Art_Critic Posted April 4, 2007 Share Posted April 4, 2007 "I've thought about this a little more and have decided that it's better if we don't see each other again. I'm getting the impression that this is a game of flirtation. I was serious about looking for someone who isn't previously committed for a long-term relationship. This works.... Why are you worried what a man that is trying to cheat on his wife thinks of you ?? How about you just reply with.. You know what.. you need to leave me alone.. you are MARRIED.. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2007 Share Posted April 4, 2007 Blow off getting together with him. Write him back and just tell him that you've changed your mind, it's so wrong to get involved with him on ANY level because he is married. You don't owe him a song and dance! He isn't your boyfriend, he's just some married guy hoping he's gonna get laid. Sorry to sound harsh, but seriously, if you are so polite and nice to him, like what you said here this is what I sent to him earlier: "hey I was going to text you just a minute ago, but I don't want to interrupt anything or make someone wonder who you're getting a text from, or if she sees it or what. but I was wondering if you were gonna be online tonight, do you ever use your messenger on here? or we can set aside a time to meet up, because I want to talk to ya about a few things. take care He won't get the hint. Be direct and detached. "I don't date married men so I've changed my mind about us getting together. Imagine how your wife would feel, or how you would feel if your wife started cozing up to another man." Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2007 Share Posted April 4, 2007 Also, do not start talking to him online. That's a big mistake. If by chance he gives you his IM addy, do NOT add him to your friend list. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted April 4, 2007 Author Share Posted April 4, 2007 Also, do not start talking to him online. That's a big mistake. If by chance he gives you his IM addy, do NOT add him to your friend list. Good luck! Thanks wwu I'll email him with just that, I was going to text him with that info, but I guess email would be better, it's just that I have to go to work now and I don't get email at work, well my work email but I'd rather not send it through there! I want to get back to him today so it's over with and out of my head, so can I text him? or just email him still? and I never use the messenger, he had given me his IM before but I didn't add him. I could just imagine his wife sneaking up behind him and seeing the messages what is he thinking? he's not, only with his other brain of course Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2007 Share Posted April 4, 2007 Don't text him, deal with it through emails only. Keep telling yourself this "I owe him nothing." You do understand that right? And, don't worry about hurting his feelings. The only thing that will be hurt is his ego! What he is doing and how he is acting is completely inappropriate behaviour for someone who is married. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted April 4, 2007 Share Posted April 4, 2007 Chillchick, you write all these posts about how men don't take you seriously for relationships, just flings or fwbs. I didn't even have to read the rest of the post. I can see looking up a "guy who got away" to see if he's still single, but after you did so, you found out he was married. So you went and met up with him on Sat.? WTF is that about? Are you so naive that you don't know how to say "no" to a guy? When he asked you out for Sat. you say "No." Practice this!!! If you are serious about finding a genuine guy who will treat you with respect and have a relationship with you, don't go meeting up with married men on Saturdays. Stop contact with him. You're wasting your time, even posting all of this, get out there and find a guy who is available instead of spending time pondering over married guys! Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Again, why does the man have any control over your thoughts, feeling or life and why say ANYTHING other than to hit the delete key???? Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Honest to god, I don't understand why "No thanks you're married" is so difficult for some women. Why would someone give this more than 2 seconds of thought, much less post about it on a message board? Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Honest to god, I don't understand why "No thanks you're married" is so difficult for some women. Why would someone give this more than 2 seconds of thought, much less post about it on a message board? IO, if these things didnt happen routinely then none of us would be here, but we are. i think we all know how wrong these relationships are but people make mistakes and then they need help. that is why we are here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted April 6, 2007 Author Share Posted April 6, 2007 Honest to god, I don't understand why "No thanks you're married" is so difficult for some women. Why would someone give this more than 2 seconds of thought, much less post about it on a message board? wow chill tf out, you are on here too right? u must have some problem then.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author chill chic Posted April 6, 2007 Author Share Posted April 6, 2007 IO, if these things didnt happen routinely then none of us would be here, but we are. i think we all know how wrong these relationships are but people make mistakes and then they need help. that is why we are here. you're right, and I fixed it, it's a done deal. there is nothing that I would get out of being with a married guy. he didn't tell me he was married until much later after we had started flirting, so it was a confusing situation, but it's over with. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 What did you say/do? Did you end up meeting him or sending that email off to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 ^ Five ... Link to post Share on other sites
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