Blondie4 Posted December 19, 2002 Share Posted December 19, 2002 OK i was at my good friends party and this kid that I see like every weekend but never talked to was there. We ended up talking and by the end of the night making out. The roads were bad so he called me when he got home to tell me he made it ok. The next day he called me and we ended up going out to a dance club he was with me most of the night and we danced after that he came with me to my friends house to hang out for a while and when he left he said that he would call me the next day and he did and we talked all day! A few days later we decided to talk about us and he said that I was a really kool girl and he would really like to get to know me and then see what happens. so made plans to do something the next day but he called and said that he had to work late so it hought no biggie so we made plans for the next day well i new that he had been having family problems and when he came home from work he found his mom crying over them so we didnt get to do anything altho we talked HE was pretty down and said that we should just be friends for now b/c of all the problems that he had going on i was upset but i understood so we made plans for the next day and he called and said that b/c of the night before that he wanted to hang out with his friends and that we would spend the weekend together I said ok but i am scared that he is going to cancel but either way i will see him b/c we hang out at the same place on saturdays. I really like him and he helped me get over a hard ex and everyone says that he is real sweet! so my question is, is he interested of just playing games??????? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 19, 2002 Share Posted December 19, 2002 It seems he's interested but he's just going through some difficult stuff right now. If you want to have him in your corner, back off and give him some space, be patient, and let him make the moves. Meanwhile, don't worry about him. Do your own thing. If you really want to get him interested, cancel on him. Yeah, it's a game...but what better things do you have to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted December 19, 2002 Author Share Posted December 19, 2002 [color=blue][/color] Thanks Tony I think I will take ur advice! But today I looked at his info and it said that he needs a girl so what does that mean? We are getting together this weekend should I just see how that goes? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 20, 2002 Share Posted December 20, 2002 You looked at his info and it said he needs a girl??? That sounds strange. I think you ought to ask him about this straightaway. Nothing like getting information directly from the source. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted December 20, 2002 Author Share Posted December 20, 2002 Well Tony I asked him about it and it led to a fight and he said that well damn..i mean it seems to me like you're all trippin over this..just because i have been unable to hang out with you..look i'm sorry..but i have alot of stuff goin on..and i told you this isn't the best time for anything..so you know what..maybe its better that we just talk..and not worry bout the whole hangin out thing..and let it happen when it happens.. So then I said that it seems like thats what he wanted from the beginging b/c of all the things that he said about not being able to hang out and he said its not necessarily what i wanted from the beginning..it is just the events that have happened in my life over the passed week have determined what i have to do i have no choice....i don't...and if just for a minute...someone would TRY to understand..that would be great...sorry for sounding like a dick..but i don't know what else to say..and before i say something i regret and something that doesn't need to be said..imma go.....stay sweet....peace then I started crying and my friend called him and talked to him and he said that he just needs to hang out with friends right now and that if i didnt understand that then i wasnt the girl for him but i dont get it b/c he said that he wanted to be friends for now then he says that??? and i do understand that he wants to hang out with friends and i even told him that but he is the one that made the plans for this weekend and now they are canceled.....I am so hurt and I dont know what to do and it is right around the holidays help please............. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted December 20, 2002 Share Posted December 20, 2002 Let him deal with whatever he needs to deal with. He gave you fair warning that you would not be a priority until he has sorted out this stuff. Don't pressure him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted December 21, 2002 Author Share Posted December 21, 2002 Yeah I think at this point if I want anything to ever happen that I going to have to give him space even though it is hard. I just hope that it doesnt take a long time. Should I wait around for him or move on? I mean what happens if all this passes and then things dont work out and I missed out of something else? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 21, 2002 Share Posted December 21, 2002 You had a good talk with him and he fidgetted all over the place. He's unstable and I also don't think he's being honest with you at all. The guy is playing games with you and you just don't need that. You had your talk and you got your answer...now move on and forget about him. Why would you want a guy who doesn't understand how you feel and respond a little more empathetically to that??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted December 21, 2002 Author Share Posted December 21, 2002 Yeah that is an idea but I dont know if I can. I thought from the begining that he might be lying but I didnt want to believe it but now that u said it to it is probably true. I might see him tonight but I am not sure because we might be at the same place. If tonight goes bad and he barely talks to me then I am going to take your advice and forget about him and move on and then if he comes I will know that he wasnt playing games.! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted December 24, 2002 Author Share Posted December 24, 2002 Tony I know for a fact that I am taking ur advice now b/c I looked in his profile and this girl wrote stuff about her hooking him up with one of her friends so I say forget him thans for all the good advice:) Link to post Share on other sites
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