alexa137 Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces-- now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night! basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck. You also have desperate men with money to burn who want attention from young pretty females. Its basically a business arrangement. The women pretend they like the guys and then empty their wallets fairly quickly. Its a total scam. You should take a girlfriend to one and pretend you're lesbians. Make sure you take a lot of $1 and $10 bills also. Have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted March 11, 2007 Author Share Posted March 11, 2007 but do they really walk around and put thier pussies in front of your face?? i will go when i get the chance so i know! Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces-- now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night! Do you think it's cheating? Some people think it is and some don't. Does he think going to one is okay? Google strip clubs and read what comes up if you can't visit one. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 but do they really walk around and put thier pussies in front of your face?? Only if you give them $20 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces-- now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night! I don't consider it as cheating, but thats just my opinion. I also don't consider the guy getting a lapdance cheating, many will probably disagree with me. If on the other hand your guy asks for their phone number and takes them out on a date ect then yes that is considered cheating in my books. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I don't consider it as cheating, but thats just my opinion. I also don't consider the guy getting a lapdance cheating, many will probably disagree with me. If on the other hand your guy asks for their phone number and takes them out on a date ect then yes that is considered cheating in my books. I would tend to agree BES Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 does going to a be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces-- now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldn't pay for a e but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a --i might have to visit one night! I do consider it cheating. When my H and first got M, I knew it went on w/ business assoc., etc, but had no idea what really went on in some of the really upscale; if there is such a thing, "gentleman's clubs". He would travel extensively w/ very wealthy colleagues and they would go to these places. I only overheard some comments here and there at work functions, etc., so I knew they were going. I just thought it was sitting at a table, drinking excessively, mabey putting some money in their G string? I found out after all of my H's cheating did come out, that there were lap dances in private rooms...So...I do not consider it cheating if it's done the way it was done in my head years ago, but I DO consider whatever goes on behind closed doors in a "lap" dance, to be cheating! Hope that helps... Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces-- now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night! It is considered cheating in my relationship. If someone is going to be naked on top of my man it better be me. Some people are ok with this however. Just make sure your partner shares your beliefs. Link to post Share on other sites
Darla Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Yea I think its cheating, flirting and being physically that close or having intentions and lust towards somoeone other than partner to me is just wrong. It happens naturally, but when u act on it, go to strip clubs, watch porn, grab a girls ass, whistle at her or whatever, even a girl doing that is just bad for the relationship I think -Darla Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I don't think it's cheating, but more of a popular form of entertainment for men (and women). Customers at strip clubs aren't allowed to really touch the dancers or get handsy with them,etc. It's arousing and some couples enjoy it together in order to spice up their own private sex life. I've been to strip clubs with boyfriends before, and its no big deal. The dancers are just making money and the guys get to watch them dance. That's it. Unless like someone already mentioned here, the business relationship becomes more personal, and the guy exchanges phone # with the dancers, it isn't cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Mythical Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I can't beleive so many ppl think this is considered cheating....I guess husbands/boyfriends somewhat are starting to have reasons to lie and be sneaky. It's just the way lifeis and I guess ppl want to live in a fairy tale world where these "things" don't happen....its just entertainment...I can see if he gives his number etc...but I defiently don't consider watching strippers cheating Link to post Share on other sites
justagirlforever Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Personally I don't consider it cheating at all. I have no problem at all ever for a boyfriend/partner to go. In fact, in the past have made it very clear that it's totally OK by me. It's seems to be a large part of the high flyer City culture - and many even claim it back on company expenses as "client entertainment" - perfectly ligit. I've never been to one and they hold no appeal or curiosity for me - well guess they wouldn't. And I'm certainly not going to spend my hard earned money on another woman waving her bum in my face. Link to post Share on other sites
milvushina Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck. You also have desperate men with money to burn who want attention from young pretty females. Its basically a business arrangement. The women pretend they like the guys and then empty their wallets fairly quickly. Its a total scam. Well that was pithy Anyway how I see it is that if you're monogamous, you shouldn't have physical contact of a sexual nature with someone else. So I would not give my husband flak over going to one, I mean, if he is looking, that's about like looking at porn, which we all like to do from time to time. (almost all, whatever). But lap dances with touching would piss me off. Would he be mad if I gave someone a lap dance? Yeah, and I would be mad if some non-stripper gave him one for free. I don't see how exchanging money makes it not cheating. If it's just looking at the girls that's cool but touching is reserved for me. Link to post Share on other sites
justagirlforever Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck. I don't think it's quite fair to say that all women involved in stripping have either been sexually molested or abused. There are many students out there just trying to make a quick buck. Their morals might however temporarily (or permanently) fly out of the window and they might take advantage of the men by emptying their wallets. Ps: and just for the record - none of my ex's (while in a relationship with me) have ever been to a strip club - despite given the green light to do so. And I'll also add that if anyone I date see it as a necesary hobby / past time / whatever, I'd no longer continue the relationship. It's not something I'd want to be part of a healthy relationship. Once in a blue moon, fine. Once a week or even month - not fine. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Everyone has a right to feel the way they do about this. I just really don't see how anyone can be ok with their SO having a naked stranger hump them but I guess everyone is different. My man has no reason to lie about this and sneak around because he knows I am 100% better then the chicks their and he has no reason to cheat on me with them. Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 i wouldn't consider it cheating but i definately wouldn't like it. some people are just not down for their SO to be within a foot away from a naked woman that will do what she can do in her power to get him to spend his money. if my boyfriend was just dying to go, then i couldn't stop him but i'm not saying it wouldn't bother me, especially if he left with like 50 dollars and came back broke... its a waste of money Link to post Share on other sites
annieo Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 I hate to admit it, but I am starting to feel that way. Training? More like fear factor. Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBlonde Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Personally, I don't consider it cheating if they're just going to a strip club and watching naked girls dancing. Like the OPs said however, if the guy is flirting with the stripper and asking for her number, that's not ok in my book. Maybe you could go with your bf to one to see what it's like? My bf doesn't go to strip clubs, but we went to one together with a bunch of friends for one of our mutual friend's birthday, and it really wasn't that bad. Link to post Share on other sites
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