am i over-reacting?

[happymom]

I am currently seperated from my H due to lack of trust. This last summer he was inappropriate with my friend while we were at a wedding. You can read my posts...we have had issues with him watching porn, he allegedly visited an ex while we were living together prior to marriage. needless to say we have had many problem resulting from all of this. I moved out Dec.29th and he moved into his own apt.

 

We have seen each other periodically and have been intimate. I was getting to a point of thinking maybe we can reconcile, yet I really like living alone. So I then began thinking that perhaps remaining married but living seperatley may work for me/us.

 

Well last night I went to his house to watch a movie, I was in the house two minutes when I noticed on his computer that he had been looking at an online dating site. It wasn't maximized on the screen, but was a tab that had been open. I asked him about it and he said he didn't really know why he was on it. He said that he was just looking and doesn't have a profile. He just kept saying it was nothing and he isn't looking to date anyone...he was jst looking. Well we watched the movie and he brought me home. He said he understands my feelings and that he sees he has more to work on..

 

I am curious if anyone understands this online voyerism stuff. It has me stumped and has really affected my marriage!

[Curmudgeon]

One thing I've learned is that if you go looking for trouble you're guaranteed to find it.

 

Perhaps he's just keeping his options open since the tenure of your marriage is still tenuous. Maybe it was idle curiosity and nothing more. Could be there is a problem but at least he had the good grace to acknowledge that he probably has some more work to do on him.

 

I'm married. I've looked. the Internet is full of interesting things and I'm as curious as the next person. I don't let it/them interfere with my relationship with my wife, however.