NC when Long Distance

[Guest Y]

I agree with everyone else. You have alot of experience trying to help you and you won't listen. If I was him I wouldn't respond either.

 

We are trying to help you but you have to help yourself. He doesn't owe you anything. Stop contacting him.

[lorr]

If that's the case then, I really want to let him have it. He put me down to build up himself and I can do the same.

 

One thing you seriously need to learn about relationships is that anyone you decide to get with or vice versa is not obligated to you whatsoever.

Although you still want answers he is not obliged to give you one, so therefore you need to accept that the best you can, and move on.

 

How did you come to the conclusion that he put you down, so that he could build himself up? All he wanted to do was move on and date other women, so why should he be penalised for that? It seems to me that you don't value yourself enough, as you wouldn't be going on like this.

 

Do you think by telling him off that he's going to miraculously have a light bulb moment? If anything you are the one who will come off looking stupid, and I can guarantee that his perception of you won't be nice.

 

 

[soft heart]

Honestly, I have never read such a story. First of all, you have never met him in person, you have never touched him, you have never seen his face in person, you have never kissed him, touched his hand and you want to tell him off for not wanting to see you? for not wanting to be with you? I am sorry but you sound a little strange.

 

I honestly don't understand these cyber relationships. I may be a little traditional in a way that I believe in meeting people in person but this is ridiculous. And everyone on this board is trying to help, trying to make you realise that you are beahving in such a needy and desparate way, and you get angry with them?

 

How old are you please???

 

You need to grow up and learn one thing: Respect others' boundaries and limits. I have learned myself, there is nothing worse than someone who keeps bugging you, entering your personal space when you clearly tell them you are not interested. It's so unattractive and so annoying!

 

I am going through a similar situation. THe difference is that we have never had a relationship but my friend cofessed to me that he is falling in love with me. I have a boyfriend, whom I love very much and would not leave him. So I made it clear to my friend that I am not interested but the way he reacts is so creepy. Firstly, he got upset and angry that I don't feel the same way, which totally made me not want to hang out with him. He is bugging me all the time, questioning me about things and all I want him to do is to BACK OFF!! but he won't.

 

so my advice to you is: back off please otherwise he is going to hate you. you do not own him and remember he does not owe you anything at all. he has not married you so he has no responsibility to you. he is a free indidvidual, who has the right to decide whether to meet you or not. you cannot force anyone.

 

honestly I had to say something because i could not believe your reactions.

 

and by the way, even if he has met someone else so what???! what are you going to do about it? He is not your husband so leave him alone, you are harrasing this guy and I would personally find it extremely irritating especially if I said in the beginning that I will call if I want to call. You did not respect what he has told you so I doubt he will want to continue.