some bombs dropped today...

[polywog]

That's LoveShack, all right. If you put your ear up to the screen, you can hear the whirl of our collective conscience.

 

(I know... sometimes I can't hear anything, either.)

 

Geez, tragicmagichandsglands, I knew in my heightened state of conciousness from all the crying & poets giving me great metaphors and all that you would be the first to reply, but gosh-dang, sometimes I do wonder through all the delightful silliness if you really get what I'm saying.... I am hoping you do, what with the large elephant-brain and huge testes and all, but....

 

[polywog]

Geez, tragicmagichandsglands, I knew in my heightened state of conciousness from all the crying & poets giving me great metaphors and all that you would be the first to reply, but gosh-dang, sometimes I do wonder through all the delightful silliness if you really get what I'm saying.... I am hoping you do, what with the large elephant-brain and huge testes and all, but....

 

 

...but I suspect you do.

[Storyrider]

...but I suspect you do.

 

One might suspect he sees your words as merely another opaque surface in need of his grafitti.

 

He seems to retain content, however, when topics come back up later.

 

I liked your garden story by the way.

[polywog]

One might suspect he sees your words as merely another opaque surface in need of his grafitti.

 

Great description of the magic/tragic MO!

 

He seems to retain content, however, when topics come back up later.

 

True, and he has given me kind replies; he was the first to give me bunnies :bunny: for sympathy when I first started posting my tale of woe, tho in hindsight it could have been just an oportunity to post bunnies.

 

I liked your garden story by the way.

 

Thanks, I didn't describe it very well, it sounds kind of New-Age-y, which I am not, but it gave me a big, healthy shift in all this crap, and I know you got that.

[Storyrider]

he was the first to give me bunnies :bunny: for sympathy when I first started posting my tale of woe, tho in hindsight it could have been just an oportunity to post bunnies.

 

Real sympathy and bunny addiction are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

 

Thanks, I didn't describe it very well, it sounds kind of New-Age-y, which I am not, but it gave me a big, healthy shift in all this crap, and I know you got that.

 

I got it. :bunny:

[polywog]

 

 

Real sympathy and bunny addiction are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

 

I hope not!

 

[quote}I got it. :bunny:

 

I knew it :bunny:

 

Golly, I hope I haven't hurt magic's feelings, as I expected him to pick up on a specific line in my post using the words "healthy" and "crap"...

 

Magic-tragic, are you sulking?

[polywog]

OK, I am just starting to seriously pack and move starting today. In the past few days, if you read my post, I found that the ex wants me out asap, and I know that it's the best thing for me right now, too. I'd been postponing the inevitable because it's so painful, but altho I am shaking in my boots, I've got to get through this :( .

 

I don't have a storage space yet but I plan to get one after this weekend. I have to live here for the next few days, but will be moving into the place my friend offered me this week, after we get it ready.

 

Do you think it's a good idea for me to clear out all the beloved decorative items and art on the walls first? It will kill me, but it will make the place not look like my home anymore. It's also the space that I share with the ex, and it seems like a symbolic gesture to me that things are moving on.

 

Any advice or comfort anyone can offer about the emotional issues this is raising would be appreciated deeply, to help me cope. I'd especially be happy to hear anyone else who's been uprooted this way, and how they did it.

 

I think I have a handle on the practical side, but any suggestions there could be good, too.

 

I've only lived in a few places my whole life, so moving is not something I've done very much, and it's wrenching beyond words. I do know that things will be much better for me once I'm out, but for now I'm here, and hurting and scared about my emotions over it.

 

Maybe this should be a new thread, but I get the feeling that it's good to stay here in this one for now since it tells th story and the posts have been so helpful.

 

Thanks for reading, dear LSers.

 

polywog

[coco_milkshake]

I am not sure what the system is like in the States, but are there any agencies who can help you look for a place? Here, I know that when you go to a place like that they would place you on a waiting list and get back to you on that.

 

Like I said Im not sure what it is like in the States so I am not sure if what I just said helped. I saw this thread and have been reading the posts on it and I feel very bad for you. It gets better, time is a great healer.

 

When you find yourself thinking about him remind yourself of all the negative aspects of your relationship with him and keep reminding yourself that you are better off without him - he is someone else's headache now. Enjoy your new found freedom and someone better will come along!!! *hugs*

[polywog]

I am not sure what the system is like in the States, but are there any agencies who can help you look for a place? Here, I know that when you go to a place like that they would place you on a waiting list and get back to you on that.

 

Like I said Im not sure what it is like in the States so I am not sure if what I just said helped. I saw this thread and have been reading the posts on it and I feel very bad for you. It gets better, time is a great healer.

 

When you find yourself thinking about him remind yourself of all the negative aspects of your relationship with him and keep reminding yourself that you are better off without him - he is someone else's headache now. Enjoy your new found freedom and someone better will come along!!! *hugs*

 

Hi coco, thanks for the reply and the sympathy. I'm on a few affordable housing lists right now, and think that something will come my way. I have lots of sympathetic pals here.

 

Yes, it is terribly hard, but I've just started sorting through some stuff to pack or give away, and feel better that I'm taking some action. I just can't wait til this is all over.

[Storyrider]

I haven't been through quite what you're going through, Poly, but if I were you I would just try to get it done and overwith fast.

 

I would get supplied with boxes, crank up your favorite loud music and pack, pack, pack.

 

If you want, take pictures first, but I would try not to mix your (completely understandable) raw feelings with the grunt work of packing. If it were me and I did that, I would be sitting down every few minutes to read an old letter or look at an old photo and it would take me days and days.

[polywog]

I haven't been through quite what you're going through, Poly, but if I were you I would just try to get it done and overwith fast.

 

I would get supplied with boxes, crank up your favorite loud music and pack, pack, pack.

 

If you want, take pictures first, but I would try not to mix your (completely understandable) raw feelings with the grunt work of packing. If it were me and I did that, I would be sitting down every few minutes to read an old letter or look at an old photo and it would take me days and days.

 

Thanks, storyrider. Yeah, I just want to get it done... as long as I'm in here, I'm going to be tormented by the loss, whereas once the painful task is done, and I have had to accept it, I'll be able to process and recover myself. I've spent the hours since the last post calling storage places (wih good results) and talking to my mom and to my frieds, and I feel boosted for that.

[polywog]

Wow, I just realized something very ironic.

 

Today was the first time I ever visited this house, for a St. Paddy's boiled dinner that the ex had with some friends. I fell in love, with the house....maybe even before him!

 

That was 9 years ago today, and here it is the first day of seriously reckonning with moving out!