Guest Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I'm 21 years old and I've been living at home the entire year with my parents and brother who is 16. I can't pinpoint exactly when I started disliking them so much, but I am in no way like any of them whatsoever. It's like I can only see the bad sides of them and don't see any of the good sides, I literally feel like I loathe them although they don't deserve that from me. My parents failed their ultimate responsibility as parents, which was to teach me self sufficiency. They fed me everything on a silver platter as I was growing up, and never taught me how to live on my own or how to succeed on my own. I feel like I really hate them and can never forgive them for that because I had to learn how to be a man myself and how to do things myself. That, and their personalities have just disgusted the hell out of me for this entire past year. I won't go into details, but I feel like I'm living with complete strangers who just annoy the hell out of me. I feel like a complete ******* for this and wish I wouldn't feel this way, but I try and I try but I can't feel anything for my family anymore. I know this sounds really messed up, but I just needed to get this off my chest. I just need a confirmation that somethings wrong with me here. Link to post Share on other sites
anewme Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Nothing is wrong with you. I currently hate my family too, though, I am sure it will pass. Sometimes when we see someone for what they really are, with all of their shortcomings, we turn our frusteration into anger and hate. Little things get on our nerves, we can't stand them, etc. Your parents are not ever going to change. The only thing you can do, and that I am trying to do, is learn how to deal with your feelings in a positive way. It's too bad that you are living with them because sometimes space is all you need. Don't worry-you are normal. Peope who have never felt they hated their family are the abnormal ones (or they're just lying) Link to post Share on other sites
noxnoctisangela Posted April 1, 2007 Share Posted April 1, 2007 maybe its an age thing b/c i'm completely fed up with my family now...so whats the best choice to do...move out...maybe then it will get better. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 1, 2007 Share Posted April 1, 2007 It would seem to me that if you are old enough and mature enough recognize that you weren't taught self-sufficiency then you're old enough and mature enough to teach yourself and move out on your own. Your parents likely nthought they were doing you a favor. remember, children don't come with assembly instructions and diagrams, operating manuals, guarantees and warranties. Those of us who are parents (I have five adult children) do the best we can with what we have to work with. We also usually make most of our mistakes with our oldest children and get better with each successive one. Link to post Share on other sites
Salam For Ever Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 Nothing wrong with you. Every one has the same. For me some time I hate my parents and some time no. Some time I can’t begin my day until I see my mother and kiss her before I go on. But what about we. when we will be parents, our children will hate us. As we do now! Link to post Share on other sites
Salam For Ever Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 maybe its an age thing b/c i'm completely fed up with my family now...so whats the best choice to do...move out...maybe then it will get better. No I think you should try how to controlling in your relation with you parents. No to movie to another place. Step by step you will make your parents loved you Link to post Share on other sites
Bogus4 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 To start off you cannot choose your family. Your forced to live and deal with them til your at least 18. Lucky you, you have the choice to leave forever..no turning back. The only thing is your parents didnt teach you how live alone. My suggestion is learn and leave. Sounds mean but werent they the ones who ruined your childhood memories? anyways your not a terrible person and nothing is wrong with you. in fact, if you stilll overly cared for your family after years of misery than i would be worried. its completey normal for you to not want to be around your family. p.s the good side is always difficult to see Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 10, 2007 Share Posted April 10, 2007 I feel ya too. My mom and dad were very protective of my growing up and didnt really teach me anything that matters...my biggest battle is the area i live in. i cant find a job that pays enough money to be able to afford an apartment (ive had about 5 or 6 different jobs over the past year and half and none have paid more than 7.50/hr.) apartments cost 800+ a month not including utilites....even if i was to have a friend or two move in with me it would still be too expensive to live. my parents say they understand and i have heard them telling people about my problem in a caring way...then in a matter of days they are yelling at me for still living at home and want me to move out...never mind they ask way too much of me around the house for what i get in return...i come home from working 9 hours and they are cooking dinner...but somehow i have to cook my own dinner, never do they ask me if i am hungry...its fun watching my family stilling down eating a steak dinner or something else as good and i am eating mac and cheese...or a bowl of ceral because i am too hungry to cook anything and too tired...ive mentioned it to them and it doesnt change. they use to leave a couple lights on for me when im at work late or out with friends...but they dont anymore...i come home to a dark house. im not allowed to watch tv with them...and if im watching something they come and change it on me...with out asking... never mind my gram ignores me, i hear about her calling my sister and talking with her and going out to dinner with her....i never get invited, and shes always to busy to go do anything with me.... my aunt and uncle are self centered pigs who i worked for and i got paid ****... 650 an hour (which i later found out was a dollar under everyone...including new hires) and they sit there and throw money away like there is no end... idk what it is....i dont have a drug or alcohol problem, i work 50 hours a week 65 in the summer, idk my family is F***ED! i thought home was suppose to be that soft spot to fall too when u are in trouble where u know ur family will always be there for u...well its more like a hard rock that i cant seem to get out from under... Link to post Share on other sites
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