confused over insecurity and gut feelings

[kayjay]

Just wonering if anyone has any advice. I've been making myself crazy lately. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months.

 

Lately, I've been feeling neglected. I don't know why. He recently brought me with him to his home town to met his family. He's still caring, is with me every night. I just have a gut feeling that something isn't right. Or is it my insecurity? I don't know.

Lately, negative feelings consume my thoughts. I've tried to talk to him about it and he says he loves me and his feelings for me haven't changed.

 

I think my problem is, in the past, everytime I had a bad feeling about something, my feelings were right. An I'm scared, I guess. What should I do????

[Debster]

You're making yourself crazy and messing up your relationship.

Relax. Sounds to me like it's in your head.

[snowandwind]

you're just worried of what if anything wrong would happen and mess up your current relationship because everything goes well with you. It seems there's nothing wrong to think that way and it may be natural. However, if you consume too much time thinking this, it seemingly has a possibility to see that happen.

 

If you have a really strong gut feeling that there's something wrong, then you ONLY ponder and search what would be the reason deep down in your heart. I don't think it's a good idea to share such a feeling to your boyfriend because it might affect him think/feel other unnecessary stuffs about himself and you.

 

In our life, there comes a good time and a bad time in an unpredicted order. When you're in a happy moment, try to enjoy the most of it, not worrying over what hasn't even happened!!!

[Kat]

Maybe in your past relationships you have been right so your body is on automatic pilot to do the same this time.

 

We all want to protect ourselves from getting hurt again, and really how stupid would yo feel if it did happen again. Trust me I know these feelings. But they do break you down, they are unhealthy and well unhelpful for a growing relationship.

 

I like how you have spoken to your b/f about these feelings, it proves that you have open communication, and that he is understanding. Everytime you feel that there is something wrong, say to yourself "He is different" "He loves me" and "All I can do is love him fully and if he throws that away his problem, but he wont" and then grin to yourself about how great your man is.

 

Just keep the communication open, without nagging and things should work out fine.

 

Luck!