chill chic Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 I'm 26, which isn't too far off from 30, but I'm beginning to like guys that are in the early to late 30's. I'm not sure why at the moment, but maybe I'm looking for a more mature man? I don't know, I can't explain it myself. It could be because of the career I'm in, it's more professional, and mainly consists of older people in and around the business (insurance). My question though..is it hard to find a guy like that? Who maybe hasn't been married before? What are some good places to meet older men? And do they find girls that are in their mid 20's someone they can have a relationship with? Just curious about all of this.. Link to post Share on other sites
VinaAmez Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 Isn't that werid. Link to post Share on other sites
Fiona Posted March 26, 2007 Share Posted March 26, 2007 Maybe you're looking for a man who knows what to do with a woman. or maybe you're reaching your prime and you want more than just sex. Link to post Share on other sites
PussInHeels Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I've been interested in older men as long as I've been dating. My experience with 30+ men is that they are in an age demographic that is typically more professional and more secure in a career. It takes a little while after college or whatever to get settled into a career AND build up enough financial security to pay off school loans, have a house/car/stuff, and start somewhat enjoying the money you're making. Perhaps you're looking for a mate who has the facilities to support himself, have nice things, and treat you nicely. Not to say a man in his 20s can't; just that many guys (and girls) in their 20s have enough stress trying to get settled and pay off debt. I don't think it's very hard to find a single 30+ man as mentioned above. I have male friends in their 30s who are really nice and are still kind of floating around as bachelors. And all of the ones I know like younger women, but younger women who are mature and independent. After getting themselves more or less settled, I guess they really don't feel like taking care of another person, which I understand. At your age, I don't see anything weird about wanting to date a man in his 30s. I'm 24, and I've dated 30+ men in the past. Perhaps a bit of poor judgment on the part of the men, but they weren't my worst relationships (I'm still friends with one), and it wasn't hard for me to meet them. The problem in those relationships was that I was a full-time student and I didn't have a steady job. While I never depended on my boyfriends for money, I think the difference in lifestyle further widened the age gap. Since you are a professional yourself and older than I was, I don't think you would have the same problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Maybe some of them are more together and know what they want than many 20-something boys out there? Just guessing... Also, so of them are damn fine! And I agree, know what to do with a woman... Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I've noticed that too. I mean before I never really thought of dating a guy over 30, and now (being 25 and starting my career) Im finding guys in their 30s more and more attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Motor35 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 It is because guys over 30 (usually) have their ish together Link to post Share on other sites
hardknocks Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 A 4 year age difference and you are worrying?!?! HOW silly! According to the OFFICIAL RULE BOOK OF DATING 72nd Ed. Rule 10.1.0: 1/2 your age + 7 is the lowest age you can date. SO officially you can date guys 38 years old. And 30 aint old, just older than you are! geesh:p Link to post Share on other sites
Aloros Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 A 4 year age difference and you are worrying?!?! HOW silly! According to the OFFICIAL RULE BOOK OF DATING 72nd Ed. Rule 10.1.0: 1/2 your age + 7 is the lowest age you can date. SO officially you can date guys 38 years old. And 30 aint old, just older than you are! geesh:p Hahaha! I thought that I was the only one who quoted that rule! It works pretty well, though at 24, the thought of dating a 19 year old makes me nauseous. I agree that the kind of age difference you're looking at is not a very big deal. And it's perfectly understandable. My bf is 28 and it works out really well. We're both out of school and established in our careers. We are at the point where we are both enjoying our money - taking weekend trips, going on vacation, etc. I like that he's done the dating around thing already. He's much more appreciative of me than my ex was. Not to mention my ex was a year older than me, we met freshman year of college, and he is STILL trying to get his undergraduate degree. As for meeting older men...probably not much different from meeting people your own age. See if you have any friends who could hook you up, you could try the online thing, try taking a class, volunteering, the usual. Link to post Share on other sites
DanielMadr Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Looks like Justin Timberlake cant do it for you anymore heh? Maybe you are on the verge of maturity. One reason why Michael Childmolester Jackson or Tokio Hotel (worst German invention from the end of WWII) is so popular with young girls is, they look neither boy or girl. Sort of 3rd gender. Young people still uncertain in terms of sexual preference tend to find these types appealing. Link to post Share on other sites
Dadaal Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 It all depends on what turns you on - the body, the engine, the tyres. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Most women are as a general rule about 10 years more emotionally mature than most men their age. I would say the rule of your age plus seven years, (thus 33 to 36) is the age group that you 're going to find you're most satisfying relationship, in which you're going to click with on al cylinders, ~ mental, emotional, pyschologically, intimately. Most men under the age of 30 simply lack the skill set to make a relationship work for a prolonged period of time. Link to post Share on other sites
PussInHeels Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Sometimes you just never know...my 27 year old has a mental age of about 45. I think he's already been through his midlife crisis. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I think a for a woman who is 26, guys 30+ are in the age range you should be dating and really aren't considered older guys for your age. Link to post Share on other sites
1DeadB Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I'm just 21. And most of the professors look delicious to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 Most women are as a general rule about 10 years more emotionally mature than most men their age. I would say the rule of your age plus seven years, (thus 33 to 36) is the age group that you 're going to find you're most satisfying relationship, in which you're going to click with on al cylinders, ~ mental, emotional, pyschologically, intimately. Most men under the age of 30 simply lack the skill set to make a relationship work for a prolonged period of time. yah I just had a casual relationship with a guy who is 32, when I was 25, but he seemed immature for even being at that age, so I'm on the prowl to look for a mature man at that age, since it was attractive to me to date someone older. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I am 30 now. I was about your age when I started to find men in their 30's more interesting. I couldn't quite put my finger on why, like you, but I'm sure it had something to do with more maturity on many levels, including sex. You are getting to that age where you just don't think of 30's as "old" anymore, like most of us do in our early 20's. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 I think a for a woman who is 26, guys 30+ are in the age range you should be dating and really aren't considered older guys for your age. true, it's not really considered "older" but "older" than I've dated before, with an exception of 1 guy of course, but we don't count him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 I am 30 now. I was about your age when I started to find men in their 30's more interesting. I couldn't quite put my finger on why, like you, but I'm sure it had something to do with more maturity on many levels, including sex. You are getting to that age where you just don't think of 30's as "old" anymore, like most of us do in our early 20's. yah I guess I feel it's odd, because I look back at all the immature guys I dated before that are my age, and I think...why did I date him?! I'm just ready to try something new, and more meaningful I think. Link to post Share on other sites
fallendisguise Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Most women are as a general rule about 10 years more emotionally mature than most men their age. I would say the rule of your age plus seven years, (thus 33 to 36) is the age group that you 're going to find you're most satisfying relationship, in which you're going to click with on al cylinders, ~ mental, emotional, pyschologically, intimately. Most men under the age of 30 simply lack the skill set to make a relationship work for a prolonged period of time. I completely agree with Gunny376. No offense to guys, but I think a lot of guys in their mid/early 20s are not ready for a serious relationship. They want to do the dating thing and are not ready to settle down. I'm 24 and think that in my future dating experiences would like to meet a man who is older. A) that they are mature and financially set for themselves and B) can have a mature/serious relationship. They've already been through the BS of dating, know what they want and are ready to somewhat settle down. In my opinion, women are more mature than men of their same age. In past experiences, I've always dated guys who were my age or slightly younger. It has yet to work out. The reasons for that being, that they were still trying to figure their life out, were immature, or were just not ready for that kind of commitment. 4 years is no big deal. Mentally, he's probably the same age as you, but has his stuff together and knows what he wants. P.S. He also knows what he is doing with a woman just like everyone else has said. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Well - we're wiser, more confident, better-dressed, make more money, can tell funnier jokes, and have more experience in romance and seduction...of course you should find us more attractive! Seriously though, it should be a doddle to meet guys in their 30s. And yes, they tend to go for women your age - 18-22 is a bit young & immature (unless the guy just wants meaningless sex), 30+ and many women that age are in a bit of a rush to find someone to get married to, have kids & settle down (thankfully there are others who don't want that). I'm in my early 30s and just got back on the dating scene, my ideal age would be 24-28. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookie Puss Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Most women are as a general rule about 10 years more emotionally mature than most men their age. i don't agree with this at all. not from my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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