noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Ok, i need some help here...i baby sit my little brother (4) and sister (3) every monday through friday 7:30-5 so it like a full time job for me. The thing is i am having trouble getting them to listen and behave...now i know the 4 year old is just asserting his independence but the three year old keeps wanting to revert back into a baby by wanting us to feed her, dress her (she knows how to get dress but doesnt want to by herself) and she wont use the potty anymore like she use to so now she has to wear diapers again and constantly crying over everything though she is able to communicate her needs rather well. I'm just not sure what to do with her anymore...does anyone else have or had kids like this? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Ok, i need some help here...i baby sit my little brother (4) and sister (3) every monday through friday 7:30-5 so it like a full time job for me. This is horrible! :mad: Tell them that you need to live your childhood yourself, not to do THEIR work and look after THEIR children. You didn't choose to have kids. You're a kid yourself. They are exploiting their own daughter as free labor (even if they're paying you). You should focus on school and your own future. How old are you and how come you are at home during this time? Don't you go to school? Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 i'm 21 and unfortunately i dont have money (nor the time now) to go back to school... and i'm not able to get a full time job b/c no one will hire a 7 month pregnant girl that can only work after 6 and on weekends...so i'm stuck doing this right now until the baby is born. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 i'm 21 and unfortunately i dont have money (nor the time now) to go back to school... and i'm not able to get a full time job b/c no one will hire a 7 month pregnant girl that can only work after 6 and on weekends...so i'm stuck doing this right now until the baby is born.Why only after 6? If you didn't baby-sit your siblings, you could get a regular job. Are you getting paid for your baby-sitting? So you're 21, no money, no job, no education, no husband - and pregnant! Nice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 well i graduated highschool...so its not like i have none...and no i dont get paid b/c all my living expenses get paid instead...i dont have a husband right now but i'm also not keeping the baby...my aunt who cant have kids and really wants them is adopting the baby...so the baby will have a stable home with her and her husband...once the baby is born i and after recovery time i am getting a job and moving out but right now i just need some advice on how to handle these kids... Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 well i graduated highschool...so its not like i have none...and no i dont get paid b/c all my living expenses get paid instead...i dont have a husband right now but i'm also not keeping the baby...my aunt who cant have kids and really wants them is adopting the baby...so the baby will have a stable home with her and her husband...once the baby is born i and after recovery time i am getting a job and moving out but right now i just need some advice on how to handle these kids... well you are not the parents..... so unless they give you permission to change the behavior of these kids it is not your place to do so. You only have 2 months to go. You need to focus on you right now and get your ducks in a row to get out of the house and to start your life - education, job, your own place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 but i'm the one who has to deal with it mostly not them... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 well i graduated highschool...so its not like i have none...and no i dont get paid b/c all my living expenses get paid instead...i dont have a husband right now but i'm also not keeping the baby...my aunt who cant have kids and really wants them is adopting the baby...so the baby will have a stable home with her and her husband...once the baby is born i and after recovery time i am getting a job and moving out but right now i just need some advice on how to handle these kids... I am sorry. It sounds like you're a mess right now. You'll be fine very soon. Just take charge of your life and do the right things for yourself. I would think again about giving the baby to your aunt. You might regret it some day. Just don't be surprised if you change your mind once the baby is born. When you become a mother, you are a mother forever. A different person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 but i dont have any money or insurance to support a baby or give the baby a proper life he deserves...trust me if i could keep him i would but this is best for the baby and for me...this way i dont feel like i'm completely kicking him out of family but he can still have a mother and a father that are financially stable. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 but i dont have any money or insurance to support a baby or give the baby a proper life he deserves...trust me if i could keep him i would but this is best for the baby and for me...this way i dont feel like i'm completely kicking him out of family but he can still have a mother and a father that are financially stable. Well, you could stay with your parents and do house chores and baby-sit. In addition, you can also get some support from the government. Or you could get a job and hire a nanny. Where there is will, there is a way. It's just a matter of choice. But whatever you do, I hope you're happy with your decision forever. So what are you going to do after you have the baby? Your parents couldn't afford college education for you, but they made two little kids? My husband and his brother paid for their college all by themselves, even though their father had money to pay for it. You can also take a loan from a bank. Is the father of the baby the guy from the long-distance relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 student loans for college..nope the guy i am with is not the baby father...the father went back to his gf and they are engaged to get married...the guy i am with now was a friend i have known for a long time...he already knew the way i was before we started dating... Link to post Share on other sites
mrscompy Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 U need to try to focus on yourself a bit. Pregnancy is a very important thing and a very emotional time for a woman. Although I don't have any children, I went through a pregnancy with my aunt whos the same age with me and it was reallly hard on her, especially the emotional stress and the toll it took on her body( morning sickness, swelling feet). I can't imagine U having to run around with two kids all day long in your condition. U could be stressing out urself and putting ur baby in danger. Also, if ur providing the service of full time nanny, U should be given a little compensation, even though they are paying your living expenses. Just my two cents Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 but i dont have any money or insurance to support a baby or give the baby a proper life he deserves...trust me if i could keep him i would but this is best for the baby and for me...this way i dont feel like i'm completely kicking him out of family but he can still have a mother and a father that are financially stable. I think that is a smart decision. Now you need to get smart and get your own life together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author noxnoctisangela Posted March 31, 2007 Author Share Posted March 31, 2007 urrgh i swear...i go out today to see the doctors and to have a little entertainment without the kids...i was running late and forgot to lock my door to my room.... of course my mother and step father are not watching the kids at all and they just waltz into my room and tear a whole bunch of sh*t up...of course when i'm scolding kids my retard step father is like "you should have locked your door." i'm like "i shouldnt have to lock the door...you should be watching your kids." then says back "i watch them better than you" b/s. how come when i watch them they stay out of other peoples rooms and do not make a huge mess. Of course this is also the guy who tells his kids to "shut the hell up" direct quote. They wonder why their kids act the way they do and have no respect for anyone. My mother sides with my step dad b/c she doesnt want to admit she is as guilty as he is. They dont do anything with them at all but yell at when they get into stuff or fight b/c they are not watching them...i cant live like this anymore...ughhh!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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