Southern girls better than SoCal girls

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I've been posting too much in the coping section and not mentioning the POSITIVES going on right now. I am definitely not ready for a relationship, but it is time for some flirtation and attention as long as it's not my focus in life. I'm moving to Houston in a few days from San Diego, and everyone says Houston sucks, but for $6500/month vs $1500, yeah, it's pretty awesome.

 

I signed up for match, not really intending to contact anyone until I've moved, but I wanted to get my face up, and I have contacted a few people, and a few have contacted me. I used match before in San Diego and had basically zero luck; the women who would contact me were not in my league, and I had a tough time finding women I was attracted to who project common interests. Basically, hot girl in San Diego = bartender or waitress, while I was getting my PhD. With such different life goals, none better or worse, I didn't have much luck.

 

Enter Houston: in a week, I've had more luck than I've had in months in San Diego in the past. I can find very attractive women who have common interests and they reply with engagement. Other attractive women have contacted me! It's a 180 from my past experiences. Part of it is being older and wiser on my part and I'm sure part of it is also being able to enter > $75,000 a year for my income, but more of it, I feel, is that the people there are less transient and the good looking women there want someone different. In San Diego, I've had a lot fun with women and have dated quite a bit, but I've always been disappointed in the "quality" of women I attracted. It's funny, I'm depressed now, hoping these new changes in life will help me out of it, but somehow I'm getting much better interest.

 

It's a greatly needed boost to my esteem because last summer, I was a confident machine, and I've been a shell since my breakup. I'm looking forward to getting back to where I was a year ago.