Author Woggle Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 Drama is chaos in your life. It can be an affair or it can be living in a warzone.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I think drama is people's perspectives too. It's how we handle certain situations that make it either eventful to us or not. It's easy to get a rise out of some people where others simply don't care. I think drama in that way is a choice. Exactly. We all have different perspectives on what is considered to be drama and just how extreme it is.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Drama is chaos in your life. It can be an affair or it can be living in a warzone. Do you think that drama can ever have a positive effect?
Author Woggle Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 Do you think that drama can ever have a positive effect? Yes but it can never be healthy to crave it and not be able to deal with peace.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Drama is chaos in your life. It can be an affair or it can be living in a warzone. There is also the type of drama where BS lies and rumors are spread around in a group and stuff like that.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Yes but it can never be healthy to crave it and not be able to deal with peace. I agree that its not healthy to crave it but like you said before, we may have to experience some drama to get pass the more difficult parts in our lives and go through some drama in order to mature and grow. We may not like it, but for all of us, I think that it is a requirement to go through some in order to grow.
Trialbyfire Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Sometimes drama is forced upon you. You can only run so far and then you have to turn and deal with it.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Sometimes drama is forced upon you. You can only run so far and then you have to turn and deal with it. That is part of how we learn from our mistakes.
Trialbyfire Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 That is part of how we learn from our mistakes. No doubt we learn something...
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 A good example of drama was a poster on here earlier whose girlfriend freaked out because she asked him if his exgirlfriend had emailed him,and he was honest and said yes. He didn't even have the chance to explain that he didn't write her back, and it was the first time in several months she had emailed him, she started yelling and throwing a fit first. It seems to me that when someone asks a question like that, they are looking for drama. If that was my boyfriend, he wouldn't be my boyfriend by the time he stopped throwing a dramatic, jealous scene, and it's not like he had control over his exgirlfriend sending a friendly 'hi how are you' email. People who are insecure start drama.
amaysngrace Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Sometimes drama is forced upon you. I agree. Having bombs dropped on your homeland or losing your high-paying job is not in one's control. Having a loved one become seriously ill can cause drama. These types of things aren't in our power to control. What we can control is our response to them. But some people just make trouble for themselves. They look for it. And they have no idea what real drama is. I think they're mental.
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 No doubt we learn something... You can say that again......
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 A good example of drama was a poster on here earlier whose girlfriend freaked out because she asked him if his exgirlfriend had emailed him,and he was honest and said yes. He didn't even have the chance to explain that he didn't write her back, and it was the first time in several months she had emailed him, she started yelling and throwing a fit first. It seems to me that when someone asks a question like that, they are looking for drama. If that was my boyfriend, he wouldn't be my boyfriend by the time he stopped throwing a dramatic, jealous scene, and it's not like he had control over his exgirlfriend sending a friendly 'hi how are you' email. People who are insecure start drama. That is definitely a good example of drama. I wouldn't say that she was necessarily looking for drama by asking, but she didn't stop to think how should would react to the situation. I agree that a lot of insecure people seem to start or crave drama, even if they say that they don't like it. I agree. Having bombs dropped on your homeland or losing your high-paying job is not in one's control. Having a loved one become seriously ill can cause drama. These types of things aren't in our power to control. What we can control is our response to them. But some people just make trouble for themselves. They look for it. And they have no idea what real drama is. I think they're mental. You are on a roll tonight with your responses Amay. Actually everyone is on this thread. This has been one of my favorite threads that I have taken part of.
Trialbyfire Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I agree. Having bombs dropped on your homeland or losing your high-paying job is not in one's control. Having a loved one become seriously ill can cause drama. These types of things aren't in our power to control. What we can control is our response to them. But some people just make trouble for themselves. They look for it. And they have no idea what real drama is. I think they're mental. How very true. Sometimes no response is worth a thousand words. You can say that again...... Do I detect a note of sarcasm?
Pyro Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Do I detect a note of sarcasm? Not at all. I was agreeing with you. Trying to create drama are we?
Trialbyfire Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Not at all. I was agreeing with you. Trying to create drama are we? Trust me, right now, drama is the last thing I'm trying to do... :lmao:
a4a Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I think some people like to create drama so they can feel included in something. Some are habitual drama creators. What it boils down to is attention and to feel important/power - for those that create drama. I ignore outside drama (rumors, gossip, general petty BS). Drama that effects my time or money I deal with directly by slapping the crap out of the drama creator..... usually by cutting them off immediatley...
alphamale Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I really don't get it. It seems that with some people if things are going well they need to start some drama and mess things up. I am happy for the first time in my life to be free of drama and actually feel content. I have had enough drama in my life but some people are addicted to it. Why do some people fall into this pattern over and over again? because for certain people day-to-day life can become hum drum, routine and boring. why do you think people seek out entertainment such as sports or gambling or horror movies or whatnot?
JadeStar Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I think it may depend on the person. For some, it might be what they are used to, and grew up with and its just pretty much what they know. Others, it might be they are so bored they feel they need to start something to just to feel the need to have something going. For others it may be an attention thing. To some people it matters not if its positive or negative attention, to them its attention just the same. I try to avoid it if possible. I just can't deal with it, especailly if its something that's just not worth getting my underwear in a wad over. I do understand, though, as someone mentioned before, there are times when it can't always be avoided if its something that was forced upon you or you find yourself in a situation where theres drama. I think in those cases, you just try to learn how to deal/cope the best you can. But there are certain kinds of drama to me, people can avoid if they choose to. Jade
Author Woggle Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 because for certain people day-to-day life can become hum drum, routine and boring. why do you think people seek out entertainment such as sports or gambling or horror movies or whatnot? Sports and horror movies are a healthy outlet but many people actually seem to want to create soap operas in their lives for excitment.
alphamale Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Sports and horror movies are a healthy outlet but many people actually seem to want to create soap operas in their lives for excitment. so what...it beats being boring
riobikini Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 This last husband of mine -the Bipolar one- was a magnet for drama. Par for the course (of the illness) , I suppose. Everyone in his radar was under his constant scrutiny for whatever type of drama happened to be going on in their lives -then he would "adopt" the drama, apply it to his own circumstances- and it became a round-robin of the unexpected, the half-baked, and was always very confusing, until you learned who he'd last been in contact with. For instance: if someone's wife was having an affair, my husband became suspicious that I was having an affair; if someone learned they had cancer, my husband went to the doctor complaining of "symptoms"; if someone bought a fantastic new car, my husband went car shopping -and usually, made an impulsive purchase. (Smile) It always took only a day or so for me to go down the list of recent contacts to make sense of many of his actions and why he was thinking what he was thinking, or talking obsessively about particular things. He was a CPA, so during tax season , with all the people in and out of his office, it was pure hell. When it was *not* tax season, I could just about tell you who had been in his office judging by what he was obssessed about in conversation. To say he loved drama, though, in exactly the same sense you would attribute to someone not suffering from his particular illness would be misleading. I think some do it to satisfy their need for attention, to feel as if they "belong" -and others may be drawn to the thrill and ongoing excitement of drama because it's the way they've always lived in the families they grew up in. Some may do it because of the fear or dread that if there's no drama going on- there's no "verve" -no sign of any life, or worthiness to life. And I think many of these particular people who seem to always be mired in constant drama are more likely to have underlying psychological reasons for craving, creating, and involving themselves in all sorts of dramatic circumstances -both the "positive" drama created by very public events or fanfare that land them in the limelight, as well as the "negative" drama created by having a complicated affair, or involving themselves in some vaguely concocted but intense and time-consuming, cloak-and-dagger conspiracy of some ridiculous nature. I think you have to decide for yourself whether you want to be a part of such a person's life -or , at least, how much- and keep close watch on your boundaries and never let go of your good common sense in order to not be sucked into the drama. Aside from the kind of dramatic stunts and everyday fodder often cropping up in the lives of teens (if you have one or know one) I'd say steer as clear as you can of drama-seekers. It normally winds up being just a lot of hot air -and a huge waste of your time. -Rio
coco_milkshake Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I would do anything NOT to have drama in my life right now. When I think of drama I do tend to think of the negativity of it like other posters have mentioned. The drama I am going through in my life at the moment is nothing but chaotic, stressful and tiring. For once I would love to post on LS that I am happy and content with my life
JackJack Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I would do anything NOT to have drama in my life right now. When I think of drama I do tend to think of the negativity of it like other posters have mentioned. The drama I am going through in my life at the moment is nothing but chaotic, stressful and tiring. For once I would love to post on LS that I am happy and content with my life It will come I'm sure. Darkness before light.
alphamale Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I would do anything NOT to have drama in my life right now. When I think of drama I do tend to think of the negativity of it like other posters have mentioned. everyting in life has its good and bad points COCO MILKSHAKE>
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