Guest Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 Mostly my family is pretty normal. I live with both my parents and my brother. I'm a girl, 16 and he's 18. Usually we get along really well. We do stuff and have fun together. But, about a year ago I figured out that my brother was spying on me. I found little hole in my bedroom wall. And when I looked on the other side it was in a small attic room where someone had been obviously sitting and watching me. Later, when I was in my room, I could hear someone up there. And I knew my brother was the only other person home. I was really creeped out. I couldn't believe he would do this. He was always really nice to me and I love him. I was too scared to confront him. And my parents would kill him if they found out. So I kept quiet. For a week or two I would only get dressed in the bathroom. But then (and this is the really wierd part) I was worried that he would find out that I knew he was there. So I just started to get dressed in my room, like normal. I get really nervous if I hear him up there, or I know he's there. But I've convinced myself I have to keep up appearances, so I still take my clothes off. It's been a year now, and I thought I would just get used to it. But it still creeps me out. He still acts the same to me otherwise. He's still nice to me and fun to be with. He's my bother and I love him and don't want to hurt him. What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Arazi1982 Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 Family meeting. Tell parents and him. Help him. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 Plug the hole on the wall with plasticine from your side! Isn't this obvious? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 You've let this go on for a year? OH man, show your parents the hole in the wall and TELL them what's been going on! Yes, they probably will be mad, but not at you. your brother is doing something really wrong! Link to post Share on other sites
cr8sea Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 are u sure its ur brother?? could it be a neighboor or something like that?? If it is your brother, girl go tell your parents!! Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 Mostly my family is pretty normal. I live with both my parents and my brother. I'm a girl, 16 and he's 18. Usually we get along really well. We do stuff and have fun together. But, about a year ago I figured out that my brother was spying on me. I found little hole in my bedroom wall. And when I looked on the other side it was in a small attic room where someone had been obviously sitting and watching me. Later, when I was in my room, I could hear someone up there. And I knew my brother was the only other person home. I was really creeped out. I couldn't believe he would do this. He was always really nice to me and I love him. I was too scared to confront him. And my parents would kill him if they found out. So I kept quiet. For a week or two I would only get dressed in the bathroom. But then (and this is the really wierd part) I was worried that he would find out that I knew he was there. So I just started to get dressed in my room, like normal. I get really nervous if I hear him up there, or I know he's there. But I've convinced myself I have to keep up appearances, so I still take my clothes off. It's been a year now, and I thought I would just get used to it. But it still creeps me out. He still acts the same to me otherwise. He's still nice to me and fun to be with. He's my bother and I love him and don't want to hurt him. What do I do? I totally agree, tell your parent's and have a family meeting...Your Bro needs some help...AND YOU need to feel safe in your own home! Let us know what happens... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 25, 2007 Share Posted March 25, 2007 I totally agree, tell your parent's and have a family meeting...Your Bro needs some help...AND YOU need to feel safe in your own home! Let us know what happens... Thank you everybody for your advise. I'm totally sure it's my brother. Someone would have to sneak into out attic to get there. The reason I haven't plugged the hole is because I've been afraid to do something that would let him know that I might be aware of his spying. I'm just afraid that kind of confrontation might make him act differently around me otherwise. And most of the time really a great guy. I tried putting a lamp in front of the hole but he kept sneaking in and moving it. And I figured if I kept doing it it would be the same as if I plugged the hole. I don't think he's dangerous. And he's going to college in a few months. I'm really worriede about what my parents would do. I would probably talk to my brother myself. But I'm still scared to say anything. Link to post Share on other sites
umbo Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Get a spy camera and place it in his room and see what your brother is doing then show the family. Is your brother a pedophile waiting to be hatched? Please I have sisters out there get your brother some help before he does harm to himself and someone else. good luck good snooping Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I would confront him, but since you don't want to do that at least plug the hole. He will know that you know what's going on and I doubt that he would bring it up to you because he will be ashamed. If he acts differently around you, AMEN! He SHOULD be acting differently. I think he needs some professional help. How will you feel if he faces some kind of criminal charges as a Peeping Tom in the future and you did nothing to try to help him? I think your parents should know, too. Looking at nude women is one thing, but your sister? Well, that's different. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 How to avoid this without confrontation? Let your bush go crazy and take up belching and farting... into the hole. Link to post Share on other sites
eraforevermore Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 If I were you I would put up a flag,a poster or something to cover the hole and you would still look innocent,and your brother might wonder if you know but won't know for sure.If these types of thing continue tell someone!If they stop there then maybe things can go forward for you and your brother nomaly.Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 Yeah this is a hard one,but it sounds like your brother needs some help with this type of addiction. This kind of thing would be expected from a brother like 14 years old or younger cause they are curious about girls. With your brother being 18 I would say he has an obsession that may get worse and will be disturbing in the public eye. I thought about this for a while,and I agree with the others that he needs to know that you know. Yeah I can imagine how scared you are to bring it to his attention because you have no idea how he will handle it with you knowing he was looking at you. He may be having lots of mixed feelings,so I would maybe tell your mom if you think she won't blow up. This is something that needs to be handled without everyone getting mad and yelling at him. I would tell your mom and have her talk to him plus have a family meeting. This will be very embarrassing for him,so he may take flight,meaning he may decide to flee out of the house and run away or something... He should see a councellor also...it sounds like this may become an obsession. Just remember to take everyones feelings into concideration,he will be very embarrassed about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 Never keep something like this a secret. Don't point a finger at your brother because you're only guessing it's him. Have a family meeting. The sooner that person is isolated, the sooner they can get help. Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 Make a handwritten sign that says something like "Don't look" or "Private" or "don't move the lamp" and tape it over the hole so he gets the message othrewise when you confront him when you're older (which I"m sure it's only a matter of time until therapy and trauma you do) he won't accuse you of having known but keeping quiet. Or flash a sign that says "don't spy on me" while you're un/dressing if you know he's watching. He'll shift the blame on you for 'supporting' it. I'm sure he knows that you know especially early on when you started to dress in the bathroom. So either you like the attention or else you'll cover the hole since you are too scared to confront him or tell your parents about it. He doesn't care that he's violating you and your privacy so why do you care so much for his feelings and allowing him to abuse you? He'll end up doing this kind of thing to his children since being related doesn't bother him. Link to post Share on other sites
alextop30 Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 I say, straight on confront him, He is your brother = family if you can fogive him for spying on you that means he will forgive you for confronting him and even telling your parents. There are somethings which we need help in and this is one of them. I think your brother needs your help and you really need to give him this favor and actually let it stop. I still dont understand - if I had a sister that would be something unthinkble - first to me it seems lower than the lowest and I would actually be lower than the lowest thing on the world if she actually found and confronted me. Another idea ---- INTERNET FREE PORN isnt that enough for him. But still I think that is bad that he is spying on his SISTER. If I was you I would just go up to him when he is actually there spying on you and tell him that it is low to spy on your siter and that your parents would know as soon as they come back or if they are at home do tell them. He needs to see this action for what other people see it. Dont worrie about him not forgiving you and things like that he will you are his family so he will always be your big bro. Link to post Share on other sites
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