MikeI Posted April 3, 2007 Share Posted April 3, 2007 Ahoy! My name is Mike, I'm only 15 and already i'm already having problems. I have never been much of a social person, when we were younger talking to kids was easy, it was all pokemon and anything you said went. My problem today is that I have nothing left to say. Even when i'm with a group of friends I feel that i'm the person who just adds onto the topics my friends bring up. When I hang around with the girl I like, one on one. There isn't much to say, i've know her for the longest time and to ask hobbies and such would just be awkward. Also asking what they had planned for the night only buys up a few minutes.. so that doesn't work out So overall, what in the world.. do you talk about with friends, and girls? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 Same problem. I dont talk much. Honestly, I hate being in social situations. Having to live up to the expectations of the other people almost makes it seem like acting. Especially with girls, its like you are expected to be entertaining. Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 Most likely they think the same thing as you do. What I do is when I feel like talking I talk and when I don't I don't. That way there is no pressure. For me it takes a long time to get to know someone and the more I get to know them the more I find out about them and their problems, etc. and the easier it is to talk to them about something. In social circles I also add to the topic rather than start one myself but occasionally I do start my own. It depends if the topic is something that I have experience in. I think there is nothing wrong with being a listener and enjoying yourself laughing with others. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueSoul Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 I'm experiencing the same problem too. When I was little I was really open and loud. Today I'm kinda the opposite. Do others percieve you as shy? cus I think it's important of how others see you. It's difficult to try and being socialable when people see you as shy/unsocialable, etc. I believe first impression counts. Even though if you're a totally whole new person people are still going to perceive you as shy, because that's how they initially see you as before, and it would be very hard to change their point of view. It's unfair I know, I experience that a lot. Do you have best friends? Maybe you could start being more sociable and talkative with them a little at a time. That way maybe they will slowly change their point of view of you. Link to post Share on other sites
baby_bear_whitney Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 hey thre wha tis up okay bey Link to post Share on other sites
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