Dadubwa Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 My girlfriend of I had dated for 2 years before she broke up with me. We were completely different people, but for some reason became an item very fast. We broke up about a week ago, and every single hour, of every single day I'm upset. She was everything to me and I wanted nothing more than to make her happy. But she wasn't happy with me. She showed no remorse when we broke up, didn't cry once, didn't seem to care too much about how I felt. She obviously didn't care about much of our relationship at all. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I hardly laugh, I cry every night, I'm so shut down, I don't go out and if I do it's to drink and then the next morning it's 100 times worse. For some reason I used to be outgoing, when I started dating her I became quite, submissive and shy. To top it off I have nothing to do where I am in my life. Literally nothing to do. I dropped out of 3 of my 5 college classes, I quit my job, I've stopped doing things I used to enjoy. I've turned to drinking almost 5 times a week, and then like I said the next morning everything about my life hurts 10 times more. I feel so worthless, I feel SO hopeless, I'm hurtting so bad inside. I'm so torn up and all I want is to move on with my life and feel happy again. I've lost all meaning in my life...I had lost it awhile before we broke up, and now that we have...it's 100 times worse. I need help. I'm honestly losing it. Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 :confused:maybe anti-depressants would help you....?i just got some....don't know if they help but people who take them say they do.....anyone on this site who knows my story would understand....& i found otu it's okay to get help....when you need it....lol:love: Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 :confused:maybe anti-depressants would help you....?i just got some....don't know if they help but people who take them say they do.....anyone on this site who knows my story would understand....& i found out it's okay to get help....when you need it....lol:love: Link to post Share on other sites
lonelybird Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 For some reason I used to be outgoing, when I started dating her I became quite, submissive and shy. From this, the break-up is a good thing for YOU, in a general and long term sense. Sometimes we are in the situation that we lost the right perspective. You will be happy again, 100 times better. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 The first couple of weeks are really tough. Hang in there, Dadubwa. You'll feel better and you'll heal, eventually. Give it more time. Try and get back to work. It will keep you occupied and make you think of other things (even if you don't want to, right now). Looking for a meaning in life? That's a tough question! Everyone has a different meaning and purpose to their life. Why don't you go with this assumption, for now: The meaning of your life is to keep moving, keep learning and keep improving. It's about how you handle the bad times, and how you take your life back on track. That's very difficult, so it's a good way to know what you're made of. To discover your potential, that's the meaning of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
alextop30 Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 Ok I have to aknoledge your situation is bad but that as bad as it seems again. There is really 4 suggestions that I want to make: 1. Stop Drinking - Dont comletely stop because if you tell yourself you will not do something - you end up doing more of it at the end. Cut major on the drinking 1 or 2 nights going out to a bar for drinks and not getting drunk I know how it feels if u try to drown the pain in alcohol. 2. Get back in school - I am in college and I know what it is in there the very same reason that you should stay in. It is the perfect place to meet new people when you are ready also the perfect place to find friends that would listen to you. 3. Reroute your focus. She has been an enourmasly major part of your life as I see so you have to divert your attention from the fact that she is gone. Some suggestion is go get a memebership at the gym - work yourself out to the point where you can fall asleep on your feet -- that does not have worse concequences in the morning other than a little muscule ache. You can also go get signed up in a team basket ball, bowling, tennis-- anything you want. You need something to occupy your time so you are focused somewhere else. 4. I would suggest going to see a Psychiatrist. They do help and he/she might help you to deal with your pain a little easier. Some schools do have shrinks that you can see for free - paid by the school. All you need to do is reroute attention and focus on some goals which would give you a very big push in the direction of healing. No where did I say forget her. The truth is you will not forget her never because first love is kinna hard - I still remember my first gf - I actually talked to her a while back - it ended ugly too but that is beside the point. You will still have hard time but it is only you that can help yourself come out of this hole that you are in. But everything is slow and you have to take it one day at a time. Hope I was able to help and sorry for the spelling have bad splling Link to post Share on other sites
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