Starlight Starbright Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 I find that anytime I get the slightest notion that I'm getting over my ex, I get SAD, because then I think he's probably getting over me too (and probably way moreso because he was the dumper). So my sadness then pulls me right back down and causes me to regress in my attempts to get over him. Because even though I want to get over him, I sure DON'T want him to get over me. Can anyone else relate? Link to post Share on other sites
jusified Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 personally I'm sure my former girlfriend is over me and is having fun with pther ppl. That really doesn't bother me, cause in the end I knwo i did my best and will probably be the best thing that's happened to her in her life whether she realised that or not. So jus assume your ex is over you and accept and try to move on. I know its very hard, i sometimes still get really lonely, sad, hurt like hell and disappointed over the things she did to me. Then I get over it and look forward to a bright future with someone I really want, not some one i hope will change into someone I want. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 Ouch. Yes, I think about that, too... how can one not? But I just do my best to tromp on, waiting for the day when he sees me in love with someone else and has the stab of regret! My dumper is already seeing someone else, but I know that she's not at my level in any way, so I can comfort myself with that. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 Of course! I think your feelings are natural. I dumped my ex last year, and we are both seeing new people, but its still wierd to imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
Ssheena Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Yup, I can totally relate to those feelings. Tends to make all the bad things about a person disappear and I remember only the good things but in actuality the bad things were too bad not to keep in the foreground. One step forward two steps back and repeat. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 SS, YES! I can relate. It hurts because he is seeing someone now. I am just heartbroken thinking he's over me. Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken99 Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 I find that anytime I get the slightest notion that I'm getting over my ex, I get SAD, because then I think he's probably getting over me too (and probably way moreso because he was the dumper). So my sadness then pulls me right back down and causes me to regress in my attempts to get over him. Because even though I want to get over him, I sure DON'T want him to get over me. Can anyone else relate? YES, excellent post. I can very well relate to this. As of yesTerday it has officially been 4 months since my ex left me. Although I am doing a little beter than the first month I am still miserable I still cry, think about him, and wish he was in my life. I have even been seeing a therapist and its been ok but not as helpful as I thought it would be. I feel like am lying nd decieving myself and pretending not to think about him because that is "the right thing to do" even though my heat and mind is wrapped around him. Going on four months of no contact at all, trying to keep myself busy, and seeing a therapist I still cry about him at least twice a week and an hour does not go by where he does not cross my mind....I am still waiting for it to get better if that will ever happen since I feel like I have done pretty much all that is available...and yes I have some very few moments where he may not cross my mind and then I think...am i getting over him? am I actaully ok??...and it pulls me back to thinking about him and how much I love him and brings back tears to square one.....this entire process SUX:( Link to post Share on other sites
Icantletgo Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 I totally relate. You are happy cause you want to get over him cause you know you can never be w/ him...but you get sad cause things weren't "suppose to be this way"...you thought you would be together w/ him forever and it hurts when the reality of the situation hits. I hate it. cause my bf LEFT ME to be w/ someone else. That hurts the worst...cause you are hurting and you aren't over them..but they are over you. We just need to breathe sometimes...look up at God and pray for the best. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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