Shrink: male or female, what's better?

[Fleur]

Oops not quite sure what happened there..............

[enoughisenough]

Like I said in the past, there is nothing wrong with seeking help. The US has a glut of people on prescriptions.. sometimes you just need a little kick. If you can't get the guy to go to family therapy, then go on your own and last resort try a psychiatrist.

[Trialbyfire]

Hey RP,

It's personal preference which gender works for IC or MC. Myself, I have a female IC because she makes for a better sounding board and understands the female psychy better. Not all, but the average male, given a problem, will try to fix it right away which doesn't work for me because I want them to help me tailor-make tools to get there, so I can continue to use this methodology to draw my own conclusions.

[enoughisenough]

RecordProducer, I'm sorry to hear about the pain you're in. I can't imagine how awful it must feel to have a husband who puts his other family members first and to have in-laws that reject you. Add in a totally different country, well, that's just super, super tough. You obviously are very strong, though, to be coping at this point and be so articulate (in a non-native language) and so no-nonsense in your attitude and other posts.

 

I hope you are seeing a counselor now. I tend to prefer women counselors. I'm seeing one now and I just love her. She helps me enormously and I always feel better when I leave her office.

 

Things will get better for you, RP!

 

 

She's from England. English is her native language.

[Art_Critic]

You also have anger issues, self-righteous issues, place yourself on a pedastal in which you dont belong and treat others disrespectfully. Seeking a psychiatrist is probably the best thing you could do. Your husband and his family are suffering and I don't buy it for one second that they are the sole contribution to all problems. When I hear their side, I can make a more clear observation.

Family is forever, you are just a wife for a year. I'm sorry, but how many times has this man been married already? He clearly doesn't value marriage or wives. You knew the situation you were getting into, so he is not to blame. You can't go into a marriage figuring that you could change your husband which you most adamently said you wanted to try. I don't think you are capable to learn from your mistakes. But good luck finding someone to help you there. But right now you are in a foreign country, far from family with no support system. It's just a shame you had to bring your children into this whole mess. But overall, you said he is a terrific father figure, so at least you have that and his money.

From what I can tell, you both are using eachother so maybe you belong together.

 

Like I said in the past, there is nothing wrong with seeking help. The US has a glut of people on prescriptions.. sometimes you just need a little kick. If you can't get the guy to go to family therapy, then go on your own and last resort try a psychiatrist and get on some meds.

 

In her original post she was asking whether a male or female therapist is the best to go to..

 

You never answered her original post..