mago2 Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 My girlfriend and i have been going out for 11 months and about 3months in to our realtionship she went on holiday and she got drunk and she slet with this guy. she claimed that she didn't wont to do it and it was rape. she told me that when it happened all she did was tell him she had to go and thats it! nothing else! and also on this holiday she met this other guy called Simon, she claimed that she only kissed him to say goodbye, but since she got back of the holiday, i have seen numerouce texts from him, and i have als seen an e-mail to one of her friends telling them that 'she got wit him' on holiday and that me and her very doing so good! she did not tell me any of this untill about 8months into the relationship, so she told me 5months after it happened. and only because i was paranoid. we have already been through it all when she told me a i thought i could forgive her and love her again, and i have sort of. were in our 11month and i keep thinking about it, and im not sure if i believe her any more. my friends have told me that they dont bekieve he and i shouldn't! what should i do?? :-( Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 RE: Oh. Man. You are doomed. I mean she has you by the horns, Mago2. After all that has happened, you believe her!? Love is blinding you. Firstly. Stop believing her. She is stringing you along, slowly allowing you to believe her words and actions for the sake of love, happiness, and the relationship. No sane woman would just walk away from rape, without ever contacting authorities. She has accepted everything that has happened to her -and feels that it is OK to mess around with other men while in a relationship. That is wrong. A big No. I believe you should cut your losses. Dump her. This is not the way you should be treated. If there is any other information pertaining to the situation it would be best you brought it forward now -if it changes things. It is a waste of time to stay with her. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Not_That_Innocent Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 RE: Oh. Man. You are doomed. I mean she has you by the horns, Mago2. After all that has happened, you believe her!? Love is blinding you. Firstly. Stop believing her. She is stringing you along, slowly allowing you to believe her words and actions for the sake of love, happiness, and the relationship. No sane woman would just walk away from rape, without ever contacting authorities. She has accepted everything that has happened to her -and feels that it is OK to mess around with other men while in a relationship. That is wrong. A big No. I believe you should cut your losses. Dump her. This is not the way you should be treated. If there is any other information pertaining to the situation it would be best you brought it forward now -if it changes things. It is a waste of time to stay with her. Sand&Water I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with one thing you say about no sane woman would walk away from rape w/o saying anything. It happens all the time because some women think they deserved to be raped because they invited the attention to themselves. Don't get me wrong, I think his girlfriend is lying, too. But I just wanted to touch on the rape comment because I think for the most part it is untrue / or a generalization. Link to post Share on other sites
boshemia Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 A lot of girls who are raped tell no one... About one in six actually. What I haven't seen a lot of girls do is brag about it afterwards. I've known girls who have pulled the save the relationship rape card, and I have a special place reserved for them in the hell of my heart. I can't tell you for sure because I don't know the girl, but it seems that she is not being honest with you. Only you can really decide that for sure. If she did cheat on you she obviously has no remorse for it if she is telling her friends. How many holiday oopsies can you handle. If you can't trust her now, it only gets worse from here on out. Sign me up for a lifetime of that. Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBlonde Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Yes, I think she was lying to you/is lying to you. Seems to me like she slept with both of these guys on her vacation. I know it's hard, but it's time to dump her. You can either stay with her and risk being cheated on again, or dump her and find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 hmm, your gf needs some leg clamps, maybe that will keep them legs closed since being in a relationship doesn't seem to work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mago2 Posted March 26, 2007 Author Share Posted March 26, 2007 I dont feel as though she slept with both of them but i feel she did something with this simon, that she is not telling me! i have said to her 'why didn't you do anything about it?' and she just told me that she didn't want to. she wenth with her parents and i know thatr if she had told her dad then he is the tydpe of person that would have dtone somethin about it! and she knows that! but yet she st ill didn't get him involved. insted she rang her sister who was at home and told her. When i asked her who it was she told me she didn't know hais ral name but she knew his nickname 'dobby'. so we e-mailed a few of her friends that she met on holiday and they said it was someone called Danny but she denies that it was him, she said it definatly wasn't him! what's going on??? also she told me that when it happened she was very drunk n cunt remember, but then when i came to asking question about it all (very specific questions that you would haveto be sober to remember anything about them) she could tell me everything! she keeps telling me that she loves me and she doesn't want me to leave her and that i should trust her! bt im just not sure!! what do you think?? ... Link to post Share on other sites
hardcase Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 My girlfriend and i have been going out for 11 months and about 3months in to our realtionship she went on holiday and she got drunk and she slet with this guy. she claimed that she didn't wont to do it and it was rape. she told me that when it happened all she did was tell him she had to go and thats it! nothing else! and also on this holiday she met this other guy called Simon, she claimed that she only kissed him to say goodbye, but since she got back of the holiday, i have seen numerouce texts from him, and i have als seen an e-mail to one of her friends telling them that 'she got wit him' on holiday and that me and her very doing so good! she did not tell me any of this untill about 8months into the relationship, so she told me 5months after it happened. and only because i was paranoid. we have already been through it all when she told me a i thought i could forgive her and love her again, and i have sort of. were in our 11month and i keep thinking about it, and im not sure if i believe her any more. my friends have told me that they dont bekieve he and i shouldn't! what should i do?? :-( What should you do?? Since you are not married and have no kids with this "woman"....dump her on the street like the trash that she is. Link to post Share on other sites
annabelle75 Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 I think your girlfriend is lying to you. I think she slept with this guy while drunk and regrets it. Instead of being honest about, its easier to tell you that she was raped. I'm not saying this is always the case, infact I know a number of women including myself that are actual rape survivors and not all of them ran to the authorities. Some times it takes years for them to even talk about it. In this case her story almost seems to convenient. I think she did some partying and sleeping around on this trip and is trying to hide it. But then again, I've never met her and really have no clue what happened. You know her and know the kind of person she is. Trust your own instincts on this matter. Link to post Share on other sites
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