PandorasBox Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I have a question, do you feel that people who brag alot do it for some kind of validation reason? I guess some people feel the need to be validated for how they feel maybe? Why? Is it low self esteem maybe? Maybe things are not the way the person portrays them to be, so they feel the need to brag alot as some kind of cover up? I have a co-worker, love her to death, wonderful lady, but she brags ALL the time about her family. Not just her hubby and kids, but others in her family too. I think its wonderful she feels the way she does about them don't get me wrong, but so many people have told her, "look we are glad you feel the way you but you brag a little to much". It almost makes other people feel like crap about their families because she does it so often. She does realize she does this, will stop for awhile then the next thing you know she is back at it again. She is not a conceited lady, she very kind, and helpful but its just in this one area she seems to do this. I do feel she should be proud, they are great people, but to do it so much just seems to me like there is a deeper issue going on, for why she feels the need to do so. There is nothing wrong with tooting your horn sometimes, and feeling proud, but most all the time? I don't get it. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 hmmm? hard to say for sure why some people feel the need to brag. I guess it depends on the person. I do think it can have something to do with low self esteem maybe. Hopefully someone else can answer this, because I have kind of wondered that myself. My signature talks of validating too. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I brag but I can back it up. If you can back it up then I feel it is perfectly fine to boast. I am very proud of myself. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I'm wondering about this too........ I have a business client that keeps telling me his wife knows how to dress/knows fashion and her family used to have money...... what is the point to this mindless consistant chatter? I don't care if your wife is a dead butt broke royal family member and wear plastic flip flops..... why keep making a point of this over and over and over again? Maybe because she cheated on him and he is now trying to prove that she has good points? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PandorasBox Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 I brag but I can back it up. If you can back it up then I feel it is perfectly fine to boast. I am very proud of myself. Oh, I really think she can back up how she feels also, but I just think it can be to much and to much of anything good or bad, is probably not the best idea. Especially in a work environment where people have listen to it right much. She has even made to comment about how she feels others are just jealous when they tell her she brags to much. I can see that point, and maybe some are, but that is not the case for all. I do think some simply get tired of hearing it, and makes others feel their is another reason behind the constant need to brag. Just because someone can "back it up" doesn't mean theres not a issue to feel the need to talk about something all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I think the title is the answer... People brag for validation.. period.. They are doing it to make themselves feel worthy and to make themselves feel better than the people they are speaking too.. I think it can be cyclic in someones life..depending on what they are going thru. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PandorasBox Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 I think the title is the answer... People brag for validation.. period.. They are doing it to make themselves feel worthy and to make themselves feel better than the people they are speaking too.. I think it can be cyclic in someones life..depending on what they are going thru. Thanks AC, so I guess its like a self esteem thing then? This lady, did NOT have the best homelife grwoing up and wanted to be sure she had a good one as an adult for her kids and husband etc. There is nothing wrong with that at all. I didn't have the best homelife either, but I don't feel the need brag ALL the time about what kind of life I have now. I hope that makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 My mum brags about my sister too much and I think everyone is getting sick of it. There are 5 of us in total and its sister number 4 who gets to be in the spotlight a lot. She is her favourite as well cos she is seen as being the perfect daughter looks wise in our culture - tall, slim, light brown skin etc etc. Mum brags a bit too much and I blend into the background, not that I mind. My sister is arrogant, proud, a snob and a total hypocrite, just like mum. I know you like her mum but shut up already lol. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 My mum brags about my sister too much and I think everyone is getting sick of it. There are 5 of us in total and its sister number 4 who gets to be in the spotlight a lot. She is her favourite as well cos she is the desriable in terms of being the perfect daughter looks wise in our culture - tall, slim, light brown skin etc etc. Mum brags a bit too much and I blend into the background, not that I mind. My sister is arrogant, proud, a snob and a total hypocrite, just like mum. I know you like her mum but shut up already lol. Stop bragging about your terrible parents....... mine are way worse! :p Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Stop bragging about your terrible parents....... mine are way worse! :p Sorry!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Stop bragging about your terrible parents....... mine are way worse! :p Both of you stop it, its making me feel like sh*t! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I brag because I am proud of my life and I did it all myself. It feels so good to rub it in the faces of everybody who said I was a loser or would never amount to anything. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 I brag because I am proud of my life and I did it all myself. It feels so good to rub it in the faces of everybody who said I was a loser or would never amount to anything. that may be bitterness not so much a pride thing? Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Both of you stop it, its making me feel like sh*t! Haha sorry!! My second apology of the day Link to post Share on other sites
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