Guest Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Do you think it is ok for people to party and get very drunk without their boyfriend or girlfriend? When there are a lot of people of the opposite gender around? My boyfriend and I didn't used to do this but under weird circumstances we have agreed to and I feel a little bit uncomfortable with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Hello, This is a clear recipie for a disaster. It is absolutely foolish to accept this. It will be a matter of time until somebody does something they should not. You are wise to be very concerned about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Do you think it is ok for people to party and get very drunk without their boyfriend or girlfriend? When there are a lot of people of the opposite gender around? Absolutely not! Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Hello, This is a clear recipie for a disaster. It is absolutely foolish to accept this. It will be a matter of time until somebody does something they should not. . Exactly...and then their excuse is, "but I was drunk!" I have never thought about cheating when I was drunk. You can be drunk, but still have half a freakin' mind. Drinking only brings out in a person what they really want to do, but just don't have the guts to do it when sober. So in a sense...it might be a good thing...if your SO drinks and cheats...then you know they are nothing but a no good cheater and you can dump them. Link to post Share on other sites
ash519 Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 I disagree with these responses and that is big for me to say. There is nothing wrong with going to a party now and then as long as a few things happen: You should at least be invited and know you can show up if you want and you trust your SO. I can see peoples views on it being different and mine used to be, but as of recently it has changed. I have gone to these parties, my bf just really enjoys drinking, playing card games and music etc. Drinking doesnt equal disaster. If you SO is going to cheat it will happen whether or not he/she is at a party. As drunk as some people get (before the point of blackout) they have control of there actions and heart. I dont LOVE when my bf does this stuff but it is his life, as long as he does not disrespect our relationship who am i to say what he can and can not do. A party is a party..they dont tend to be big cheating orgy get togethers, just people who dont want to go to bed after the bar closes. Link to post Share on other sites
Toni_no12002 Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Exactly...and then their excuse is, "but I was drunk!" I have never thought about cheating when I was drunk. You can be drunk, but still have half a freakin' mind. Drinking only brings out in a person what they really want to do, but just don't have the guts to do it when sober. So in a sense...it might be a good thing...if your SO drinks and cheats...then you know they are nothing but a no good cheater and you can dump them. Drinking doesnt always bring out in a person what they want to do.Alcohol can totally change someones perspective on things. I have a bf and he doesnt like going out and i do so he lets me go out.I get drunk and theres loads of other men around most of the time but doesnt mean i will cheat.I normally go out with men because i have quite a few male friends but i would never cheat on my bf with them wether i was drunk or not. Link to post Share on other sites
kimberlyk Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 I agree with Bryanp, that it is a recipe for disaster, but at the same time, as long as you are never 'discluded' from one of these parties, one would assume that nothing was going to happen without your presence and/or permission. I am not a big drinker, maybe once every year or two I get together with some close friends and drink too much, but I never understood why people get completely trashed on a regular basis...I mean really, how does one function properly and get ahead in life by doing that? Link to post Share on other sites
ash519 Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 I dont drink either, I never have been into it, but all my friends do and my bf. Kim- A majority of people drink as well as get drunk and on top of that they have lucrative carreers and ambitions. It is one thing to get drunk every night and waste away being an alcoholic...it is another to every other weekend get smashed and go to a party to release some energy and have lots of fun. The people my bf hangs with (band mates and friends) all have good jobs (except a few) and none of them are off banging girls because they are drunk, they just have fun with friends. It's all about balance. Parties can be lots of fun, drinking looks like lots of fun and i bet it is. One night on the weekend of being a bit carefree (as long as you're respecting your relationship which a lot of people do as long as they care to) is not a crime. I am 24...i cant even imagine trying to find a bf who doesnt enjoy drinking...i am not saying everyone does it but come on. I am perfectly happy and in love with a man i know has a good job, has passions (he's in a band) and also likes to drink with friends and have fun a few times/month. He respects me and our relationship and no amount of alcohol will change that If a man or woman cheats it is not alcohol, it is something missing from the relationship and they'll do it with or without drinks. Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBlonde Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 I agree with Ash....drinking doesn't always equal disaster...unless you were eventually going to cheat anyways. I've been to parties with and without my boyfriend, but I always invite him....and same goes for him. We trust each other. But the majority of the time, we just get together with friends and have a few drinks...we're both not huge "party people". However, I don't get drunk to the point where I'm blacking out...that's just bad news whether the opposite sex is there or not. But I think it's a pretty lame excuse when people cheat and say it was because they were drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
kimberlyk Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 'Ash', I totally agree with your last comment, that alcohol has nothing to do with cheating. I can also understand that everyone drinks for their own reasons and all the while they can also have very lucrative careers...I can see the other side of it as well, that they could possibly be even more lucrative if they didn't drink, or drank in smaller quantity. Everyone has their own way of relieving stress and I am sure that for a majority of the population, it is alcohol. What I really meant behind my comment was that I don't understand the whole getting 'smashed' concept. The time they put into consuming it to reach the 'smashed' stage, the time eaten up while being 'smashed', and then, finally, there is a recovery period...consuming large amounts of alcohol is detrimental to ones health in large quantity...dehydration, long-term effects, etc. In my opinion, it can really bring one down and they not even be aware of it. Link to post Share on other sites
ash519 Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 I understand what you are saying Kim. BUT when people tend to do this stuff it is usually Saturday night with recovery taking place Sunday, the day of rest. Anyway, my only point to the original poster is that it is ok (in my belief) to go to parties with or without your SO, as long as you are invited and your partner respects you and your relationship. We only live once. People need to be able to have fun and as long as they have a healthy balance then there shouldnt be a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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