Sparky Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Alrighty, I have something that I just can't seem to get my head around, and guys, I'm sure you can relate to this too... At a bar or a school dance, you see a girl you want to dance with, and you do either 1 of 2 things: 1. You go up to her and ask if she wants to dance. 2. You start dancing beside her, make eye contact, smile, and approach her with subtle and gentle non-threatening/sexual touches to imply that you wish to dance. Now, as you 2 start to dance/while you 2 dance/after she says "yes"/while she's responding, her girl friend yanks her away from you and dances together! Now, this has happened to me plenty of times and I always end up shaking my head in serious confusion. It's one thing if a girl doesn't want to dance, and I personally believe that every woman has every right to say "no" if they don't want to dance. But if she wants to dance, or seems to be enjoying dancing with me, what right does her friend have to pull her away from me? I may be looking at this the wrong way, but I think it's pretty damn rude to pull someone away like that. Seriously, the girl has a mouth, let her use it!! If she doesn't want to dance, I respect that. I'm not pointing a gun at her head or anything. Guys, how do you deal with this?? And ladies, why do you do this?? :confused: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 Okay, am I just talking to MYSELF here, or is someone going to help me on this one??? Come on! There has to be SOMEONE HERE who can help me understand this or has experienced the same thing!!! Sorry for the impatience by the way, I just want to know how to deal with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Starry-eyed Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Well, Sparky, I can only guess that the girl's friend is jealous of her friend and doesn't want to be alone on the sidelines or dancing by herself. Or maybe the girl you're dancing with previously arranged with her friend to rescue her from ANY guys who try to dance with her. Because, if she wanted to keep dancing with you, it seems like she would. She could tell her friend, nicely, to leave her alone or something. Basically, it probably stems from someone's insecurity. I have to say, I'm probably an older generation than you, but I've never experienced approach #2 at a club, where you see someone and you start dancing beside her and make gestures for the two of you to dance together. Could it be that that is a not-so-good approach? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 FINALLY!! SOMEONE ANSWERS!! WHOO!!! Approach #2, I believe, can be pulled off if done right, which is hard to do. You've got a point about the girl being jealous, or friend looking out for her. Didn't think about that one. She could tell her friend to leave her alone, but that's what I can't figure out why she doesn't do that. On the other hand, it could be that the friend is trying to lure me because she wants to dance too. Never know. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Hey, chicks like to dance. If the second girl comes up, dance with both of them. If they don't agree, they'll move away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 Wow! I can't believe I didn't think about THAT one! Link to post Share on other sites
Starry-eyed Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 She could tell her friend to leave her alone, but that's what I can't figure out why she doesn't do that. On the other hand, it could be that the friend is trying to lure me because she wants to dance too. Never know. You know, sometimes we chicks are weird and just want to hang with friends. Even if we're out at a club or something. And when we are with friends or in groups, sometimes we act differently than if we were alone, so maybe that is why she doesn't tell her friend to buzz off. Maybe she just gets all goofy and goes along with what her friends want. And, good idea about dancing with both of them! I know it's kind of unfair, but we girls are lucky that we can dance with each other and it's fine, but if guys dance together, everyone thinks they're gay. Too bad, except, better for girls who want to dance with guys. Sparky, it seems like you have a good attitude! I hope you're dancing to good music! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 Almost all music is good to dance to! Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 u know what would be really strange if one day you started dancing and then song after song the girl just kept dancing with you and then one of your guy friends pulled you away and beat the crap out of you... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 u know what would be really strange if one day you started dancing and then song after song the girl just kept dancing with you and then one of your guy friends pulled you away and beat the crap out of you... Okay... you lost me about the beating the crap out of me. Why would they do that? Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Try dancing with/chatting to the one you are *not* interested in, make her feel comfortable with you being around, and only then go for the one you really like. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 Try dancing with/chatting to the one you are *not* interested in, make her feel comfortable with you being around, and only then go for the one you really like. I can see how that COULD work, but isn't that a little dishonest? Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted April 12, 2007 Share Posted April 12, 2007 I agree with the poster that said her friend may be looking out for her. I have a good friend with whom I'd like to get closer to. She went out dancing one night and got really really drunk. Some of her other girlfriends (with whom I am friends with too) would watch out for her and when she seemed like she was getting a bit too crazy with a guy, would pull her away and start dancing with her. Now she didn't pull her away from me though - so maybe thats a sign? Anyway - the guys that were there dancing with her kept coming back for more - and she would dance with them, but with her friends around - they never let her get too serious dancing with them. Maybe thats what your girls are doing - making sure their friends has fun - but doesn't start getting to hung up on a guy they don't really know yet. You should try asking her for a slow dance if her friends are constantly pulling her away from you - or just find another girl for a bit, then come back. Or - like someone else mentioned - make friends with them all and dance with them all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 13, 2007 Author Share Posted April 13, 2007 Thanks Redneck. That makes a lot of sense. I just thought of something: What if the girl's girlfriend is already dancing with another guy and pulls her away from me? In that situation, I can't dance with her too. Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Have you ever been out dancing and seen more than one guy after a single hot girl? I sure have. Whats wrong with more than one guy after 2 girls? nothing that I know of. Just don't try to force her or shove him out of the way - cuz that will surely cause trouble. Move in quietly and just have fun. If thats not your style - go find another free girl for the time being, and come back to the other girl when she's open for a dance again. Or you could always just dance by yourself or be a wall flower until she's free too...up to you. Me - I try to stick with the girl I'm after as long as she's still having fun and is willing to dance with me, and the last attempt has brought some pretty good results (combined with everything that has happened since). Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I was just kidding, The cock blocking friends is just something you have to overcome Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 14, 2007 Author Share Posted April 14, 2007 I was just kidding, The cock blocking friends is just something you have to overcome Cock blocking?? I'm REALLY sorry that I'm not following you on your posts. And Redneck: Thanks again. I'm feeling a lot more optimistic on this thing now. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 cock blocking is when something gets in your dicks way of the target vagina Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 14, 2007 Author Share Posted April 14, 2007 :lmao: That's a good one! I'm sure I don't have to bring this up, but I'm not looking for sex when I dance with someone. I mean, if it turns into that, I'm all for it. Getting boners always happens to me when I dance with women. When I was younger, I got a little embarrassed when I was grinding with them because it always rubs up against them, but I never got any negative reactions. It's like they never notice. I can't see how they CAN'T because I'm not small (not bragging at all). But I have to admit, it feels pretty damn good... *droooooooooooling* Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 yes most girls wont notice or atleast call you out on it, and if they do theyll probably just walk away with out saying anything about it... And as far as cock blocking is concerned it doesnt necisarily mean you were planning on having sex with the girl that minute, you could say damn cock blocked if you were just trying to meet a girl and something say another person got in the way of that you can says that person was a cock block. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 14, 2007 Author Share Posted April 14, 2007 Ahhhh... I get it now!! Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Getting boners always happens to me when I dance with women. When I was younger, I got a little embarrassed when I was grinding with them because it always rubs up against them, but I never got any negative reactions. It's like they never notice. I can't see how they CAN'T because I'm not small (not bragging at all). But I have to admit, it feels pretty damn good... *droooooooooooling* LOL. I wouldn't say they don't notice it, but more like they DO and THEY LIKE IT! They just don't want to say anything because either a) they don't want to embarass you, or b) they're glad you're enjoying yourself but you don't have a chance with them. A lot of women like having the ability to turn a guy on, and when a guy gets hard, its usually a sign that they are enjoying themselves or the girl's dancing. But - that doesn't mean that when you don't get hard when grinding with them that they're gonna feel like you don't like them (unless they're really obsessed with that part of male anatomy). Just because you're not lusting after them doesn't mean that you don't enjoy their personality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparky Posted April 16, 2007 Author Share Posted April 16, 2007 LOL. I wouldn't say they don't notice it, but more like they DO and THEY LIKE IT! They just don't want to say anything because either a) they don't want to embarass you, or b) they're glad you're enjoying yourself but you don't have a chance with them. A lot of women like having the ability to turn a guy on, and when a guy gets hard, its usually a sign that they are enjoying themselves or the girl's dancing. I guessed as much. If they minded/didn't like it, they wouldn't be with me. Just because you're not lusting after them doesn't mean that you don't enjoy their personality. Oh, I'm almost ALWAYS lusting for them! Mainly BECAUSE of personality! Link to post Share on other sites
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