Guest Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 I have a question about the situation which may not be so common, but here it is: We all know that family (children, in-laws...) is often the criucial, deciding point for a MM when considering D. But even so, he usually does not need to worry that his children, if siding with their mother, will cut contact with him (I say usually, not always). Now what about a MM, who has no children of his own but only adopted children of his W from her previous marriage/relationship? Of course I mean if he is VERY CLOSE to these children, much closer than to his W, for whom he has no/little love. Now this family is his ONLY family. So, despite the fact that the marriage is loveless, still, the W has provided him with a whole family, with whom he has spend perhaps 20 years of his life, having fun with the children, etc., plus all the friends and in-laws brough by the marriage and the children (who have grown up under his care). Now if this MM is deeply in love with an OW (not necessarily having an affair, but just really love), and if the prospect of a D is that the adult children will, out of sympathy for their mother, be estranged from him, and if he and the OW will/can not have children together, then what he's likely to choose? Will he choose to stay in his adopted family with a loveless marriage (knowing there's another woman with whom he's deeply in love), or will he choose to be estranged from his current family, and spend the rest of his life with the woman he loves (and who loves him), but with no other family member? What is more important to a man? True, devoted love and companionship with one sole woman, or a whole family but loveless marriage? Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
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