boyfriend w/ makeup on crotch of pants??

[Fiona]

I hope you're not going to regret doubting him to this degree. I once had a similar embarrasing bout with my hubby, something about smelling perfume on him. Turns out he wanted to surprise me with a new perfume and sampled a few on his wrist. Dumb man, naturally wiped his hands on his pants.

 

Do you have a B-day or something coming up?

[CaringSoul]

The strippers in New Jersey use cloth table napkins on there customers laps before grinding....fact....this ritual is mostly done at Gentlemens Clubs"......

[riobikini]

You *could* ask him about the stain.

 

But here's what *I* would do: noncahalantly bring a bottle of laundry spot remover to him -along with his pants -hand the items to him- and ask him to work on " this strange stubborn stain" a bit before it goes into the wash.

 

Then wait for him to come to you.

 

-Rio

[sb129]

Is this going to be another one of those threads where the OP never comes back so we never find out what really happened?

[princessa]

You *could* ask him about the stain.

 

But here's what *I* would do: noncahalantly bring a bottle of laundry spot remover to him -along with his pants -hand the items to him- and ask him to work on " this strange stubborn stain" a bit before it goes into the wash.

 

Then wait for him to come to you.

 

-Rio

 

Rio that's a very interesting approach.. Sounds like something a wise woman like my mom would do.. Can you explain the rationale behind it? I personally have a tendency to be straight to the point with people, and perhaps often times underestimate the ability of the other party to take a hint, or afraid that the hint would be ignored. What if he ignores the hint and never comes to her in this case? She'll only be kept wondering for a longer period of time before resorting to confronting him directly... What's the use of that? And what's the advantage of dropping such hints anyway?

 

On a lighter note I have to say.. Man, LS truly never ceases to amaze me hahahaha

[Topper]

My what a bunch of insecure suspicious people we have here. Here is what happened. the guys goes out to Lunch has big hamburger with special sauce. Some drops on his lap. He doesn't do a good job of cleaning it off. Now he hasa slight orange stain on his pants. The Pants are ripped because he is eating those big grease Burgers for lunch and getting Fat!

The next time one of you ladies gets a little stain on your Dress, should your Husband or B/F just assume you are just like Monica Lewinsky and performing oral sex on some guy?

[princessa]

I think you can easily tell the difference between a sauce stain and something else, something if drier consistency such as foundation that's been rubbed off. I can't imagine how FOOD could possibly make a stain that looks like it came from something that was rubbed on the pants!

[sb129]

My what a bunch of insecure suspicious people we have here. Here is what happened. the guys goes out to Lunch has big hamburger with special sauce. Some drops on his lap. He doesn't do a good job of cleaning it off. Now he hasa slight orange stain on his pants. The Pants are ripped because he is eating those big grease Burgers for lunch and getting Fat!

The next time one of you ladies gets a little stain on your Dress, should your Husband or B/F just assume you are just like Monica Lewinsky and performing oral sex on some guy?

 

it was the OPs description of the stain- she said she thought it looked like makeup!

 

Now if she had said "there is a stain on my bfs pants, and i don't know what it is" i am sure the answers would have been less suspicious#

[Topper]

More paranoid thinking. It couldn't possibly be anything Innocent. Maybe he was eating Cheetos or BBQ potato Chips! That's orange and dry or any other food or a hundred different things that I can't even think of and yes makeup could possibly be one of those things.

Oh No It has to be something that proves he is cheating. Like I said the next time you have a salad and get a little drop of Olive Oil dressing on your top. I hope that your SO doesn't have a gold medal in Conclusion Jumping like some of the woman here seem to have.

[sb129]

oh topper topper.

 

If my BF came home with an orange stain on his pants IF i even thought about it (which i prolly woulnd't) i i would assume it was from burger kings finest condiments, and wouldn't even bother speaking to him about it,let alone to start a thread here....

 

but people will ask for things on here! SHE (the OP) planted the cheating seed in her own head!

[Topper]

sb129, What your just wrote would be what most normal people would have thought." My guy is such a slob, can't dress him up and take him anywhere"

Of course if there was other strange or unexplained behavior a small stain might make you wonder.

Your right She did plant the seed, but a great many woman here added a lot of fertilizer to the mix.

[RecordProducer]

If you're really, really curious and don't turst him, you can always take the pants to a lab. After knowing what it is, you can either calm down or break up (if infidelity is a deal breaker). Frankly, I can't picture myself with someone I don't trust, but if I suddenly got vague evidence that something is going on, I would want to explore things until they are completely out in the open.

 

The color you described could very possibly be food (some sauce). The place is also the most usual place where food ends if you don't have a napkin in your lap. Does he have the habit of putting a towel on his lap while eating? Does he do it immediately or after somethin falls in his lap?

 

If it is make-up, the only idea I can come up with is that he got a blow job with his pants on, probably in his car. However, as Princessa suggested, foundation that's rubbed on the pants looks different from a food stain. The food penetrates the cloth, while the make-up would leave a stain on the surface. Take a peice of cloth that's similar to his pants, put foundation on your face and rub it in to see the results.

[RecordProducer]

More paranoid thinking. It couldn't possibly be anything Innocent. Maybe he was eating Cheetos or BBQ potato Chips!

Maybe. But if her intuition tells her that something is wrong and he is not trustworthy then her suspicions might be justified. You don't know for sure that it was food and not make-up so don't call her paranoid.

 

He has a girlfriend and gets lap dances. In my book that's cheating. And sleazy, too! Where's the border between going to a strip club and paying a stripper to rub herself off your body and having the local slut (or hooker) suck your dick in the car if she's willing to?

[Topper]

I wasn't calling her paranoid but she is a little paranoid. I was referring to the great number of woman who posted and said he was cheating.

9 times out of 10 if your getting a BJ you pull your pants down. the flap to your drawers and the zipper on your fly would be in the way and make it uncomfortable. Plus the possibility of a cum stain on your pants just makes it a good idea that they be pulled down.

[Motor35]

Is this going to be another one of those threads where the OP never comes back so we never find out what really happened?

 

I was thinking the same thing!

 

Exotic dancers (here) will bump and grind all over the guys (and gals). Some strippers will even put their face in their customer's crotch and humm or purr to simulate a 'hummer.' And there is nothing like the smell of a strip club. No mistaking that. I HATE it when I smell like stripper.

[princessa]

And there is nothing like the smell of a strip club. No mistaking that. I HATE it when I smell like stripper.

 

Hahahah what does it smell like? Cheap Baby phat perfume? I've never been to one

[riobikini]

re:

 

Riobikini: " You *could* ask him about the stain.

 

But here's what *I* would do: noncahalantly bring a bottle of laundry spot remover to him -along with his pants -hand the items to him- and ask him to work on " this strange stubborn stain" a bit before it goes into the wash.

 

Then wait for him to come to you."

 

-Rio

 

 

 

Princessa: "Rio that's a very interesting approach.. Sounds like something a wise woman like my mom would do.. Can you explain the rationale behind it? I personally have a tendency to be straight to the point with people, and perhaps often times underestimate the ability of the other party to take a hint, or afraid that the hint would be ignored. What if he ignores the hint and never comes to her in this case? She'll only be kept wondering for a longer period of time before resorting to confronting him directly... What's the use of that? And what's the advantage of dropping such hints anyway?

 

On a lighter note I have to say.. Man, LS truly never ceases to amaze me hahahaha"

 

 

The rationale:

 

It gives the person (who's pants have this tear & awkward stain) an opportunity to offer explaination for something out of the ordinary without direct pressure of receiving accusation -nor a straightforward confrontation.

 

It avoids out-and-out conflict. At least, right away.

 

I think it's good to leave that "window" of opportunity *open* -it says you realize there may be reasonable explaination for the stain that doesn't condem anyone, and that you're rational enough to *patiently* wait for it to be given.

 

Since the stain *is* definately out of the ordinary (strangely located) -and there is an accompanying tear in the clothing in the same spot -you're saying you already know there's been a mishap of some kind -and that you normally expect it to be, at least, *mentioned* as part of the routine, casual conversation in your daily communication.

 

Trivial conversation is part of nearly every couple's daily communication pattern -to skip over it, ignore it- after having set the pattern is what puts this stain in a suspicious light.

 

To be fair, sometimes, everything doesn't get discussed or mentioned -but handing him the garment along with the laundry spray opens up the opportunity to say *something* about it.

 

If he doesn't offer any explanation but takes the pants and starts to work on the stain -ask to read to you what stains the spray label says it works best on.

 

After he does that -ask him which one he thinks matches his stain best.

 

If he doesn't offer any explanation and doesn't start working on the stain -read aloud the label, yourself, and ask him the same question.

 

If he reacts uncomfortable or with anger to your handing him the pants and the spray -I think it says to you what your gut (and common sense) is already telling you: he did something he knows is wrong, or that you wouldn't accept.

 

Ask him if he wants to tell you about it.

 

If he says, "No" -you have your answer.

 

If he says, "Yes" -and does- you have your answer.

 

And what you do next is totally personal.

 

-Rio

[Motor35]

Hahahah what does it smell like? Cheap Baby phat perfume? I've never been to one

 

Smoke, sweat and cheap vanilla spray. OH!! And usually the girls are covered in that glitter body stuff. So, glitter is a good way to tell if your man has been to the topless ballet.

[princessa]

 

I think it's good to leave that "window" of opportunity *open* -it says you realize there may be reasonable explaination for the stain that doesn't condem anyone, and that you're rational enough to *patiently* wait for it to be given.

 

You know I think it would take TONS of self-discipline for somebody like me to be able to pull this off.... I usually can't hide any emotions very well.. including suspicion... Great advice though.

[princessa]

Smoke, sweat and cheap vanilla spray. OH!! And usually the girls are covered in that glitter body stuff. So, glitter is a good way to tell if your man has been to the topless ballet.

 

I guess I should stop wearing glitter and smoking hahahahaha

[CATENZA]

Smoke, sweat and cheap vanilla spray. OH!! And usually the girls are covered in that glitter body stuff. So, glitter is a good way to tell if your man has been to the topless ballet.

 

Hey Motor,

 

So out of curiosity, my husband attended a strip club and came home smelling of perfume. The chest area of his fleece sweater (which i know fleece picks up scents easily) and the crotch of his pants, like where the zipper is. Should I believe it was just a harmless grinding lapdance?

[RecordProducer]

re:

 

The rationale:

-Rio

Rio, your mind is deliciously wise in a pervert way!

 

This is what the cops use during investigation: they observe the suspect's behavior. The victim is murdered with a knife. The cop says she was stabbed and a bullet was found in her head. The suspects, who was nervously shaking his leg, suddenly stops shaking it. He is apparently confused and shocked. Why? He knows he didn't use a gun. There are signs of body language that give him away. If he was sitting still, he starts squirming in his chair. His breathing rate changes, his eyes start moving, etc. If they just attack him, he will defend himself. They do that, too, but they also use tricks to confuse him and make him give himself away. The more you pretend you trust him the more likely he is to carelessly say something stupid.

 

If you ask the guy "what's this stain from?" he will say "Oh, it's mustard, I had a hot dog with Jim." But if he sees that you saw the stain, but are not asking anything, he may act spontaneously or suspiciously. At this point he is in your hands and you can determine how suspicious he is with a greater chance of probability.

[princessa]

 

If you ask the guy "what's this stain from?" he will say "Oh, it's mustard, I had a hot dog with Jim." But if he sees that you saw the stain, but are not asking anything, he may act spontaneously or suspiciously. At this point he is in your hands and you can determine how suspicious he is with a greater chance of probability.

 

Yeah but there's an important assumption you're making here. That he knows that he did something wrong and has a conscience! What if he's deeply convinced that he did nothing wrong? He will just ignore both you and the stain and not even twitch.

[riobikini]

If he's a man without conscience to begin with -you are more likely to already know that by now (via other behavior and choices he's made prior to this incident).

 

So, if you accepted all the other stuff, things like cheating -getting a lapdance, or getting a blowjob- shouldn't ever come as a surprise.

 

You picked your odds by picking him.

 

-Rio

[princessa]

If he's a man without conscience to begin with -you are more likely to already know that by now (via other behavior and choices he's made prior to this incident).

 

So, if you accepted all the other stuff, things like cheating -getting a lapdance, or getting a blowjob- shouldn't ever come as a surprise.

 

You picked your odds.

 

-Rio

 

Well I was talking in a more general sense.. I think most would agree that getting blowjobs is wrong for a married man. But disagreements happen in couples, and a lot of times the "wrongdoer" will be fully convinced that he didn't do anything wrong, simply because he has no knowledge of his SOs feelings on the matter..