NYVagabond Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Hi guys, I'm new here but I'm so amazed at the resources that you have here. This seems like a place that I can share and not be judged. Wow. Maybe some can help me with a problem that's been eating at me. Over the past year, I've discovered the world of escorts or prostitutes. I never thought I would experience that dark world but my relationship of 10 years has become stale and boring. My SO seems to feel that she needs to ration out sex as if its going to break and she's so afraid to experiment with me. Its not like I'm asking for farm animals or for us to wear a suit of armor like some Black Knight. I just want frequent lovemaking in any other place besides our bedroom. Its become so predictable. Anyway, my bestfriend introduced me to his "hobby" of seeing escorts. He told me that it would help my relationship since it would take away a lot of the sexual tension between us. I tried it and he was actually right. My SO and I are getting along much better now that I "hobby" and I think our sexlife is better because I don't expect so much from her. The problem is that I don't feel guilty. I know I should but I just don't because I'm finally happy again. Am I crazy? ___________ NYVagabond:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
AnneB49 Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 definitely crazy...you should be bringing your partner along, that way she can see you in your full well rounded sexuality, and perhaps share in the pleasures Did you see the thread on Threesomes? you should read it, there is alot of good stuff in there... Link to post Share on other sites
Swingwithyou71 Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Hi guys, I'm new here but I'm so amazed at the resources that you have here. This seems like a place that I can share and not be judged. Wow. Maybe some can help me with a problem that's been eating at me. Over the past year, I've discovered the world of escorts or prostitutes. I never thought I would experience that dark world but my relationship of 10 years has become stale and boring. My SO seems to feel that she needs to ration out sex as if its going to break and she's so afraid to experiment with me. Its not like I'm asking for farm animals or for us to wear a suit of armor like some Black Knight. I just want frequent lovemaking in any other place besides our bedroom. Its become so predictable. Anyway, my bestfriend introduced me to his "hobby" of seeing escorts. He told me that it would help my relationship since it would take away a lot of the sexual tension between us. I tried it and he was actually right. My SO and I are getting along much better now that I "hobby" and I think our sexlife is better because I don't expect so much from her. The problem is that I don't feel guilty. I know I should but I just don't because I'm finally happy again. Am I crazy? ___________ NYVagabond:bunny: No you are not crazy!!! What ever it takes to make your relationship better. If she is not giving you the freaky stuff you want at home go get it elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NYVagabond Posted March 22, 2007 Author Share Posted March 22, 2007 Im always very safe and keep everything covered at all times. You call me selfish but isnt it just as selfish to use sex as a weapon and a bargaining chip? Women realize how much power is between their legs and bash men over the head with it! She never wants to do anything unless its something that she wants from me and then she's suddenly in the mood. Can you imagine me withholding food and water from you until I need something from you? Thats crazy but its what women do and then get angry when a man goes to look for it somewhere else! If you were starving and I refused to feed you even though I'm sitting on a feast, wouldn't you look elsewhere? Link to post Share on other sites
Road Rage Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 The STD part is what is wrong with this. Do your homework, just because you use a condom does not prevent the spread of herpes and some dangerous diseases such as hepatitis C. It is down right cruel to another to expose them to incurable diseases without their consent. And obviously prsotitutes are in the high risk category. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Hmmmm... with the exception of 2long and RoadRage... everybody who's posted so far has apparently joined LS today. Interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
eptitude Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 If you already have the STDs then maybe it would be OK -- i.e. would make no difference on that front. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 When you get caught, she will more than likely end it with you. Why not just tell her how unhappy you are in the bedroom - And, both of you should go to couples therapy. I'm sure there are needs of hers that you are not meeting either. It's more than her not wanting alot of sex. It takes two to keep the flame going...Talk to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Mirror Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 When a man wants to have intimacy with someone, what does he do? For me, I would compliment her, buy her flowers, sweettalk her, massage, eye contact, do everything romantic to get her in the sack. This could apply to your marriage. Try communicating and being romantic. Women love that; have you slacken off with your own intimacy? It could correlate to why your wife's sex desire has become slack. When was the last time you told her she was beautiful? Love poetry...If you havent tried all this, you have given up on your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleWoman12 Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Hi guys, I'm new here but I'm so amazed at the resources that you have here. This seems like a place that I can share and not be judged. Wow. Maybe some can help me with a problem that's been eating at me. Over the past year, I've discovered the world of escorts or prostitutes. I never thought I would experience that dark world but my relationship of 10 years has become stale and boring. My SO seems to feel that she needs to ration out sex as if its going to break and she's so afraid to experiment with me. Its not like I'm asking for farm animals or for us to wear a suit of armor like some Black Knight. I just want frequent lovemaking in any other place besides our bedroom. Its become so predictable. Anyway, my bestfriend introduced me to his "hobby" of seeing escorts. He told me that it would help my relationship since it would take away a lot of the sexual tension between us. I tried it and he was actually right. My SO and I are getting along much better now that I "hobby" and I think our sexlife is better because I don't expect so much from her. The problem is that I don't feel guilty. I know I should but I just don't because I'm finally happy again. Am I crazy? ___________ NYVagabond:bunny:NYV, you are a NUT job! Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 I just don't believe that OP's So would not go along with having sex in another place other then the bedoom. NY, you never mentioned if sex is actually good with your wife, is she freaky, is she reserved? Have you even tried to liven up the relationship between the two of you. You mentioned that she rations out sex with you. Maybe you have been a bad boy and that is all you get. I would work with that angle, intice her and make it fun. You can do it. Don't use this excuse just to f**k another especially a prostitue, just concerned about std's aren't you? No matter how carefull you may be there is still a huge risk. And think about the money that you spend, why not spend it on a vacation for the two of you? Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Hmmmm... with the exception of 2long and RoadRage... everybody who's posted so far has apparently joined LS today. Interesting. Now with my post it's even...6 posters on this thread joined LS within the last 24 hours and 6 have been here for a month or more. Link to post Share on other sites
harleygirl92156 Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Im always very safe and keep everything covered at all times. You call me selfish but isnt it just as selfish to use sex as a weapon and a bargaining chip? Women realize how much power is between their legs and bash men over the head with it! She never wants to do anything unless its something that she wants from me and then she's suddenly in the mood. Can you imagine me withholding food and water from you until I need something from you? Thats crazy but its what women do and then get angry when a man goes to look for it somewhere else! If you were starving and I refused to feed you even though I'm sitting on a feast, wouldn't you look elsewhere? I know a man who could have sex with his wife when ever, where ever, how ever and as often as he could handle. His wife is pretty, trim and take great pains in how she looks. HE CHEATED ON HER......what my friend would his excuse be. Fact is what you say doesn't cut it. Your selfish, that is the crux of it. The problem in your relationship is NOT your wife, it is obviously YOU! Read what you wrote above, your problem is you have NO RESPECT for women, all women. The problem is yours, not your wifes. You need to take a look within yourself and STOP BLAMING YOUR WIFE FOR YOUR SELFISHNESS. On the other hand how much RESPECT can a man have for HIMSELF when he HAS to PAY a woman to have sex with him..........I say NONE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 On the other hand how much RESPECT can a man have for HIMSELF when he HAS to PAY a woman to have sex with him..........I say NONE!!! Well if you pay a woman to service you then you don't have to actually please her. HER job is to turn you on and to pretend to enjoy sex with you and want you. This man is unable to please his wife which is why she doesn't want to have sex with him. If the sex was good she would be longing for it anywhere and everywhere. Plenty of women out there are willing to have noncommital sex with an "eligible" man. Men who need to pay for it are unable to or unwilling to satisfy a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Ireallyhatecheating Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Sex, even with the hottest of partners can get stale after a while, but the rationing of sex to a sturdy horse of a man can not be justified. They are almost ASKING you to cheat on them or go to a prostitute, maybe she's getting freaky on the side? If you only could be honest with each other maybe the both of you are just as perverted as the other and assume the other isn't. Wouldn't that be GREAT!! Any man with testosterone flowing through his blood and testicles almost always needs more sex than the SO is willing to provide. Maybe a prostitute should be considered far less offensive than an actual affair with kissing, intimacy, etc. The guy is getting his rocks off and possibly SAVING his marraige by keeping it compartmentalized and making himself a HAPPY person again. Maybe he loves his wife more like family now than when they first met, maybe he loves his children and doesn't want to a divorce to hurt them. So for the sake of his childrens' well being he nails a few hookers on the side to get his freaky side satisfied and remain calm at home. Good for the current poster, a TRUE family man and a mans-man who's not afraid of his masculinity and the true essence of man, the instinct to pro-create with young fertile women, this is science. Monogamy is a man made institution. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 There is a reason why Prostitution is called the Worlds oldest profession. Men want sex an woman know that men want sex. The only reason that Prostitution isn't more popular is that it is socially unacceptable for a woman to become a Prostitute. If it were socially acceptable more woman would be making money as hookers. I'm not condoning what this guy is doing. In fact I think part of why he is doing what he is doing is for the risk. Sex with his wife isn't risky, He does not risk getting caught, The public shame of being arrested or getting an STD from his wife. All the risk is part of why he likes the animus emotionless sex with Hookers. Link to post Share on other sites
Swingwithyou71 Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 On the other hand how much RESPECT can a man have for HIMSELF when he HAS to PAY a woman to have sex with him..........I say NONE!!! Well if you pay a woman to service you then you don't have to actually please her. HER job is to turn you on and to pretend to enjoy sex with you and want you. This man is unable to please his wife which is why she doesn't want to have sex with him. If the sex was good she would be longing for it anywhere and everywhere. Plenty of women out there are willing to have noncommital sex with an "eligible" man. Men who need to pay for it are unable to or unwilling to satisfy a woman. Yes but when yiou have sex with a professional there is no drama. If you have sex with one of your women who are willing to have non commital sex eventually drama incurrs. Basically by paying the professional you are paying her to keep her mouth shut and not call you wife as some misstresses do. Link to post Share on other sites
Ireallyhatecheating Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 On the other hand how much RESPECT can a man have for HIMSELF when he HAS to PAY a woman to have sex with him..........I say NONE!!! Well if you pay a woman to service you then you don't have to actually please her. HER job is to turn you on and to pretend to enjoy sex with you and want you. This man is unable to please his wife which is why she doesn't want to have sex with him. If the sex was good she would be longing for it anywhere and everywhere. Plenty of women out there are willing to have noncommital sex with an "eligible" man. Men who need to pay for it are unable to or unwilling to satisfy a woman. Not true in all cases. As Charlie Sheen once said: "I'm not paying them for sex, I'm paying for them to leave" Very rarely have I had sex with a woman who hasn't followed me around like a puppy dog. There are times when a guy just wants to get laid, laid and laid only. I've paid on these occasions and only with a HOT lady, no street skank and walked out feeling great!! Kind of the same feeling you have when you leave the gym after a great workout, steam, sauna, etc. It beats the hell out of masturbation (pun intented) Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 I know I should but I just don't because I'm finally happy again. Am I crazy? No, NYV...its cool as long as you use protection with the ladies of the nite. If your wife isn't taking care of business then what can you do? A man has need. Link to post Share on other sites
AnneB49 Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 I know a man who could have sex with his wife when ever, where ever, how ever and as often as he could handle. His wife is pretty, trim and take great pains in how she looks. HE CHEATED ON HER......what my friend would his excuse be. Fact is what you say doesn't cut it. Your selfish, that is the crux of it. The problem in your relationship is NOT your wife, it is obviously YOU! Read what you wrote above, your problem is you have NO RESPECT for women, all women. The problem is yours, not your wifes. You need to take a look within yourself and STOP BLAMING YOUR WIFE FOR YOUR SELFISHNESS. On the other hand how much RESPECT can a man have for HIMSELF when he HAS to PAY a woman to have sex with him..........I say NONE!!! it is not about respect...it is about genetic programming...those boys just can not control themselves...rutting is about passing your genetic material onto the next generation...the best spreads the most seed...i was just reading a magazine article about a make spider who breaks his penis off in the vagina of the female to block out the other boys who come after... the respect issue is as such...i would think that if my H were to see one of these "working girls" it would probably be because he does not want to involve himself in another relationship with another woman...he could roam without emotional commitment...that is mine!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ireallyhatecheating Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 i was just reading a magazine article about a make spider who breaks his penis off in the vagina of the female to block out the other boys who come after... ____ That's a great trick, but you can only do it once. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 i was just reading a magazine article about a make spider who breaks his penis off in the vagina of the female to block out the other boys who come after.... well he doesn't need his penis anymore cause she eats him after copulation. Link to post Share on other sites
lorr Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Wow I can't believe what I'm reading. If your girlfriend is withholding sex from you, at least have the balls to talk to her about it. It could be a number of reasons. If you find that you are not getting anywhere with her, then do the simple thing by dumping her. Are you that desperate for sex that you have to resort to paying some prostitute to service you? As far as I can see you are a complete nutjob for exposing your girlfriend to potential STD's, that can easily be contracted regardless of whether you wear a condom or not. I suppose your that ignorant that you don't know what herpes is? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 There is no excuse for prostition! sure there is: frigid wives and g/f Link to post Share on other sites
1DeadB Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 The threesomes I were in involved escorts. No strings...it was good Link to post Share on other sites
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