kitesurfer Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I am 53 and my girl friend is 45. she has two daughters--16 and 21--who live with her. we have been together for 6 months. her lease is up in 6 months and we plan for her to move in with me. i owe for 7 more years on my mortgage ( and i retire in 7 years too). i own a 3 bedroom house so i do have ample room for her and her two daughters. the problem being that she feels her daughters won't be comfortble in my home. she wants me to sell it and buy something bigger with a "seperate" living part for her daughters so they will be comfortable. to shut down the conversation last night, i agreed that i would match her dollar for dollar on a down payment on a new house and we both would apply on the mortgage app. (leaving my present home out of the equation). i have a near perfect fico score and sahe has bad credit. so..am i being un-reasonable concerning the two daughters/ my feeling is that the n21 year old not be comfortable under a roof with me anywhere and the 16 year old only has a year left before college anyway. and...they both have fathers who are local. Link to post Share on other sites
Jinxx Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Personally I don't think six months of dating is a long enough time period for your girlfriend and her girls to move in with you, comfortable or not comfortable. Can your girlfriend not continue month to month after her lease is up and see how it goes? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 I agree. Dating 6 months is a short time to be deciding on future living conditions especially with children involved. BTW shouldn't the 21 yr old be out on their own? I think maybe it would be worth considering slowing things down and exploring all options concerning future living conditions. Do not sell your house. At least yet. Do not throw away something you almost have paid off for a woman you've only been dating 6 months. No offense KS but I'm seeing alot of red flags. Link to post Share on other sites
BruceT Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 I am 53 and my girl friend is 45. she has two daughters--16 and 21--who live with her. we have been together for 6 months. her lease is up in 6 months and we plan for her to move in with me. i owe for 7 more years on my mortgage ( and i retire in 7 years too). i own a 3 bedroom house so i do have ample room for her and her two daughters. the problem being that she feels her daughters won't be comfortble in my home. she wants me to sell it and buy something bigger with a "seperate" living part for her daughters so they will be comfortable. to shut down the conversation last night, i agreed that i would match her dollar for dollar on a down payment on a new house and we both would apply on the mortgage app. (leaving my present home out of the equation). i have a near perfect fico score and sahe has bad credit. so..am i being un-reasonable concerning the two daughters/ my feeling is that the n21 year old not be comfortable under a roof with me anywhere and the 16 year old only has a year left before college anyway. and...they both have fathers who are local. Absolutely not being unreasonable. Infact I think your being over reasonable. I can see where this will head already. She won't be able to borrow the money and will go through all the usual female ploys until you end up paying for it all. Stick with what you have and get a pre-nup drawn up. Link to post Share on other sites
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