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My situation is a little different. We met online and we haven't met in person yet. We've talked for a few months now and he was scheduled to come to my town next month for something and we planned to meet then.

 

Lately he'd been acting argumentative. Nothing I could do was right. The more I tried to talk about it, the worse it got. I wondered if he was doing this to break up or if this is how he really was (which isn't how he was to begin with). He was still calling and emailing however.

 

When we first began talking he was calling and emailing constantly and he pretty much had put me at the top. Then one week, things just changed.

 

Last week, I sent an email to him and some of it was on how some things he said made me feel. The rest of the email was rather light. I tried to phrase things very carefully in a way so as not to accuse or anything.

 

He emailed back that he's tired of explaining himself and of my criticisms and wants to take a break right now and will contact me if and when he wants to continue.

 

Silly person that I am, I emailed apologizing for what I'd said, telling him how bad that I felt that I hurt his feelings, etc.... I didn't beg or plead or ask him to reconsider however (things I've done with men in the past). I told him that I'm sorry things didn't work out and that I hope that he finds what he's looking for and that I'll miss him.

 

I sent that a few days ago. Then the next day I sent a few jokes that I sent to a group of people--not to just him. I haven't sent anything else.

 

Here's the problem. Going NC is difficult in my situation because he will be here in a few weeks and we don't live anywhere near each other and I think I'd still like to meet him after all this time. Or at least I'd like to know how he feels about it.

 

If he were local then I could go NC without a deadline but this is a little different.

 

Any thoughts on this?

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