Brooke Posted November 30, 1999 Share Posted November 30, 1999 Well, about eight months ago i met the most incredible guy. he is 11 years older than me but the moment we met i told myself i will be together with him. i found out the next night he had a girlfriend so i was a little upset. he moved out here a month later and started working at the same place i did. his girlfriend stayed back in her state so she could finish school and move out here next june. well the weekend after he moved out here we hung out and we just clicked very well. everything we were saying the other one was thinking and vice versa. it was like we had known each other for so long and knew so much about each other. so, we started hanging out all the time and telling each other everything. two months later, we were out and we kissed which was very unexpected. he told my friend he had feelings for me. we have talked about it and he and i both expressed we had feeling for each other the other week but it was dropped after that. we have hooked up a couple more times. our relatioship is very good right now and we are very close.it has been seven months now and i think i have fallen for the guy but the problem is he still has a girlfriend. he is planning on asking this girl to marry him in a couple months but he lies to her all the time and has cheated on her with me. we just have a different type of relationship but i don't know what to do because i can't let him go. for some odd reason something is telling me to stick around. in two weeks i am taking him out for his christmas present. should i talk with him then and just express everything i feel? i know i shouldn't have hooked up with him knowing that he had a girlfriend but i liked him and i now love him and it is hard to control your feelings when you feel so strongly about someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Emely Posted November 30, 1999 Share Posted November 30, 1999 I know this sounds hard - but let him go! He is just selfish - if he really would feel something for you he would leave his girlfriend and not plan on asking her to marry him! Guys do weird things when they are far away from their girlfriends, basically because they don´t want to be alone! That has nothing to do with feelings! Beleive me- I´ve gone through the same thing! It hurts, and you feel guilty and bad and sad at once! But he defenitly is not worth it! He just enjoys the friends with benefits - status! Link to post Share on other sites
Richie Posted December 1, 1999 Share Posted December 1, 1999 If he cheats on his girlfriend by being with you, how long it is going to cheat you by being with someoneelse. Then You will be in his girl friend's position. You would realise how much it would hurt to get cheated by someone. Don't let your happines be built on someone's unhappiness. Moreover, on his view, you are an 'extra' because you hooked him up though you know he has a girlfriend. Obviously, he won't have regards for you. You know why? If he loves and respects more than his girlfriend, he would ask you to marry him not his girlfriend. I know, the people in love won't use their brain to analyse. Try to use your brain instead of your heart. You would take better decision. -Richie Link to post Share on other sites
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