. What does it matter? Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 ahh just have a couple glasses of wine and give him a call...WTF EXACTLY. If he's not interested, f**k it. What does it matter? I don't have his phone number yet. I will have to talk with my coworker about that on Monday. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 I don't have his phone number yet. I will have to talk with my coworker about that on Monday. god i'm gonna come over there and ring your neck Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 god i'm gonna come over there and ring your neck Do you wanna call him for me?? :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Do you wanna call him for me?? :laugh: nope...but if you procure an email I can send him a note regarding the situation at hand Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 nope...but if you procure an email I can send him a note regarding the situation at hand At this point, I am still trying to procure a phone number! Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 nope...but if you procure an email I can send him a note regarding the situation at hand "Alpha's Online Matchmaking Service--He'll nail you a date!" Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Should you ever offer a guy your phone number, even if they didn't ask for it? Would it make the woman appear over-aggressive. Would it spoil the thrill of the chase? If you get that vibe from a guy that they are interested, is it ok to just offer your phone number to them to help them along? I guess I know some women that would do that...and I don't know how they are perceived by the guy. Rules? You mean there are rules for when to feel like you enjoy someone's companionship? A phone number is merely a media datum that makes it possible to see someone more than once. As a guy, I sure as hell wouldn't mind it. I'm thinking, if they are interested...they'd would just ask. Maybe. Just remember that this sort of talk is a game six billion people can play. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 . As a guy, I sure as hell wouldn't mind it. as long as it's someone you are interested in... Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 as long as it's someone you are interested in... Definitely, but I wouldn't consider it somehow inappropriate or repulsive if it was someone I wasn't quite that much interested in. What's the harm in sharing contact information in good faith? Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Should you ever offer a guy your phone number, even if they didn't ask for it? Would it make the woman appear over-aggressive. Would it spoil the thrill of the chase? If you get that vibe from a guy that they are interested, is it ok to just offer your phone number to them to help them along? I guess I know some women that would do that...and I don't know how they are perceived by the guy. I'm thinking, if they are interested...they'd would just ask. Right? If they are interested they'll ask - I have never offered. Sometimes depending on the tone of the conversation I have been more encouraging (I know I can be somewhat intimidating). But I still make them ask. The guy that lean toward the shy side seem to get kind of an ego boost from asking and getting the number as well. I'd never offer. It looks desperate and too interested in this guy who I don't really know. To me - if they snooze they lose. On to the next. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 this is a classic case of paralysis by analysis LOVE THAT! Well Luvtoto - There are ways to clue a guy in to the fact that you are interested. You can be quite blatant without having to do all of the work. If you know anything at all about him - you can bring up those things. Ask about him - questions that he'll have an easy time talking about. You've done this before right? - Even the silences are opportunity. Sometimes a look can say 1000 words. Use the "Little Sly Smile" when you make eye contact and then look away - Just make the most of the times when you see him Link to post Share on other sites
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