Erik Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 You have started a good cycle. You will become increasingly irritated with him and hence it will become increasingly easier for you to be indifferent towards him. When you signal indifference, what he receives is: "She thinks she is too good for me." And he will believe it too. And therefore he will pursue you the more; the more indifferent you are, the more desirable you will become, because the more he believes you are too good for him. If you'd be interested in a little payback, I'm sure people in here would understand that. All you have to do is keep telling him he cannot have sex with you, make sure he understand you find him boring and annoying, make him beg for dates on posh restaurants, give him the doormat-treatment. You have to reward him a little bit from time to time, it's called the yo-yo, remember? Not with sex, of course, a smile will normally do it, a compliment, or just being in a good mood. Constantly switch between reward and punishment. Never promise him sex. Be aware though, that you can only push him so far, and men normally doesn't accept as much abuse as do women. But if you know where his limit is, there's diamonds and furs coming your way. MWUHAAAHAHAA!!! Damn, I'm evil... I knew this site would not be good for me. No, just get rid of him, the plot may backfire. But if you decide for the doormat-treatment, please keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 MWUHAAAHAHAA!!! Damn, I'm evil... I knew this site would not be good for me. No, just get rid of him, the plot may backfire. But if you decide for the doormat-treatment, please keep us posted. Your hooked. OP, I think you've been given good advice and if you decide not to see him anymore, stick with it and go N/C. Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 "He thinks he is god's gift." We are ALL God's Gift, honey! As are you and don't forget that, OK? YOU are just as wonderful, unique and powerful as any one else, so don't bother with anyone who doesn't offer you the same deserved respect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dignityback Posted March 17, 2007 Author Share Posted March 17, 2007 I just figured out that he is a Narcissist, incapable of loving and ultimately detests the person who is trying to love him. They are emotionally shallow and in constant turmoil within themselves. Their main aim in life is to have total contol over you. They make you try that bit harder in your relationship with them, so that you end up doing all the work. I phoned mm from Spain and he was in a meeting so he asked me to call back the next day at 9.30 which I did. A colleague answered so I hung up. When I returned from holiday he called me and said "Why didn't you call back?". I told him I had and he was silent. He thought I should have called again and again if necessary, chasing after him. He didn't like it when I hadn't. If someone was calling me from abroad, I would make damn sure I was there waiting for the call or else apologise--he didn't even have the manners to do that. He would keep me waiting for 20 or 30 minutes with no apology and yet if I was 5 minutes late meeting him, there would be a sarcastic comment. They play with your mind and your heart, and will ultimately destroy the relationship if they think you are going to end it and abandon them. They will pull and push you until you think you are going crazy. If anyone has a controlling manipulating mm read up on their narcissistic behaviour and why the OW they get involved with, becoming willing "victims" of their behaviour for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
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