Guest Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 I'm getting married to my best friend in about 6 months. I have no doubts about him or our relationship and noone could treat me better. The problem is that a good friend is facing a divorce three months after her wedding. Her husband claims to have not actually loved her before the wedding, but just got "caught up" in it all (though they had been engaged for over a year and dated for a year before that). Also, there is the possibility of another woman now. This has upset me greatly and shaken my confidence a bit. I have never had any reason to doubt my fiance, but how do you ever really know? I can't sleep. Any reassuring words? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
roxxi Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 I'm not married and am not sure I ever want to be, but what I DO know having friends in "happily ever after" marriages and those who just got divorced is that everyone's situation is different. There are no guarantees... there's no magic formula for a perfect marriage, BUT you know you love him and that he loves you and you should both be ready to put a lot of work into it for the long haul. I think a lot of times people give up too easily because it's become so much easier to get divorced these days. As long as you're prepared for good days and dealing with bad days, continuing to communicate with each other through those times, and keeping the excitement as much as you can, you should be just fine. imo I'm getting married to my best friend in about 6 months. I have no doubts about him or our relationship and noone could treat me better. The problem is that a good friend is facing a divorce three months after her wedding. Her husband claims to have not actually loved her before the wedding, but just got "caught up" in it all (though they had been engaged for over a year and dated for a year before that). Also, there is the possibility of another woman now. This has upset me greatly and shaken my confidence a bit. I have never had any reason to doubt my fiance, but how do you ever really know? I can't sleep. Any reassuring words? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 I'm not married and am not sure I ever want to be, but what I DO know having friends in "happily ever after" marriages and those who just got divorced is that everyone's situation is different. There are no guarantees... there's no magic formula for a perfect marriage, BUT you know you love him and that he loves you and you should both be ready to put a lot of work into it for the long haul. I think a lot of times people give up too easily because it's become so much easier to get divorced these days. As long as you're prepared for good days and dealing with bad days, continuing to communicate with each other through those times, and keeping the excitement as much as you can, you should be just fine. imo Did you pressure him at all into getting married? I would be a little concerned if you had to give him a 'push' or ultimatum about being engaged. I loved my last girlfriend, but she started giving me gentle pushes about being engaged, wanting to know my timeline, etc. We got engaged, mostly because I was pressured into it and didnt stand my ground- thank goodness we didnt get married- or I would have been like your friend and her husband- probably divorcing early. Link to post Share on other sites
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