GoldPenny Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 A friend of mine stated that her biggest fear was reunion of any kind: w/ family, friends, lovers, instructors, the house she was raised in, the high school, middle school, college, co-workers, familar places, etc. b/c her "life sucked so bad w/ only an up or two and she hated who and how she was in her adolescence and childhood." She's even afraid to go to a grocery store around here just b/c of the chance of bumping into somebody who knew/saw her as she was when she was "disgusting." She wants to change her identity, move to another state, etc. Now, I understand this and can relate, but only to a much smaller extent. What would be a bigger emotional relief if you were faced with this situation: reinvent yourself and then plan for a reunion or encounter these people and places of the past so that they can see how you've changed even though they may bring up your past; or move out and leave everything behind and start over somewhere else with new people? Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 I still live in the same city that I grew up in... fortunately for me, I've changed so much, most people don't recognize me, just the way I like it. I have no desire to be apart of my HS reunion. I really didn't like the people I went to school with even though I was pretty popular in HS, involved in so many clubs and activities. From a friend who did go to the reunion and knows me, she said that one of the main posters in the room was a graphic of me... she couldn't believe how much I changed. So my answer would be "reinvent yourself and stay incognito"... worked so far for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldPenny Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 I admire your transition and attitude about remaining the "new you". My friend as well as I have changed a lot since our high school days and first few years of college physically (a lot for her and somewhat for me) and outward personality-wise, but even though I dread bumping into classmates, relatives, out-of-school friends, instructors and such of the past at the restaurants, mall, etc., I am not more homebound because of it. She IS very homebound until she moves out of here. I do contemplate going to my HS reunion, for which a previous decision was not to, so that I can see what big changes people see or if they recognize me right away. Physically, I still don't wear make-up or do any hairstyling. I've just changed into fitting wardrobe that shows my shape and size very well as opposed to the baggy layers of clothes that made me look shapeless or overweight and my skin and hair is in much,much healthier state. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 not all reunions are bad, and the older I grow, the happier I am to see family anywhere other than funerals! however, to me, a "reunion" means one thing only: A class reunion of the people you went to high school with. Mostly, I dread those because I get the feeling that a lot of people are still stuck in their mindset from 20-25 years ago, and I hated it back then. Sometimes I run into people from high school, but thank God, it's only been a small handful since I moved away and the two or three that I do remain in touch with were pretty cool to start with. there's one thing about maturity and being happy with who you are now – it gives you the fortitude to face those people you didn't quite care for back then. If you're lucky, they AND you have matured to a point where you can be civil to each other ... Link to post Share on other sites
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