EnigmasMuse Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 For those of you who feel your sexual needs are not being met either at all or not the way you would like. Which do you feel is worse for you, your spouse having sex out of obligation, no sex at all period, or here and there few and far between I guess I should say. I'm sure it all hurts, no matter what it is. But which do you think would bother you more? I'm divorced, but if I were married and I was in that position, I would say that it would bother me more, if my husband had sex with me out of obligation. I would want him to have sex with me because he wanted too, loved, me etc, not because he felt it was a chore or his duty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with love. When are you women going to get that? Link to post Share on other sites
4whatItsWorth Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 I'd not call it "obligation" - I'd never have sex out of obligation. I have sex with my guy because I love him and want to show him that. I enjoy pleasing him - even though I can't even meet my own sexual needs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EnigmasMuse Posted March 14, 2007 Author Share Posted March 14, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with love. When are you women going to get that? :lmao: Here ya go, chocolate chip or oatmeal cookie? Link to post Share on other sites
StayClose Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 It depends. When my wife is having sex just to stop me from bugging her about it, and she make no effort to enjoy it hersoelf or appear that she is, frankly, I'd rather masturbate to porn where I'm pretending to be with someone who's into me. But when she's into it at least a little bit ("It doesn't suck" is how she puts it) and showing it, then it is minimally acceptable and better than no sex at all. And there's nothing wrong with that on occasion. She tells me, and I agree with her, that it's not realistic to expect fireworks and multiple Os every time. Sometimes you're doing it just to please your partner. The problem is that lately, the "minimum acceptable" scenario is the only kind of sex we have, and that is only once every 1-3 weeks. Just doing it to please your partner is OK sometimes, but the other times should be fireworks and "hot" sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobster999 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 When my wife is having sex just to stop me from bugging her about it, and she make no effort to enjoy it hersoelf or appear that she is, frankly, I'd rather masturbate to porn where I'm pretending to be with someone who's into me. Exactly--couldn't have put it better. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with love. When are you women going to get that? When are you men going to realise for a woman sex has everything to do with love? Link to post Share on other sites
mockeryjones Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with love. When are you women going to get that? speak for yourself. i'm a man. i find sex and love are strongly if not perfectly correlated. Link to post Share on other sites
Very_Confused Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with love. When are you women going to get that? Not quite sure how to take that since it's my husband who doesn't want sex anymore. For those of you who feel your sexual needs are not being met either at all or not the way you would like. Which do you feel is worse for you, your spouse having sex out of obligation, no sex at all period, or here and there few and far between I guess I should say. In my case it started with "here and there, few and far between" and then became "no sex at all period" and then it turned into "sex out of obligation" before we separated last year. Then we reconciled and made love twice. Now we're just back to #2. I think I'd rather pass on moving to #3 again. None of it has made me feel good about myself, him or our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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