Reconciliation?????

[berrynice1]

I don't think reconciliation works, maybe for a short term.

 

I was dating a girl for 5 months long distance. We talked daily via email, phone and I seen her as many times as I could approximately 10 times but for all weekend.

We started off fairly quick and well it ended just as fast, she told me she was falling in love with me then righ tout of the blue she tells me things were going too fast. So we decided to slow things down but then it felt like we were only friends. She became so distant and all the sweet words of endearment stopped, emails and phone calls were very minimal.

 

Then about two weeks later she decides to email to tell me that she only wants to be friends and then doesn't contact me for a week later to talk to me about it.

 

She says that her life is too busy and that she is not ready for a relationship right now, she claims there is no one else, but at the same time does not even want to date right now. She say she only wants us to be friends even though she still feels chemistry, she is not ready. This person has not been in a relationship for over 5 years prior to us getting together.

 

She says she is not saying we can never have anything again in the future but just not now as she is not ready.

 

Do you think she is just playing with me? Do you think I should start the nc with her? Or do I try to remain friends hoping she will once again want to try?

I do know for a fact that her life is busy with alot of things so I know that is not a lie.

 

But how do you go from lovers to friends and then back to lovers is this possible?

[charlotte101]

Personally, I say go for the n/c..... she wont realize how great you are and what she is missing out on until you're not around.... so please, don't be...... give yourself space.

[Guest]

Personally, I say go for the n/c..... she wont realize how great you are and what she is missing out on until you're not around.... so please, don't be...... give yourself space.

 

Charlotte's right, I would go n/c also. I'm usually a big opponent of this, but it fits in your situation. Good luck!