rckt365 Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 Dated my LD g/f for six months (knew each other for a year). Once every two months, we'd fly and spend a week with the other. 3 months ago, (tears rolling down her cheek) she told me that I was 'the one' (I agreed she was mine) ... she asked what she'd ever done to deserve me ...etc. ... 3 weeks later, she calls and informs me, she couldn't take being away from the man in her life. But because of her recent move (new town she loved) and the fact that she couldn't leave her newly started business, for what she figured would be at least a couple years, she broke it off ... ... next week - we each sent (she initiated) several heartfelt texts. The last text she sent was "...I do hope we are able to see each other again..." and I replied "... no worries ... we will, someday " ... 2 weeks pass, she calls, wondering how I'm doing ... last thing she asks "... are we good ?" ... 2 weeks pass, I call ... 6 weeks pass, she leaves voice message, I return the call ... She proceeds to tell me "...I don't want to do this (her business) anymore, I don't want to live here anymore, I don't like it or the people like I thought I would..." And then she says "... I'm doing this for one more year if I can stand it! and then I'm willing to move anywhere in the country !" She made a point that we keep the other informed as to how things are going, but completely avoided any talk about our social lives. In fact at one point she even said "I don't want to know about anyone you're seeing ... it's none of my business!" And then proceeded to fish for at least a little hint. Since then, I see (via online chat site) that she MAY be seeing someone and if it's right she's rather smitten with him (or maybe it's me?). So my question is; WHY call me at all? What's she up to? Other than waiting it out, and getting on with my life (like I have been), what should I be doing about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Not_That_Innocent Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 I think she cares for you, but wants to move on. But at the same time she is afraid to move on and wants to keep you on her side just in case things don't work out. I think you should continue to move forward like you have been. If and when she decides to come around for good and you're available, go for it. If not - her loss!! JMO. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 the answer you seek lies there... Link to post Share on other sites
Author rckt365 Posted April 3, 2007 Author Share Posted April 3, 2007 Dr. strangelove - I need some help with my eyes, cuz all I see are questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Faith2 Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 I think she still cares for you and is regretting the LD situation and suffering badly from the pain of separation from you. I've been in two LDRs, and I know firsthand how excruciating it was when I wanted my man physically present in my life. I often tried to break it off because I was so utterly miserable and lonely when he wasn't there with me. LDRs are tough... not for the faint of heart. You've absolutely got to have an end goal of ultimately being together, or else the pain of being apart becomes just too hard to bear. She seems to be testing the waters to see if you're feeling regrets, too. At the same time, it's understandable that she doesn't want to risk looking like a fool if you've already moved on with someone else. Listen... the foundation of any good relationship is good communication. It's not too late to start. Why don't you gently open up a dialogue with her and talk about it? Link to post Share on other sites
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