LittleLady Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 It is no threat to YOU or your family, he "touched" a stranger, a most likely 19 yr old child, with a 24 IQ, and more plastic in her tits than she has brains, who probably has an idiotic BF who beats her up and takes her money for coke.---------------------------------------------------------------------Wow, women sure do say anything against other women in order to make themselves feel better. Too funny if you ask me. OR it's possible this could be a bright girl who needed this short-term stint to pay off college debt. What's sad is that you probably WISH that were the case. You are pathetic and so is your hubby if you ask me. Link to post Share on other sites
foxyfit Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 This doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want you. I know men who act totally wild in these settings but they are still true to their wives/lovers. Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellFire Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 This doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want you. I know men who act totally wild in these settings but they are still true to their wives/lovers. How is touching another woman's body remaining "true"?? Link to post Share on other sites
messit Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 A few seconds of mildly arousing contact? We're not even talking about continued, compulsive behavior or engaging in "additional services" that can often be arranged if you know how to go about it. Is being pressed against a stranger at a concert or on public transit cheating? Masturbation? If you're so insecure that you can't handle your H having a lap dance once, I guarantee that you would not be able to handle being in his head when he has personal alone time. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 ...but my concern (as a wife) would be this: what if he thinks about her while he is making love to me... when he masturbates... What if he wants it again, or more. In all seriousness, Lizzie, by your own account you aren't a wife and never have been. Do you think it's possible your approach is colored by your "profession?" The men who come to you aren't exactly the finest examples of those in committed mariages which, ideally, are based upon mutual loyalty. Link to post Share on other sites
CaringSoul Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 We are not talking about a "few minutes" of arousal, we are talking about the lying and why that was so necessary. That is the part that is not understood. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 A few seconds of mildly arousing contact? We're not even talking about continued, compulsive behavior or engaging in "additional services" that can often be arranged if you know how to go about it. Is being pressed against a stranger at a concert or on public transit cheating? Masturbation? If you're so insecure that you can't handle your H having a lap dance once, I guarantee that you would not be able to handle being in his head when he has personal alone time. If you are pressed against a stranger at a concert I'm pretty sure they have clothes on. I am also pretty sure they aren't going to rub naked body parts all over you. Its not about being insecure for some people not wanting their SO to recieve lap dances. Its about wanting to be with someone who actually values you and your relationship enough to not want a naked strange chick rubbing herself all over him. Link to post Share on other sites
Carbine Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 with the fantasy part... the thing is.. he acted upon this fantasy but my concern (as a wife) would be this: what if he thinks about her while he is making love to me... when he masturbates... What if he wants it again, or more. Yeah I see where you're coming from. I guess it's a different issue stemming from the original problem. And yes, I'd also share your concerns. *Shrug* what can I say? Unfortunately, the chances of her shaking her ass throughout his fantasies have obviously taken a massive increase . A few seconds of mildly arousing contact? So what? You can probably have a quickie (mildly arousing or otherwise) in less than 60 seconds. What difference does it make? Is being pressed against a stranger at a concert or on public transit cheating? No, because it isn't really intentional. Anyway, I doubt a naked or g-string enclad stranger would be allowed on public transport (dunno about the concert thing though - depends which band's playing) . Masturbation? Depends. If you're so insecure that you can't handle your H having a lap dance once, I guarantee that you would not be able to handle being in his head when he has personal alone time. Regardless, there's a fairly big difference between what's in his head and what's actually rubbing it's naked body over him. Horses for courses - some people are fine with their SO fantasising and getting lapdances, some are only ok with the fantasising, some (like me) are not fine with either. Link to post Share on other sites
Chewy2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Share Posted June 16, 2007 If i find out my fiance went to a strip club, and touched another naked woman he will be out the door in a flasd. I mean if the roles were turned around and a naked man whos 24 years old gave you a lap dance and you touched him all over? Will your husband like it? And would he react the same? Or would he brush it off? I mean if he feels that he needs to touch another woman why is he with you? I sometimes would like to touch another man but you certainly dont act on it especially if you have the correct morals of what crossing the line in the relationship, and are concerned about how the other person would feel if you commited that act and they find out. He didnt care. And the vow of "i promise to be faithfull" plays a huge role, his definition of being faithfull is completely different to yours. If a man needs to go to a strip club in the first place, then there is something wrong in the relationship. Why would anyone in a relationship go to these clubs is beyond me even if they are curious, even if they are happy in the relationship. Even if its a bachelor party a man who trully loves his wife to be or fiance would have been brave enough to say " No, sorry i dont want a lap dance as my wife to be can give me one" Or "He can just say, no i just like to watch i have a wife or im getting married etc". If they need to have a bachelor party why are they getting married in the first place? Isnt it for men who isnt married ? Meaning of Bachelor: A bachelor is a man above the age of majority who has never been married (see single). So obviouly these parties are for men who is not married or is single. Why are men having these bachelor parties when they are in a relationship? It is moraly wrong isnt it? Couldnt they have a party which was more meaningfull like at a friends house with budies ? After all hes going to see a beautifull woman and have sex with a woman who is getting married to him after the wedding right? Thats the reason why hes marrying her right, the woman who he out the ring on the finger ? No ? hmmmm Some men are stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
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