bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 I have never heard that. I would think this guy is 40, he is smart, he didn't just settle for the first one that came along, he knows what he wants. I know a guy at school who is 41, he just last year met the love of his life, late 30s woman, they are now married and having their first child. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 Like I said I don't agree with it. But Dr. Laura who has some extreme views doesn't want her "girls" marrying one of them, over 40, never been marrieds. I think its crazy but its not uncommon. Btw, guys will also do a double take with never been married woman your age. We can't help wondering what's up with that? regards Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 Actually I don't get that at all. Guys I have been with have actually been impressed with it, like, hey, there's someone who won't settle. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 yeah but when do you stop being ultra picky? Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 I wouldn't say ultra picky, I want ultimate happiness. Someone who I feel it with heart and soul and it is absolutely right. When it comes down to it, I have to feel it. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 that's an impossible task..people can't live up to that. they always disappoint....because they are only imperfect humans. we keep searching though but at some point you have to realize you have to make a commitment! regards Link to post Share on other sites
Author CaliGuy Posted April 7, 2007 Author Share Posted April 7, 2007 I have never heard that. I would think this guy is 40, he is smart, he didn't just settle for the first one that came along, he knows what he wants. I know a guy at school who is 41, he just last year met the love of his life, late 30s woman, they are now married and having their first child. In my case, it's not like I have commitment issues. I just turned 38 and it's simply a matter of not meeting the right one. Dr. Laura has good points, but I think you could say the same about men over 40 who've been married/divorced and had kids. I mean If you've never been married and don't have kids, you're damned. If you've been married/divorced and had kids, you're damned. Men are screwed, pretty much, no matter what they do. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 You're going on the incorrect assumption that I'm flawed by having commitment issues. I just haven't found "the one." That is directed at Bendit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CaliGuy Posted April 7, 2007 Author Share Posted April 7, 2007 You're going on the incorrect assumption that I'm flawed by having commitment issues. I just haven't found "the one." It's automatically assumed these days that if you are over 35 and never been married that you are a commitment phobe. I'm the same. Haven't met the one, or even one that I feel I want to share my life with (other than my ex whom, had things worked out, I would have married). There's someone else I am interested in but right now she's just not ready for a relationship. If so I think we'd be a great match. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 It used to bother me, but not anymore. There are 2 other women at my work 35 and above, attractive, successful that are not yet married, it's becoming more the norm I think. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 why haven't you met the one? maybe there is not going to be a one until you confront why we look for the "perfect" saviour...I say there are commitment issues. you guys say you are just picky....have you read he's scared she's scared? they talk about the "too picky" woman..... Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 It's automatically assumed these days that if you are over 35 and never been married that you are a commitment phobe. I'm the same. Haven't met the one, or even one that I feel I want to share my life with (other than my ex whom, had things worked out, I would have married). There's someone else I am interested in but right now she's just not ready for a relationship. If so I think we'd be a great match. funny cali you keep meeting and are attracted to women who aren't quite ready. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 You're just trying to stir things up now with insults, Bendit, and I'm not biting anymore. I'm glad you're not a therapist, or a counselor, you're ideas and assumptions are whack. So now it's my turn for the condescending emoticon. REGARDS! Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 you were not insulted my dear...but I can see this is going nowhere... regards ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author CaliGuy Posted April 7, 2007 Author Share Posted April 7, 2007 funny cali you keep meeting and are attracted to women who aren't quite ready. Don't you have some kids to go harass or something? LOL FYI, I was ASKED by a woman when I was 21 to marry her. I wasn't ready then. When I was in my late 20's I had been dating someone for three years who broke it off because I would not marry her (she had issues from a prior marriage that made the thought of living with her the rest of my life not very attractive). My most recent Ex had her issues and I had mine. The one I like right now isn't ready. That's not to say she isn't but if she wants to move foward with the relationship I'm ready. She's a cool cat and we get along well. Bendit, you sure do focus a lot of your attention on others. Why hasn't some dame snatched you up? I mean, you seem to have to solution to everyone else's problems. Can't figure out your own? Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 cali I am preoccupied with helping others? you have 2,700+ posts and I have a little over 400 in almost two years. Of course you started a month before I did. But you also took like 9 months off (you know the lost months?). Let's just say when you are Here, you are prolific... regards Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 bendit - why do you seem to be on cali's back through all this? jealousy, perhaps? maybe you should back off or we should all block you... Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 Bendit DOES seem to be preoccupied in checking cali's profile and posts and such. Come out of the closet, Bendit. C'mon. It's a perfectly acceptable lifestyle! Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 bridget my dear I just noticed you had 700 posts in a month! girl you got to get out more! that can't be good for the "bum"... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 bridget my dear I just noticed you had 700 posts in a month! girl you got to get out more! that can't be good for the "bum"... stop it already bendit! you are about to be reported.... BE NICE! Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 Yes, I've been on a lot. I'm kinda new and the novelty hasn't worn off. I work out, though, and watch what I eat, but thanks for the concern about my figure. Thanks for the counseling, but my real counselor knows I don't have commitment issues, he'd tell you that you didn't know what the he** you were talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 stop it already bendit! you are about to be reported.... BE NICE! 2sunny..chill! its all in good fun...just ask bridget, who gives as good as she gets. right bridge? I have said nothing that would get me banned. Link to post Share on other sites
bendit Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 Yes, I've been on a lot. I'm kinda new and the novelty hasn't worn off. I work out, though, and watch what I eat, but thanks for the concern about my figure. Thanks for the counseling, but my real counselor knows I don't have commitment issues, he'd tell you that you didn't know what the he** you were talking about. bridge why do you have a counselor if I may ask? Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 There you go, making incorrect assumptions again. I went through a rough time with my breakup and job situation. I go in every month or so. Not on antidepressants, but wtf is the face about? Judgmental much? And no, you started with the insults by insisting I was flawed because I was single and insisting that I had issues because of this. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 ALL of you calm down. This isn't your thread to be fighting on, take it to PM mode or start your own thread and continue it there. I just noticed you had 700 posts in a month! girl you got to get out more! LOL I'm so pathetic...... Link to post Share on other sites
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