Guest Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 I have cheated on my fiance 6 times. The 1st was with a girl I was dating at the same time, I had sex with her. The other girl I was dating at the same time was in California, I had already planned to fly out prior to my fiance and I dating. I went out there made out with her and broke up. I came back and my fiance went to college in another state. I told her all about my mistakes. I then cheated on her after she came back, never when she was away. felt up a girl when I was high and kissed a friend of nine years. I then went to work in another town and let a girl from there go down on me. I then felt up the friend of nine years when I was drunk 2 months ago. We stayed together through it all...she has been going to lunch with a guy I know from work and they went on Monay when I was out of town, I talked to her earlier that day and told her I would call her around 4. I did and she did not answer for 2 hours. I called her mother, best friend, and work to see if they knew anything. She still had her phone still on silent from school. I was angry and worried, mostly worried. I had car trouble and was supposed to be back on wed. I did not get back until Thurs. and we got into an argument on the phone. When I got back she said she did not trust ne and I obviously did not trust her and she has ended our relationship. Please let me know what, if anything, I can do to get us back together. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Sometimes, it is better to just cut your losses and make a break. Some baggage is to heavy to carry through a relationship. I think there is far too much pain, sadness, and distrust in this relationship to try to salvage what is left. I hate to say it, but I think she did the right thing, and I hope in time you see this too. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 You should move on and let her move on - if you care about her at all - you should just let go completely and not even try to get back together. You have got a lot to get straight in your own head and that takes time. You behaved terribly and she put up with it - sacrificing herself and her self-respect for your relationship and you made the same HORRIBLE choice again and again and again and again and again. Get real guy. Get your head on straight and leave this poor girl alone. She deserves better and the rebuilding you'd have to do - it'd be forever and it wouldn't ever be fixed. Let her go and quit being so selfish. That's your first step. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 You two are not suited for eachother. You definately are NOT ready for marriage either due to your cheating habits, not once, not twice but SIX times??? Atleast now you can be with as many women as you want without being in a serious relationship, and your ex fiance can find a man who will love her and not cheat on her. Get some help if you want to stop your cheating ways. If you don't, you'll always find a way to cheat on the one you love (in the future if you ever do marry) and hurt many people. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 At first I thought this was going to be a girl's post, but I was pleasantly surprised to find it's a guy. You're a stud old man. I can't say that I'm not envious. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 You're envious of a guy who feels the need to be selfish and cheat on his 'future wife' 6 times? And then sit there, worried and accuse HER of cheating on him because she isn't available when he tries to call her? He doesn't trust her because he has cheated so many times!! He's reflecting his own guilt and mistrust onto her! Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 You're envious of a guy who feels the need to be selfish and cheat on his 'future wife' 6 times? And then sit there, worried and accuse HER of cheating on him because she isn't available when he tries to call her? He doesn't trust her because he has cheated so many times!! He's reflecting his own guilt and mistrust onto her!In the interest of brevity i'll just answer your query with yes. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 In the interest of brevity i'll just answer your query with yes. You're funny. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Sounds like neither you nor her are ready for a commited serious relationship. But it's you for the most part that's not ready, if you are then why would you make the same mistake over and over again. I could probably understand once, maybe twice, but 6 times. I think you don't really understand what love means, you're confuse. Maybe what you were feeling is clingyness and attachment but not commited love. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 I was dating 2 other girls at the beginning of the relationship 2 of those are from that...I told her about it, I had sex with one and the other I made out with. Three of these instances happened with a girl I have known since grade school; I kissed her once, and felt her up on 2 seperate occassions 1 of which I was drunk. The woorst one was when I was working out of town and allowed a girl I met there to go down on me. I know I need to get straight in my head. I have been trying to let her go...I can see in everything I do how BAD I was to her. I know that I do Love her and I know that if given another chance I would not be lazy and allow things of like this to happen. I feel horrible and regret what I did. I want us to be happy together...some may say it is selfish but I know I can be good for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 I know that I do Love her and I know that if given another chance I would not be lazy and allow things of like this to happen. I feel horrible and regret what I did. I want us to be happy together...some may say it is selfish but I know I can be good for her. Serial cheating isn't about being lazy. It's about having serious character flaws that must be dealt with before being able to be a decent mate to anyone. You are not ready to marry her or anyone else at this point, imo. Until you make some serious progress on fixing yourself you need to stay away from that girl or chances are you'll fall back into the same pattern after awhile and hurt her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Greggie Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Go ahead people and brag some more. It looks like you are having too much fun to be sincrely thinking of a change. Link to post Share on other sites
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