Marriage Strike By Men

[Gunny376]

Women get custody 90% of the time because men don't contest custody 90% of the time.

[Salicious Crumb]

I agree with SC on this. Ask ANY child how they felt when one of their parents cheated.

THE WS is cheating and betraying his WHOLE family.

 

Yup...one of my friend's parents got divorced because his mother screwed around on his father. To this day he will not speak to her and this happened when he was in high school.

 

And just imagine what my friend had to say when he found out my wife cheated. Needless to say, he doesn't like my wife one iota.

[Mz. Pixie]

Well I sure haven't seen many fathers get custody when the wife is an adulterer.

 

This is probably true because the courts don't really so much care about the adultery as long as the kids are well taken care of.

 

If there is neglect that's another issue.

[mrmaximum]

I agree with SC on this. Ask ANY child how they felt when one of their parents cheated.

THE WS is cheating and betraying his WHOLE family.

 

I felt real...er...special when I found out my dad cheated. I saw what it did to my mom. That really sucked!!

[Salicious Crumb]

This is probably true because the courts don't really so much care about the adultery as long as the kids are well taken care of.

 

If there is neglect that's another issue.

 

I'd say leaving the family to go off and f#ck someone else other than their father is pretty neglectful. And usually, the cheater is sooooo into their new fling that the children do go neglected by the straying parent.

 

And the cheating parent isn't thinking of their kids' well-being.

[Art_Critic]

I'd say leaving the family to go off and f#ck someone else other than their father is pretty neglectful. And usually, the cheater is sooooo into their new fling that the children do go neglected by the straying parent.

 

And the cheating parent isn't thinking of their kids' well-being.

 

Man.. you need to seek some therapy for your anger.. it hasn't lessoned.

You are not doing your children any favors by harboring this anger...

 

I think your anger is justified but at this point if you haven't been able to place some of it you are doing damage to yourself..

 

It isn't healthy carrying around this amount of anger and it seems that all your posts on LS are seeping with it and are seeping with your hurt also.

 

Please get some help..

[Sup]

This is probably true because the courts don't really so much care about the adultery as long as the kids are well taken care of.

 

If there is neglect that's another issue.

 

 

But, cheating IS a form of neglect. Neglecting the responsibilities of the family, to satisfy one's own desires, over the family.

[Salicious Crumb]

Man.. you need to seek some therapy for your anger.. it hasn't lessoned.

You are not doing your children any favors by harboring this anger...

 

what? you think just because I used the F word that I was angry?

No anger in that post dude...just calling it like I see it. Besides...I wasn't speaking from my own experience with regards to that reply...wasn't even thinking about my own situation.

 

I think your anger is justified but at this point if you haven't been able to place some of it you are doing damage to yourself..

 

Again...I wasn't even thinking about my situation with that reply.

 

If someone doesn't think that cheating on their spouse is not cheating on their kids...they need to think again.

[dropdeadlegs]

I disagree...when you cheat on your spouse, you cheat on your children.

 

And then it comes down to who would be better to raise the kids...someone who cherished their marriage vows, or someone who makes a mockery of marriage. Again...I would think a jury would want the children to be raised with values contrary to infidelity and such...and that won't happen with a cheater.

 

 

 

The betrayed shouldn't be penalized by having their kids taken away from them. If one spouse didn't think enough of the family to refrain from cheating..then they don't need custody. I say custody should go to the spouse that didn't want any of this to happen.

 

 

 

Thats a different issue...but when a father does fight for custody, even when the mother is the one responsible for destroying the family...it is the father that gets screwed over.

 

 

 

Well I sure haven't seen many fathers get custody when the wife is an adulterer.

In today's society, for better or for worse, infidelity is pretty common. Is it right or fair? Absolutely not. However, courts see the marriage as a separate "relationship" from those of parent and child. That's a fact whether or not it is fair or makes sense. Courts do not see cheating on your spouse as cheating on your children. Values are not the same from one judge to another, from one jury member to another, because somewhere in the neighborhood of half of them (or more) have cheated themselves. That's society at hand. Right or wrong, that's society.

 

The betrayed doesn't get extra points. Just another fact. However, if taken to court, head to head, a father with the same ability to care for their children as the mother, should certainly be given the same credence. Does it work that way? I don't know, but it should. I have never been fought for custody. I was awarded joint custody the first time, and full custody the second time because that was what was presented, and that was what was signed off on by the fathers. Neither had legal representation, but neither thought it was prudent, apparently. I did.

 

You may very well be able to get custody should you seek it. I have known many fathers who did gain custody, but they chose to seek custody. Many more fathers concede defeat and do not. That's simply my experience.

 

I'm sorry that adultery is not seen as reason to award custody of children one way or the other, but that's the way it is. I suggest that you contact your representatives in order to make some changes, yet I doubt that it would do any good. Still, whether or not we think change will happen, it is important to make our voice heard.

[TheMeatloafJuggler]

I have to agree, I have very little interest in marriage.

 

I'm always a little surprised how everyone around me is a little trigger happy about the marriage issue when it seems alot of people I know aren't all that happy with their marriages.

 

Sometimes I go to weddings, and while it's a bit annoying for me to hear the old "Hey, when you getting married", it's nothing like the pressure I see the single women get. Men are very competitive but we have venues like sports and careers to bleed that out of our systems. I find that women however are kind of competitive in a different way. I think it can be tough for a "Bridget Jones" kind of woman at a wedding who is getting a little older and has no marriage prospects. (Not that I've ever really seen a single woman like Renee Zellweger sipping a drink alone at a wedding...)

 

I think people get married because they just run out of **** to do. I know that sounds simplistic. But you go to college, get an education, get a job, and then you wonder "What the hell do I do now?" Society tells you its a good idea to have kids and get married and that's what people do.

 

As for the money issue, I think, to be fair, when women get hosed, they are making some level of choice in the matter. I.E. the women who just didn't pursue the child support angle when they could have. As for guys, when we get hosed, I think the same level of choice isn't really there. I think it's pretty obvious the court system is biased against men, maybe less so now than before, but there really isn't a whole lot of upside for a guy in a divorce.

 

I think what would get me the most, not the money, is the idea that I'd stand a good chance of losing my kids if I had any. I mean when you go from being a father to a 4 day a month visitor in your own children's lives, I think that's just too much for alot of people to bear. The money I can make back, having the legal system take my kids away from me is a little more than I could handle.