Looking for 'signs'

[unknown_soldier]

I used to just go about my life, do what I normally do, and if I ran into a girl who gave me some kind of sign she's interested--that would be my queue that okay, it's time for some relationship!! Put away the remote, forget about the computer, it's relationship time!

 

Anyway, without a girl showing some sign of interest, I'd just be like rather doing other stuff than worrying about trying to find a relationship.

 

So now that I'm a bit older and things are a little different, I don't ever get those signs no more. I try to be rational and realize this is just how it is. It's not high school where a girl get's all shy everytime you walk past her. Now they're all grown up, and will boldy walk past you without flinching. Yet because of that I just have no desire to get into that search for relationship mode. It's like my mind just doesn't activate unless there's a real goal or reward at the end.

 

In other words I'm saying, I hate being single yet can't get myself to make myself want to be proactive and not be single, and I'll only get into that mode if I find someone who shows interest, but since that doesn't happen anymore because women never show interest (well they do, but it's only after 3 dates, but the first 3 it's up in the air).. I guess I mean I MISS the kind of interest they showed when they were like little girls.. being shy, being awkward, etc. That's the thing that sparked interest in myself. I just can't get interested in a girl who is so normal around me. I hope that makes sense.. anyone know what the hell I'm talkin about?

[norajane]

The signs are there, but they aren't necessarily the same ones. Don't look for a girl to run and hide and be awkward. As you said, they are older and more confident. Pay attention to the ones that are making eye contact, that are smiling at you, that look at you for a little too long, that ask you questions about yourself.

 

Flirting is a whole different ballgame as you get older, but it's a hell of a lot more fun than girls who blush beet red and get tongue tied around you.

[goodbrother]

@Unknown; I have felt, and still feel alot like you do in the sense of wanting to see some signs that a girl is actually worth pursuing. Maybe, its that you actually don't have a need for a girlfriend. You seem content with how your world presently is even though you say you don't like being single. I notice alot of buzz about the "independent woman" who doesn't need a man, and I take it for just that. I don't particuarly need a woman, nor do I need a woman who doesn't need a man. And I think that you are an "independent man". I believe that if you ever really need companionship, you'll get out there and find someone for you.