so mad - bf and comp

[Guest]

So, one day I was on my bf's computer, and I went to one of those sites where you post your profile & have a friend's list, etc. (I was just signing into my account). When I went to sign in, it already had an email address in the box, and I recognized it as my bf's other email that he doensn't really use. I knew about his regular email account, but I didn't know he was registered under his other email too.

 

So, when I got home, I went to that website again & went to see his profile under his other email address. When the profile came up, I was disgusted. First, it said he was 'single'. Second, he had a whole bunch of 'scantily-clad' girls as his 'friends'. Third, he was a part of all these 'groups' that you can sign up for. I won't even mention what they were about, but they grossed me out a lot, and I would NEVER have pictured him to like the stuff that was on there.

 

I was so mad that I didn't care what I did at that moment. He had always told me that I could sign into any of his acct's, email's, etc because he didn't care. So I thought, well, why not sign into this one??

 

I found a lot of gross messages he sent to girls. I couldn't believe it was him. It wasn't a big deal though because most of the msg's were old & before we started going out. He stopped about 2 wks into our relationship. But, on his 'updates', he had joined a couple of new (& bad) groups a few days before that. I was so mad, first of all b/c he always says that he never goes on that website (on the acct I knew about), etc.

 

Anyways, I confronted him about it right away, and he denied a lot of it, but I told him there was proof. After that, he didn't even delete the account. He just deleted the friends AND THE part where you can see updates & the last time he logged in!!! I asked him why he didn't delete the account, and he said he couldn't figure out how.

 

I went on there, and went to account settings. Guess what the first thing on there was? CANCEL ACCOUNT You had to go farther down the page to delete updates, and I couldn't even figure out how to delete the log in date.

 

I was like, you gotta be kidding me... it just seems like he lies to not get in trouble. Like he doesn't feel bad about lying or something.

 

I don't know what to do, because I try to trust him, but it's really hard after this. He says for sure he doesn't do it anymore, etc. But, it's to believe.

 

Anyone who has input, I'd love to hear it. Thanks for reading.

[LakesideDream]

That's why they are called Boyfriends, not husbands. Find a new one.

[Guest]

Dating is about finding someone compatible. I know everyone has heard it “Tons of fish in the sea”. But that is exactly what you should keep in mind in this situation. Even thought this guy is your boyfriend, it doesn’t change the fact that you are just dating. Dating is the action of finding another person that you are compatible with. Only you can determine what is expectable to you and what isn’t.

 

Your post talked about trust, so in this case consider what level of trust between you and your boyfriend is ok with you. If he doesn’t live up to your standards, then move on and don’t waist any more of your time dating him and not searching for the guy that fits within your standards. This goes for the “gross stuff” also.

So, one day I was on my bf's computer, and I went to one of those sites where you post your profile & have a friend's list, etc. (I was just signing into my account). When I went to sign in, it already had an email address in the box, and I recognized it as my bf's other email that he doensn't really use. I knew about his regular email account, but I didn't know he was registered under his other email too.

 

So, when I got home, I went to that website again & went to see his profile under his other email address. When the profile came up, I was disgusted. First, it said he was 'single'. Second, he had a whole bunch of 'scantily-clad' girls as his 'friends'. Third, he was a part of all these 'groups' that you can sign up for. I won't even mention what they were about, but they grossed me out a lot, and I would NEVER have pictured him to like the stuff that was on there.

 

I was so mad that I didn't care what I did at that moment. He had always told me that I could sign into any of his acct's, email's, etc because he didn't care. So I thought, well, why not sign into this one??

 

I found a lot of gross messages he sent to girls. I couldn't believe it was him. It wasn't a big deal though because most of the msg's were old & before we started going out. He stopped about 2 wks into our relationship. But, on his 'updates', he had joined a couple of new (& bad) groups a few days before that. I was so mad, first of all b/c he always says that he never goes on that website (on the acct I knew about), etc.

 

Anyways, I confronted him about it right away, and he denied a lot of it, but I told him there was proof. After that, he didn't even delete the account. He just deleted the friends AND THE part where you can see updates & the last time he logged in!!! I asked him why he didn't delete the account, and he said he couldn't figure out how.

 

I went on there, and went to account settings. Guess what the first thing on there was? CANCEL ACCOUNT You had to go farther down the page to delete updates, and I couldn't even figure out how to delete the log in date.

 

I was like, you gotta be kidding me... it just seems like he lies to not get in trouble. Like he doesn't feel bad about lying or something.

 

I don't know what to do, because I try to trust him, but it's really hard after this. He says for sure he doesn't do it anymore, etc. But, it's to believe.

 

Anyone who has input, I'd love to hear it. Thanks for reading.

[BlueEyedSarah]

Let him have he's account, find a new boyfriend.