Art_Critic Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Have you moved out yet ? Link to post Share on other sites
Ssheena Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 high and dry cause you are in the area of the states that is getting hammered with rain!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Hey polywog, I know how you feel about a closed gate. This is what I've been like all my life. It's not that I don't enjoy making out, it's more that I have to make love rather than having sex. Why have mac' and cheese when you can have home-made pasta with fresh basil and free-range chicken by candlelight... It's neither right nor wrong. Frustrating as it can be, it's where your head space is, as at this moment. Emotionally, you're still committed to the extent that you're not quite ready to completely let go yet. It's part of the grieving process. You know it will happen though and when it does, whoever the lucky man will be, had better be in top physical condition. Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 16, 2007 Author Share Posted April 16, 2007 Have you moved out yet ? Oh dang, I was afraid someone would ask that! Not really. I have been packing up (it's an entire house full) and my stuff, I'm afraid, is still here. Much in boxes, but still stuff that's not! . I'm a procrastinating wimp. The ex says "No Rush", which does not help. Plus I may be getting permanent housing in a few weeks, so I've been crossing my fingers that this will happen and have hoped to just haul it all there instead of into storage. Maybe my stuff being out of the ex-house is what's hanging up the twat? I was hoping that that wasn't the issue, but it probably is. I hate change and moving on! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Oh dang, I was afraid someone would ask that! Not really. I hate change and moving on! I think the ol' body might have been telling me to slow down, which I resent, because I always managed in the past to have flings with men. then I would agree with the second quote.. You can't move on to anything new until you get thru the one you are in.. Give yourself a break and let yourself grieve some for this LONG relationship before jumping into something new.. I can understand the need to numb your feelings with getting poked by someone new.. but it isn't healthy until you at least move out and start a new life. You sound great otherwise!! You sound like someone who has just come back from vacation.. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Maybe my stuff being out of the ex-house is what's hanging up the twat? I was hoping that that wasn't the issue, but it probably is. Yeppers.. it is most likely true..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 16, 2007 Author Share Posted April 16, 2007 Yeppers.. it is most likely true..... OK, change your name to "Mr. Reality". Guess if I want to get laid I better finish moving out . Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 Oh geez. I am shaking. I really have been replaced after all. The woman that my ex was seeing before is still in the picture, it turns out, and is visiting the ex in a few days for, few days. I just found this out as I stopped here to pack up more. Please, no comments about how I should've been out by now... I know, I know. :( And I think that she is going to move here eventually. I still find I have lingering feelings of hope, despite knowing that there isn't any and that I must move on. But I can't seem to banish those feelings at all. Things happen that make me aware that the feelings are just still there, like this. I asked him if it's a "love connection" and he said "I'm attracted to her and we like to spend time together". Ouch. I was asking for it, I guess when I posed that question. Ouch . I need cyberhugs, please. My poor heart is just so sore, and my self-esteem is kind of low. Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 POLYWOG!!!! poly poly pol-y! poly poly pol-y! *sings it conga style* Awww if I was living near you I would come round and give you a big massive hug but seeing as I dont, here is a big massive cyberhug instead. You really dont deserve this honey but you know what? His loss! Let him learn the hard way of how much you meant to him cos I dont think he will last with this girl. I know you love him but personally I wouldnt give him the time of day after the way he has treated you. Take care and chin up sweets! Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 Thanks coco. Good cyberhug I appreciate it! A lot! Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 I now think you should definitely poop in his shoe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 I now think you should definitely poop in his shoe. and pee on her clothes... I found a box of them. Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 and pee on her clothes... I found a box of them. Brilliant! Or you can get your dog to go out and play in the mud and then get him to roll around in them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 Brilliant! Or you can get your dog to go out and play in the mud and then get him to roll around in them. Good idea except that then I'd have to pack 'em all up again! I wish sometimes that I was vengeful, but I'm not. I'm sure she's perfectly nice. It's not like he started seeing her before the break up, tho it was soon after.... . Everyone I've talked to said she is flakey with lots of baggage, so we'll see how my emotionally stunted ex deals with that once the bloom is off. Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 5' 4" and 120 pounds?......that's his reason?....I'm sorry,but What a frigin &$&^$^&^^$#^%^%#^%@^#%^@%$&^#@%&^#@%$*&^#@%$^%!#@&^$%*#@!^%$^#%$*^%^#%@*&^%*^%$&^%@#&^%$@!^$^$#%$%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 Uhhhhh nuthin but Cyber hugs to ya ((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))) Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 Oh crap. Just a day or two ago I was going to suggest that it might be time to start a new thread since the title didn't really make sense anymore. Then I shut up thinking "does the title really matter" this is a cyberdiary, for goodness sake! Easier to keep it all in one place.... Big (and many) hugs from me, too! I can listen without advising, and I promise Not to kick you when you're down! Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 5' 4" and 120 pounds?......that's his reason?....I'm sorry,but What a frigin &$&^$^&^^$#^%^%#^%@^#%^@%$&^#@%&^#@%$*&^#@%$^%!#@&^$%*#@!^%$^#%$*^%^#%@*&^%*^%$&^%@#&^%$@!^$^$#%$%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 Uhhhhh nuthin but Cyber hugs to ya ((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))) Thanks Eric! I know, he always wished that I would lose weight! The new chick is skinny (you must've read my thread). Maybe she's bulemic. I did rifle through her clothes (yes, I know it's embarrassing to admit) and she seems to have gone between size 2 and size 10. I hope she gets a muffin top while she's seeing him. And in the meantime, that I get skinnier from this heartbreak and he begs me to come back so I can say "no thanks". Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 17, 2007 Author Share Posted April 17, 2007 Oh crap. Just a day or two ago I was going to suggest that it might be time to start a new thread since the title didn't really make sense anymore. Then I shut up thinking "does the title really matter" this is a cyberdiary, for goodness sake! Easier to keep it all in one place.... Big (and many) hugs from me, too! I can listen without advising, and I promise Not to kick you when you're down! yes, it's ironic that the thread is still the right title! Anyhow, thanks ddl. She doesn't have anyplace to live, maybe she's just going to use him. The guy I was messing around with (the one who made my poontang's gate shut) is not flakey, but he sounds somewhat similar... someone who doesn't have a home. He's house-sitting and has major commitment issues I gather. The difference is that I don't want to jump in because I see red flags (or my twat does!) and the ex does not. Plus the guy is at least smart. Link to post Share on other sites
jaycie724 Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 Good idea except that then I'd have to pack 'em all up again! I wish sometimes that I was vengeful, but I'm not. I'm sure she's perfectly nice. It's not like he started seeing her before the break up, tho it was soon after.... . Everyone I've talked to said she is flakey with lots of baggage, so we'll see how my emotionally stunted ex deals with that once the bloom is off. That's interesting...my ex left me for someone who is also flakey with a lot of baggage. I'm not sure about your situation, but I wondered with my ex, if he picked someone like that to make himself feel better and more needed...like for once he wasn't the screwed up one. I dunno. I could be wrong. Plus, aren't flakey girls with baggage great for rebounds..I mean, if she doesn't leave him soon, he'll have plenty of reasons to cheat on her or get rid of her when his penis is ready to move on to the next flake. Ok, so maybe I'm starting to get to be a bit bitter. I'm not sure how this post will help you..but you know, it just felt good to vent for a second. I hope you're doing better today Poly **sending you a big cyber hug** Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 18, 2007 Author Share Posted April 18, 2007 That's interesting...my ex left me for someone who is also flakey with a lot of baggage. I'm not sure about your situation, but I wondered with my ex, if he picked someone like that to make himself feel better and more needed...like for once he wasn't the screwed up one. I dunno. I could be wrong. Plus, aren't flakey girls with baggage great for rebounds..I mean, if she doesn't leave him soon, he'll have plenty of reasons to cheat on her or get rid of her when his penis is ready to move on to the next flake. Ok, so maybe I'm starting to get to be a bit bitter. I'm not sure how this post will help you..but you know, it just felt good to vent for a second. I hope you're doing better today Poly **sending you a big cyber hug** Hi jaycie, yes, I've followed your thread and know about your ex's flakey skank. Muchas Gracias for the big hug! I think he's just physically attracted to her because she is skinnier than I am (I assume) and she's a blank slate, unlike our 9yr relationship. I know from many people that she's a sweet person, but very simple and flighty/flakey and never has any long relationships. I do think it's a rebound for him. Anyhow, I just have to live with it. I just had that ouch happen yesterday. Just can't wait to get over all this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 26, 2007 Author Share Posted April 26, 2007 Well, the ex told me today that the "gf" is coming to visit tonight, for a few days. And here's what is shocking. I don't feel particularly jealous or awful about it! Maybe I am in denial? Maybe it's because I have had a breakthrough? I think it's because it makes clear the "moving-on" thing? Anyway, when he told me, I was cheerful and detached. I surprised myself. I have felt better the past few days. Looking more forwards than backwards, and having less obssesive thoughts about ex. Have been taking better care of myself, eating better, taking long walks, etc. Maybe there is hope, after all! Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 That's great, polywog! I'm happy today is a better day for you. The better days will become more frequent and outnumber the bad days. I don't know why the news was easier to swallow, but I'm glad that it was. Link to post Share on other sites
Ssheena Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Are you out of the house now totally? If so, great! If not, it might be a good idea not to be around to "see" them together. That was always super hard for me. Other than that you sound GREAT! Of course there is hope! It's the only thing that didn't get out of Pandora's box and without I don't think we could live. Continue to put yourself first and remind yourself that he is a JERK! Guys that bounce from one relationship to another (even a long one like yours was) without doing any introspection will eventually get theirs yet! Link to post Share on other sites
mia76 Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 You're so lucky! I wish you ever more luck and happiness... Link to post Share on other sites
Author polywog Posted April 26, 2007 Author Share Posted April 26, 2007 That's great, polywog! I'm happy today is a better day for you. The better days will become more frequent and outnumber the bad days. I don't know why the news was easier to swallow, but I'm glad that it was. Thanks, DDL. I don't know why I took it as well as I did, either. Maybe because since I've known she would visit at some point I was prepared, and just sort of grew a little? I DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM, though! I'm staying far away. Link to post Share on other sites
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