When, Then? Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 I am fast approaching 30, my boyfriend of almost 3 years doesnt like to spend time with me yet proactively (to the extreme) tries to stop us from breaking up, we have sex once every 2 weeks, everyone around us is asking when we are going to have a baby including his 12 YEAR OLD NEPHEW, (fat chance of that with the lack of consistent sex) we still live in the same dumpy place with no possibility of a way out looming in the distant future, everyone around us is getting married and popping out babies left and right, some of them have only been together for a year or so...Please tell me things will get better than this!!!!!! I am almost at the point of giving up entirely on having a child now, the whole idea has made me crabby because even if I were to have a child within this year, I realized that I would be 50 years old by the time it even turned 20!! Not even old enough to drink yet! And that is IF I had one within this year! I could be within my mid 30's before we even start, not to mention the complications that come with having a child when you are older...(yes, I know, these days women can have them later and later and blah blah blah...Im sorry, even if it is still technically "okay" it doesnt mean women should test it out, no matter how advanced medicine has become) The whole idea is just starting to really seriously skeeve me out that I have started to actually imagine a future without them, which seriously disappoints me because I always wanted a couple of them. The boyfriend wants one, but there are so many excuses pertaining to the "why not now" question that it makes me dizzy. Its easy for him to put it off because he already has one... and women out there, let that be a lesson to you if you want children-- It has been my experience that men who already have a child from a previous coupling are far more reluctant to want another. Its easy for them to brush off because they have already experienced it. They have this attitude that is completely selfish because that need to carry out their offspring legacy has already been fulfilled. Far less likely to procreate again, and if by chance they do want to, its around their life, suiting their needs, when they are ready..Not all but it seems most, though I know some of you probably had better luck than I. On the plus side? I dont look 30 and I still have my health (mental health is a whole seperate issue : ) I have a looooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnngggggg way to go until I finally get my life started...and I am exhausted already... Thats it. Just wanted to put that out there. Link to post Share on other sites
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