Guest Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 My younger brother got married 9 months ago to a girl who I liked, at least before they got married. The problem is this.....now that she has gotten married, got pregnant and had a baby, she has turned into someone totally different. I am starting to think that the girl she was at first was just for show. I am wondering if maybe I had unrealistic expectations for my relationship with her? I truly wanted to be her friend. I love my brother and wanted our families to be close as we live in the same small town. She is EXTREMELY sarcastic and says things to me that hurt my feelings. When my brother and she got married, ALL the siblings on both sides of the family were involved in the wedding ceremony and sat at the head table with both sets of parents.....except for ME. I mean everybody was up there...my parents, my brothers, her parents, her brothers and her. I was the only one from the immediate family that was not invited to be there. I was so hurt and embarrassed. When their baby was born, a few weeks ago, he had to go to the special care nursery for a few days. I was so excited for them and couldn't wait to see him...my first nephew!! I was icily informed by my sister in law that there wasn't any sense in my coming up to the hospital as I wouldn't be allowed in to see him as it was only for parents and grandparents. Well, explain to me why HER brothers and their wives were allowed in to the special care nursery to see the baby? I just don't know what to do. I don't understand why she doesn't like me. I just don't get it. My husband has told me that he thinks she's jealous. Jealous of the fact that we have a nicer home, nicer vehicles, own our own business, that we had the "first" grandchildren, etc... I suppose we do have all of those things, but I am 10 years older than her and have had to work hard and make a lot of sacrifices to get to where we are today. My husband and I had nothing when we first got married...I mean not even a mattress, we slept on of the floor. We deserve everything that we have now because we have earned it. My husband said I should cut my ties and move on, but I love my brother and my new little nephew, who I have seen only twice (once for 90 secs). We all live in the same town and so it would be extremely difficult to cut all ties. I would run in to them somewhere whether it be at my parents house, at the grocery store, just driving around, etc.... Please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
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