Author StayClose Posted April 13, 2007 Author Share Posted April 13, 2007 And that happiness is determining by many things, an agenda much broader than sex That is true, but sex is a significant factor in happiness, even if it's not the only one. To say that sex is not that important is like saying that air conditioning is not important in a car. A car with no A/C will get you around efficiantly and safely, but if you lived in Florida or Texas would you be happy with a car with no A/C? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 And that happiness is determining by many things, an agenda much broader than sex Wait a minute... hold the phone... You mean you can feel happiness through things other than sex??? NO WAY! Dude. WTF have I been missing out on? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.. So you mean to tell me that you can have fun talking, or just hanging out, or going to the movies together? Are you serious? A brand new world full of amazing possibilities lays shining and bright before me not unlike the smile of an infant or the meow of a kitten. Well, then CLEARLY sex is unimportant to a relationship. Thank you for opening my eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 I've been married for about 2 1/2 years, this is nuts, we don't have sex. There is nothing wrong with him, we are together all the time. I know he doesn't cheat, but it makes me think about it. I was very active before we got married. It is killing me. I've gained so much weight due to the lack there of. I'm just not happy. Link to post Share on other sites
LabradorsGalor Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Wait a minute... hold the phone... You mean you can feel happiness through things other than sex??? NO WAY! Dude. WTF have I been missing out on? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.. So you mean to tell me that you can have fun talking, or just hanging out, or going to the movies together? Are you serious? A brand new world full of amazing possibilities lays shining and bright before me not unlike the smile of an infant or the meow of a kitten. Well, then CLEARLY sex is unimportant to a relationship. Thank you for opening my eyes. Tanbark I had to laugh along with your response and healthy dose of sarcsm to Ms. Jane's response. Sex and intimacy are so intertwind and woven in tapestry or a relationship and marriage. Pulling the thread of sex from that tapestry unravles the marriage or at least tatters it at best to use a bad rug analogy. My wife and I struggle with sex and intimacy and have done so throughout our 10 year sexless marriage. Neither of us feel satisfied in the relationship or very close to one another. My wife tries to downplay the importance of sex and has even pointed to the same news story in the first post on this thread. I have been made to feel like an oversexed person or that our relationship is normal and that my expectations of sex more than 1x a month is unreasonable. (I want to point out that its not only the frequency of our sexlife but the routiness of it that is problematic - its a quality as well as frequency issue). I consider myself an intelligent person, but I am very uncertain and confused about what is reasonable to expect in terms of sex in a marriage because of the way my wife has made me feel in the past. I'm starting to wonder and maybe realize that I'm not so unreasonable in my expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 I'm starting to wonder and maybe realize that I'm not so unreasonable in my expectations. And hopefully, she feels she's not unreasonable in her expectations from you as well. Most of the time if you give right much to your relationship you get back what it is you give. But theres an expection, sometimes people can give and give and give, and get nothing in return. Those who get nothing in return it could very well be that that person who does not give back either is showing you what they feel you lack you're doing in the marriage too, or they simply do not care. Link to post Share on other sites
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