vili19 Posted December 17, 2002 Share Posted December 17, 2002 Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and 7 months, and in our 3rd and 4th month I have lied to her about some things and we love each other a lot, and I think right now our love is what's keeping us together, the thing is she tells me she does not trust me and can not even trust me, and we have just taken a week off to see how things go and what will happen. I am 20 years old she is 17 , out relation ship is allways been faithfull I have never cheated on here nor did she do the same thing do you think that we need to brake up??? Is there anything that I can do to help the situation and what can you tell me about this? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 17, 2002 Share Posted December 17, 2002 Love can't keep two people together forever, especially if the trust is low. I hope you have learned to tell your lady the truth and avoid these kinds of problems. I don't think you stand much of a chance keeping a romance together with a 17-year-old, even if you had done nothing wrong. A lady of that age is growing rapidly and will want to explore the universe quite a bit before she settles down. There is no doubt in my mind that she is using her current tactic as a way of getting away from you so she can move on with her life. Nothing to get upset about, that's just the way it is. If you're going to date the young chirpies, you've got to pay the price. The price is not being with them a very long time. But you may not be ready to settle down either. Regardless, I urge you to consider dating ladies your own age...and even then you may have to put up with a lot of this flakey type crap for many years before you meet somebody who's got their head on right. As risky as dating the teenyboppers is, you'll make it a lot more difficult on yourself if you don't start telling the truth...always. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted December 18, 2002 Share Posted December 18, 2002 That might help us provide some insight. Link to post Share on other sites
CityGyrl Posted December 19, 2002 Share Posted December 19, 2002 I think to offer good advice, we do need more information. You said you have lied to her in the past, but yet you haven't cheated on her. Obviously what you may have lied about (if it's true you haven't cheated) before may be the basis for her lack of trust. But I say you both (especially her) are very young. You both have your whole lives ahead of you. Why would you want to rush it this soon? Maybe you need to separate a little longer than a week. I think when you're that young, your views and ideals change with the wind. I think you need to take a longer break to see just where your interests are at this point. Time heals old wounds. If you guys were meant to be than time will have allowed both of you to work on your insecurities before you come back together. If not, no harm no foul. My advice is to at least wait until she is eighteen and work on being friends first. If this relationship is going to be serious, you ought to at least have that down pack before you move on to the next challenge. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted December 19, 2002 Share Posted December 19, 2002 I would just like to point out that a young relationship can work! Link to post Share on other sites
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