bella07 Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 I met a guy in late january this yr. He had just moved to melbourne.We kept in contact, saw each other a few time for about 2-3 weeks then i sent him a message saying i couldnt handle the pressure at this point and just have a little break. One of my best friends was seriously ill but i was also having my usual chicken phase whenever I go out with a new guy. i back out with out thinking. I'm not sure if i'm scared of entering a new relationship but it always happens. Anyway thats a different story. So we were'nt in contact for about 2 weeks when one day he sent me a message saying he'd accepted a contract to play his sport overseas with a local club. For 7 months min or 2 years max. It came complete with a job, accomodation, a car.. the works. I was happy for him then he asked to see me before he left. So I did and then we got back into it. He would call me everyday, we'd sometimes talk at night, we went out on dates. He was cute, he was generous, he was caring, he was swet but he was leaving in like 3 weeks. Should i have let myself become so attached to a person when i knew i wouldnt see him for the next year? In his last week here he told me he misses me when i'm not around. I told him i felt the same way. And that he accepted the contract because i'd turned him down the first time. Right now with him gone, i feel so depressed when i dont have a message or when i dont receive a call from him. He didnt mention continuing the relationship but said he's call me wen he's back. If i wasnt in a relationship by then. I know it was just a casual fling.. it didnt last more then 2 months or so but we had a connection and i just miss that. Going thru my mobile inbox is hell. I just get reminded of what isnt happening anymore. I couldnt handle a long distance r'ship but i just want that feeling that he gave me somehow back in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
PracticalShade Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Ahh the classic LDR scenario, haha. So he's gone now and you find yourself waiting by the computer or cell phone or whatnot... been there before. I guess the best thing to do is be realistic about this and ask yourself if you're capable of dealing with the stress involved in the situation. if it's too much for you then sever the ties. is it HIM you miss or the connection/way things made you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
thoughtsofhim Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Talk to him. Maybe just drop him an email Tell him you miss chatting and want to stay in contact while he is away. Talking while he is gone could establish a great foundation for a relationship when he gets back, if you dont want to do long distance. If nothing else it could become a great friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetie2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Yeah, I agree with what was said above... just talk to him, stay honest, but before you go jumping into an LDR, you need to figure out if you can do it, not everyone can handle the stress (emotional, and otherwise) which is involved with a LDR. One year isn't all that long to go, if it turns into anything serious, then I'm sure you can make it..just stay positive, and keep yourself busy in your spare time! Link to post Share on other sites
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